How tiring will it be to raise two children by one person?

I am a mother of two children, and seeing everyone’s answers, I really feel the same way. It should be accurate to say that when I was pregnant with my younger daughter, I took my eldest daughter with me, and that’s when I started raising two children by myself. It was just that at that time, my sister was more obedient and would follow me wherever I went (in my belly, it was okay not to follow me). My sister hasn’t really felt like she has multiple sisters in her life.

Three months after the birth of my sister, my sister returned to the family. The life of a family of four has officially begun. My younger sister has to get up late at night to drink milk. She is afraid that it will affect her sister's sleep, so she sleeps alone in the same bed. I sleep with my sister and visit her from time to time in the middle of the night. Dad has to work shifts and sleeps on the sofa in order to ensure a good rest! The family of four sleeps in three places.

When the sun rises, it means the busy days of a mother of two begin! Staring at the sleepy eyes, he began to cook for the second child. The food for both children is different. The eldest child was over 2 years old at the time and was not very good at eating. I warmed the milk for my sister, fed her with one hand, and fed my sister with the other hand. Then I had two bites of rice and started shopping at the market. The younger daughter was lying in the car, and the older daughter was leading the way. While picking the food, I worry about the boss not to run too far. While thinking about what to eat for lunch, it was really easy to hear and see in all directions. Are there any mothers of two children? After buying the groceries, I hugged my sister in one hand and carried the groceries in the other while urging my sister to go upstairs quickly. Then go downstairs to put the car away. At that time, I was on the fifth floor of my house.

When I get home, I unload and put away the vegetables and prepare lunch. During this period, the boss will ask you to play with her. After eating, you can take a nap. But the boss is in great spirits, but he just won't sleep. You are so sleepy again. Then one eye is open, looking at the boss from time to time, and one eye is closed to accompany the little one to rest, like an owl, are you there?

The eldest son has never been sent to kindergarten. It can be said that he watched his younger sister grow up. Gradually, children learn to express, compare, be dissatisfied, lose their temper, quarrel, argue... these things fill your entire life. You are on the verge of collapse, you are so tired! And when your second child is sick, you feel like you have been given a blood injection. You can work around the clock for 24 hours without getting tired. As long as your child is fine, you can be as naughty as usual. Woolen cloth! Does anyone have any!

There are endless lawsuits and endless clues every day. As a mother of two children, I am both tired and happy! After all, not everyone has this kind of experience, so save it and experience it slowly!

I am a full-time mother, raising two boys at home. The eldest baby will be 4 years old at the end of this year, and the second baby is just one year old.

Raising children is really tiring. No matter how tired you are physically, your heart is even more tired from being tormented by your children all day long, and your body is exhausted. The happiest moment of being a stay-at-home mother is when both children are asleep at night, and I feel like that’s when I have a little time of my own to take a good rest.

When Dabao was a child before, I didn’t feel too tired. I just made delicious food for him all day long, played with him for a while, and took Dabao out for walks when I had time. It felt pretty good. of.

After the second baby was born, life changed completely. The second baby cried and the eldest baby shouted. He was so busy all day long. He held the second baby or accompanied the eldest baby. Where did he want to play? , you have to take him with you, otherwise when the eldest baby cries, the second baby will also cry when his brother cries, and he will not be able to resist.

Now that Dabao is older, more sensible, and a little better, he also knows that I need to hold my brother all day long, so it is not so tedious, and he can feel more relaxed mentally.

What I fear most is that my children will get sick. Usually the eldest child catches a cold, and the second child also catches a cold. I take my child to see a doctor by myself, and the child cries while waiting in line for registration. Sometimes I collapse just thinking about it. Now I hope the most The only thing is that the children will grow up quickly.

