Why more and more men and women don’t want to get married

Many people around me have said that if it were not for the pressure from their parents, they really would never get married in their lifetime.

I once regarded love as the whole of life, enjoying the nourishment of love and the company of my lover. Later, I no longer regarded love as a necessity for myself, and love became more and more dispensable. Lower expectations are the reason why most people don’t want to get married. Of course, in addition to this, there are many practical reasons that prevent young people from entering marriage.

For men, their rejection of marriage is also obvious, and these practical reasons have to be faced squarely.

The cost of marriage is too high

Nowadays, there is too much pressure to get married. Houses, cars, and bride price are all standard for marriage. The pressure of getting married is entirely on the man.

The bride price often costs hundreds of thousands, and the house costs millions. Some women are sensible and may even agree to let the man pay a down payment and both parties repay the mortgage together. However, some women will speak loudly and demand When a man buys a fully paid house, a lot of love ends up being lost in the betrothal gifts and the house.

For most ordinary families, marrying a wife is a task that requires all the money in the family to be completed. It requires all the hard-earned money of the parents who have worked hard for a lifetime. If it is not enough, they will also be in debt. , most people are living in debt. Although parents are willing to give to their children regardless of any return, some families are really powerless.

There is a boy next to me. His parents are farmers. He has worked hard all his life. The money he earned was just to support the family. He didn’t have much spare money in his hands. Later, his father gave birth to a child. After an operation due to illness, he not only spent all his savings, but also owed foreign debts. The boy worked hard and made progress, and saved enough for the down payment alone. Later, when it came time to talk about marriage, the girl did not have a house. She was unwilling to marry, so the marriage fell through.

In the face of reality, the so-called love turned into a joke in the end. He and the girl had been together for many years, but in the end they were defeated in material matters. What's more, many people now know each other through blind dates. They met under a specific environment, and there is not much emotional basis. The first step is to look at the other person's conditions. A house has become a must. As long as this is not met, marriage will be far away.

For men, in many cases it’s not that they don’t want to get married, but that they can’t afford it. When you think about the conditions that are stated on the surface and you cannot meet them, you will be discouraged.