He said he loved me as a joke.

In fact, his intervention is already affecting your family. If you really love you, you shouldn't ruin your marriage. Put yourself in others' shoes. What would you think if people outside your family were exposed to such a role? So, take care of yourself, control your heart and control your life. If you and your family can't live any longer, no one can care what happens after you leave. By the way, there are many ways for men to chase women. It's not difficult to make a joke. Just copy and paste, but it will touch you a lot. So you must figure it out for yourself. It's best to make it clear to him once and for all, let him know that you don't need him in your marriage life, and don't let the other side have hope.