Essay on Boiling Frogs in Warm Water

Life, like boiling a frog in warm water, is too late when you find it. What makes us slowly relax our vigilance and muddle along in the tempering of life? Think that what you have must already belong to yourself, brand yourself and demand your own exclusivity, and life should and will surely get better and better.

However, when you complain about how busy your work is, how trivial your life is, and how disproportionate interpersonal communication, interaction, care, giving and getting are, do you realize that some things are disappearing quietly? Just as the power supply of a mobile phone slowly turns negative, it has been in a state of consumption from the beginning. If you don't charge it, it will only run out.

Some colleagues complained that after three years of marriage and having children, they suddenly found that their feelings with their husbands were gradually gone, or even there was no love at all. But it's only been three years, and it's hard to imagine how to spend the rest of my life. Because of love, mutual trust and combination, and then the crystallization of love was born, so the living conditions have been in a state of consumption, and neither of them has changed, or one party has changed its progress, while the other party is still in a state of standing still, or because of marriage, it has relaxed its vigilance and become numb. When we are together, we don't dress ourselves up, nor do we dress up as if we were in a hurry to go to an appointment during our love. We choose clothes, look in the mirror and fantasize about each other with that joy and anxiety. Although sometimes dating is not as romantic and full of surprises as expected, occasional accidents can still make people happy. Married life presents the truest side to each other. Eating and drinking Lazarus, all fireworks, actually test not the degree of mutual love, but the suitability of each other's personalities. Marriage is a long running-in state, and love is a surprise, which quickly urges us to get close to each other. When we truly combine, we will find and enlarge things other than love.

The work pressure in modern society is so great that you can't relax and catch your breath. The housework is heavy, and every day seems endless. Your love can't be returned. If you accumulate for a long time, you will complain constantly. Whether marriage has lost its original intention, it turns out that it is just an interdependent lifestyle. In this cruel real society, two people rely on each other to keep warm, and then reproduce the next generation. Close together, heart to heart can be called home. If one of them has two hearts, the family is bound to the other. My heart is gone, and I'm not with you. You seem to be an unloved third party in the world of love. Even if he came first, he had his body and mind and love, shared each other's joys and sorrows, and stayed with each other for a long time. However, things that feel instantly can't be erased sometimes, and you can't get them back without them. If one day he doesn't love anymore, the vows of eternal love are actually just passing away, even if he says love. It has nothing to do with dignity, but the heart is dead without love. Existence is just a self-deception joke. Even if you are the owner of the East Palace, you can't beat the deep love of others.

The root cause is that marriage is a long relationship. Therefore, it is very important to find a person with a good world outlook and moral quality. Such a person will not allow others, otherwise he will become a victim of morality. His hatred and contempt can often put an end to some temptations in the bizarre world, and often condemn himself before others condemn himself. However, the so-called external temptation exists. Does it just prove that the source of temptation you once had has been slowly consumed and become unattractive? Once there is no temptation, he has no mind to please with his body and mind, and he is even less willing to spend a penny for those who have passed. The fundamental reason is that human beings are actually courting their own species, even if they love another person, they are also courting themselves, and they need and enjoy that kind of precipitation in the state of obsessed pursuit of another person. Once this state is satisfied, it is like a child getting a long-awaited toy, which will be dirty, broken and then discarded one day.

Some seemingly good family relationships are terrible when they suddenly break out. Once they are triggered, they must be on the verge of collapse. The more educated people are, the more painful they are. Because of their good education, they can't lose their temper at work. In life, they should always be patient, make sacrifices and submit to humiliation because of a good education. It seems that accommodation is right. They are always inferior. Don't be angry when you should be. It is considered impolite when it is time to get angry. When you have a hysterical attack, it's actually a very bad time. Who knows how she managed to be gentle and submit to humiliation for so long? In front of people, the wind is light and the clouds are light, and everything doesn't matter. It turns out that no one can escape the curse of life. It never favors anyone, nor will it let anyone live that fairy tale life. Fairy tales only exist in people's fantasies. What is the reality? Who knows?

People who like to wear simple clothes without too much emotional fetters, travel whenever they want, do some simple exercises in private, occasionally go to the bookstore to buy some paper books, and sit on the sofa for a long time without feeling tired. I never disturb others at night, and I won't see any news about him in the WeChat group. He won't let people know his loneliness and happiness. Everything is only shared with yourself and people who have personal relationships. I don't show off my life, I don't blindly follow life, I just want to be a simple and simple person. This kind of person is very self-centered and rarely disturbed by others. Life must be simple, calm and orderly.

Regarding feelings, do you want to restrain yourself? People who know how to control themselves will always win that kind of life. Don't be too attached to a certain emotion, which may be the first thing you must learn when you grow up.