What should I do if I am urged to get married in the New Year?

After the Spring Festival, everyone began to flee from Beishangguang and return to their hometown. I believe that one of the most painful things for everyone after returning to China is to face their relatives and urge them to get married.

It's really annoying to urge marriage. I read a joke on the Internet. A girl was bored to death by her parents urging her to get married. She told her parents frankly that she likes women. As a result, her parents not only didn't get annoyed, but also let her have a baby. It's funny and angry.

Of course, not only ordinary girls, but also female stars can not escape the fate of urging marriage. Recently, Mabel Yuan in the reality show "My Daughter" was frequently urged to get married by relatives and friends, and even called "the older woman" by male stars. I can't figure it out. A woman who is at the top of the pyramid, excellent and hard-working, has value and money, and even has to be measured by secular society. What is the value standard of "not getting married = failing"?

Being forced to get married during the Spring Festival is not only a family problem, but also the elimination and backwardness of the whole social values. Today, I had a whim and wrote a guide to prevent marriage during the Spring Festival and gave it to the girls who came home during the Spring Festival.

First, you have to understand one thing. Relatives ask you about getting married, not because they care about you, but because relatives in their hometown are really free.

There is nothing to do at ordinary times except Chinese New Year. The only hobby is gossiping about people around you. You went back to your hometown from Beishangguangshen and undertook the first topic of chatting with relatives after dinner.

Has the salary increased?

Is the rent in Beijing high?

When can I sign in?

All the problems you don't want to face should be dealt with directly during the Spring Festival.

What should we do?

My first method: blow your mouth, blow if you can. Q: Did your salary go up?

Correct answer: Yes, we have got 20 months' salary this year. However, the boss asked us to continue our studies, and I spent all my money on classes! My salary is very high, but I use it to invest in my study so that my relatives can avoid borrowing money.

Q: Are you in love?

Correct answer: Yes, the target is engaged in finance with a monthly salary of 50,000.

Q: Wow, when are you getting married?

Correct answer: It depends on our future plans. After all, our family business is very big, and getting married is also very troublesome. We are discussing.

Q: When you want to have children, you are old enough.

Correct answer: pregnant, take vitamin ABCD, next year! Hey, look at this vitamin. It's good for keeping healthy.

In short, making up a story suitable for relatives to talk about you after dinner and coping with the past is the first move to prevent marriage during the Spring Festival.

Secondly, in the face of urging marriage, we can use high-energy field to fight low-energy field. In other words, pass on your knowledge and professional ability, and let your relatives open their eyes and see the world.

Some time ago, I heard a story about a girl coming home:

A 30-year-old girl, who worked hard from 0 to 1, drove back to her hometown with a sports car full of gifts for her relatives to choose from. Family dinner has simply become a "money-making struggle sharing meeting."

She vividly told the whole family about her struggle history, how to fight with customers and suppliers, the nervousness and excitement when going abroad for the first time, the excitement of buying luxury bags for the first time, and the pride of owning a team for the first time, which made her relatives in her hometown excited.

After returning home during the Spring Festival, the girl not only didn't face the pressure of urging marriage, but also turned the family reunion into an investment promotion meeting and became a beacon for the whole village to get rich. I want to share with you my method of patting my forehead, so that everyone can understand that what we have to learn in the end is the ability to be responsible for our own lives, compared with the pressure of urging marriage and the chanting of our families.

I remember a point mentioned in Qi Ba Shuo:

China people are easily kidnapped by filial piety, and tolerating others' own choices is an attitude that our society needs most at present. Therefore, all we ask is to keep our own space and let the children make their own choices. "

Think about it, then what is the purpose of marriage?

Frankly speaking, many people are in a daze when they get married, because they are temporarily moved, because they are relieved of their poor living conditions, and because of the pressure of their parents, there are thousands of reasons and opportunities to get married, but few people want to know exactly what kind of life they want.

When you have a career and hobby you like, a clear goal in life and a refreshing life, you will know how to choose a man who keeps pace with you and has the same views. Marriage at this time is called strong alliance.

When you don't know yourself and your life and career are at a loss, you only catch shrimps and choose men at random. This kind of marriage is called redemption at most.

Only when you are 30 years old, will you find that most girls in this world, without the capital of Yuqi Zhang and the beauty of YCY, can make money down-to-earth, live their own lives and have the confidence to be single at any time, which will make your life invincible forever.

A woman who doesn't know herself is equally puzzled when she enters marriage.

What should friends and parents do?

After watching the reality show, Mabel Yuan, as a first-line entertainer in the entertainment circle, got up early to run and actively studied English and economics, which was quite self-disciplined and interesting. Obviously, he lives a life that we all envy, but he has to suffer from a series of disrespect from his parents and friends.

Bao Beier kept asking Mabel Yuan to find a boyfriend, asking her what housework she would do, complaining about her messy room and talking about her wife's ability and virtue, while Ham teased Mabel Yuan as an "older woman". Excuse me, is the communication between friends so boring now?

To tell the truth, as a friend, we must allow and tolerate all kinds of living conditions, and don't judge others' lives with our own values and living conditions. After all, getting married or not does not mean living a good life, let alone a perfect life.

Marriage is not a master key, it won't make you beautiful or rich, so what's there to show off about marriage?

As for parents, I hope you can understand that there are really many ways for children to be happy. Marriage is not the only way to happiness. Obedience is not filial piety, and marriage is not for carrying on the family line.

We work hard to make money, live hard and work hard to make ourselves better and make our marriage icing on the cake, instead of making ourselves a walking uterus, so that the feelings we reach will be healthy and long-lasting.

In the face of urging marriage, I hope you can still be calm and firm and fight back with the RMB in your savings. Living in the way you like is the best life.

I hope you have a good life, not a "good life" in the eyes of others.