Feng Tang: Do what you think is right and let go of worrying about winning or losing!

The modern pace of life seems to bring us not a higher quality of life, but more anxiety and uneasiness.

This is because we always have this feeling deep down: If we slow down, it will be difficult to keep up with the pace of the times.

But in fact, everyone has his own rhythm of life. A life that seems slower than others will not lack depth or be less exciting. It is also a life lived in our own unique style.

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At the age of 47, Feng Tang wrote a new book "Fearless".

Feng Tang said that he has always been a good boy. You must be a good student when you go to school, and you must be a good employee and consultant when you work. For decades, you have been in a state of being "serious, responsible, and dedicated." Every day, you feel like you are facing an abyss, walking on thin ice, and living in fear!

Standing at the midpoint of life, looking back on the past and looking at the future, Feng Tang said: "Live in this world, don't be afraid of anything, do what you think is right, and slowly let go of winning and losing and calculation. . ”

This is fearlessness.

When people reach middle age, they can better understand this fearless state, and they can better understand his nine-character mantra: Don't be anxious, don't be afraid, be shameless.

Don’t be anxious, it’s your attitude towards time. After you have done the hard work, you can wait for the results with peace of mind. There is no need to be anxious.

Not being afraid is your attitude towards the results. After you have worked hard enough and been patient enough, don’t be afraid of the results.

Shameless is the attitude towards him. Just try your best and don't care what others say.

The only thing you can control is yourself, and all the factors that cannot be controlled are left to him. "The flowers are blooming all over the branches, and the flowers are falling from thousands of branches. There is only one flower left, and it will be with the wind tomorrow."

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In this life, what is success?

There was a little boy who was not very smart when he was studying and was not good at any of the liberal arts and sciences. I failed the college entrance examination again, so I had to go to a junior college in Taiwan to study an unpopular major. It was the path only children who had no way out at that time would choose.

Later he went abroad to study, but his relatively introverted character repeatedly encountered obstacles abroad.

After graduation, I failed to find a job. Even if he was looking after the warehouse or doing odd jobs, he couldn't do it well. He was clumsy and made a lot of jokes. Therefore, he stayed at home for six years, and his wife was solely responsible for the family's financial resources.

Nearly 40 years old and still accomplishing nothing. Just when he was about to despair, his scripts "Pushing Hands" and "The Wedding Banquet" won awards in Taiwan.

He is Ang Lee. The first Asian director to win the Academy Award twice, and the first Chinese director to win the Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film.

His wife commented on him: If he didn’t make movies, Ang Lee would be a dead man.

Everyone’s path is actually different. There is no need to use others as a reference to evaluate yourself.

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From another level, success is actually a false proposition.

The "2017 Hurun Wealth Report" shows that only 1 out of every 940 people in mainland China is a multi-millionaire, and only 1 out of every 14,000 people is a billionaire;

Wang Jianlin said that 100 million is a small goal, but less than one in 10,000 people in the country can achieve the "small goal".

Do you think that 99% of people are successful, but you are the one who failed?

Wrong! People with 99% will fail, and people with 1% will succeed.

But we don’t have to be depressed about it. Because what others think of as failure is likely to be the success that you envy; and the failure in your eyes is likely to be the success in the eyes of others.

Depending on the subject, the results obtained will naturally be different.

If you are not a 985 or 211 graduate, you are not even qualified for an interview. You think you have failed. And when your work performance exceeds 90% of the 985 graduates, you will still think you have failed. Is it?

You can’t find investors to start a business, the project has never paid back, and you see that many of your friends around you have already driven Porsches. You think you have failed, but when your startup company survives safely After three years of magic, when you have achieved financial freedom, will you still think that you have failed?

Success is a kind of contrast. In any era and country, if success is measured by wealth, then success will be There are never less than 1 people. So as long as you make progress compared to the past, it is a success.

No matter what you do, as long as you insist on not retreating and making today better than yesterday and tomorrow better than today, it is already a success.

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A person’s greatest success is to find the rhythm of his or her own life, discover the joy of life, live in peace with oneself, and satisfy one’s heart.

We don’t need to use anyone else’s time node as our own node, nor do we need to use anyone else’s results as our own reference.

Feng Tang said in "Fearless": "The success I define is to make good use of one's own material with peace of mind, whether it is useful or useless, it is the same. I feel that as a person, , he is very successful.”

To do this, you need to learn to be mentally strong and “don’t be anxious, don’t be afraid, and be shameless.” Have your own rhythm and direction. Don’t take someone else’s pace or direction as a reference.

Do not regard working and making money as the absolute goal in life. Ask yourself what really brings you happiness, find it, and stick to it.

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