I don’t know how I got through it... My son gave birth to a daughter when he was 2 and a half years old. After my mother stayed with me for confinement, she sent me back, and that’s when I started raising two children by myself. The distance of the baby... My husband is very busy at work, and sometimes he leaves before the baby wakes up. When he comes back, the baby is already asleep... He is with me 24 hours a day, and I always feel that the baby is very pitiful. The younger daughter is young and not sensible. She needs to eat well, drink well and not be cold. The son is already older and has his own thoughts. Although he is only two and a half years old, before giving birth, he always said that his sister was in his mother's belly. Inside, my brother likes his sister, and my son always feels relieved when he says this. However, after the delivery was over and the day he came home from the hospital, he was okay, but the next day he started to be uncooperative. Before I gave birth, my son had already I know how to go to my own toilet to relieve myself, and no longer wear crotchless pants. Now I can urinate everywhere... I want to pee, but I don't say anything and don't go to my own toilet, just on my pants. I'm really upset, so I do it again. He was wearing open pants, and now he was peeing everywhere unscrupulously and throwing toys everywhere... He must be thinking, why do I always hold my sister and don't play with him... It makes me feel bad to see him like that , and scolded him cruelly without giving up. Every time I just said, I am still in confinement at this time, and it is also difficult for my mother. I still had a caesarean section, take care of me, take care of the older one, take care of the younger one... son. It lasted for about half a month, and then it got much better. Originally, when my son was one year old, he slept in his own crib next to the big bed. Now he has to sleep with me... I I don’t need my mother to accompany me, I just take care of the two of them by myself. I turn around here to breastfeed, and here I turn to cover the eldest child with a quilt...

After sending my mother home, I didn’t wake up until the baby woke up in the morning. I got up before, made breakfast for my husband and son, and tidied up the house. When I almost finished cleaning up, my children woke up and started dressing them, washing them, eating breakfast, and doing laundry. Except for the particularly dirty hands, I did everything else. Washing machine... I would wash clothes when the child takes a nap... In the past, my son could eat by himself, half full, and I would just feed him a few mouthfuls... Now I always feel sorry for the child, so I have to feed him all the time again. ...Invisibly, I have added more fatigue to myself... I will finish cleaning up around 9 o'clock, and then I will play with my child... I still feel sorry for my son... Because I can't go downstairs, can't go outdoors, and stay at home every day, I I bought a lot of toys online and decorated the children's room like a playground. However, after the child's excitement wore off, he was still bored... Occasionally, my husband would come home early and take the children to the supermarket in the evening. ... This has become my son's only outdoor activity... The children are getting older. Now, my son is 3 years old and 3 months old, and my daughter is 8 months old. My son also goes back to sleep in his own bed, but occasionally he still wakes up in the middle of the night. He came over to sleep with me, but he still had to rely on me to feed him. Every day he fed his son a bite and his daughter a bite. My son became more sensible. When my daughter cried, she would call me and say, "Mom, comfort my sister." Mom, my sister can't find her mother... When my sister drools, my brother will help her clean it up. It's really tiring to raise two children alone... But the occasional warmth will make everything worth it...

< p> I bathe two babies by myself, and I have also done super dangerous things. Because my husband is too busy, there is no food in the house. It’s okay for me not to eat, but it’s not okay for the children not to eat vegetables... I just take care of the two. When the child is asleep, turn on the home camera and tablet video, and watch their activities at the same time. The children cannot be placed in the same room, because if one wakes up and cries, the other will be woken up, so we separated the two rooms. After that, I quickly ran to the gate of the community to buy a lot of fruits and vegetables, which were stored for almost a week... My family has a lot of grains and oils. My friends said that my family is like wholesale every time. This is true... Because I don’t have time to go out and buy, I just shop online if I can. I haven’t bought vegetables online before, and almost everything else is done online. The delivery guys from JD.com, SF Express, and Suning’s delivery guys are not advertising for them. , I am really grateful to them. They help me deliver it to my home every time. They all know that I have two little kids. Every time I buy rice, I need 5 bags and 2 barrels of oil. It is super heavy. The courier has made several trips to help me move it. ...

I can hardly remember what I did every day. I just came here. My son will be able to go to kindergarten soon, and I feel much more relaxed. But I was discharged from the hospital after giving birth to my daughter. At that time, my weight was 174 pounds, and on the first day of the new year, it was 105 pounds. I went back to my parents’ house on the second day of the new year. I came back yesterday. In half a month, I weighed all the way to 110... Hahahaha, when I came back yesterday, my mother brought various

What we grow to eat... can be as small as a dragon fruit, or as large as a whole table of vegetables... (our hometown will make eight large bowls during the Chinese New Year), so many large and small... I almost moved my house here... I can't stop crying. Wandering around... Parents love and care for their children so much. I dared to shed tears only after I got in the car, and that was it. My mother also called and said that I forgot to bring this, I forgot to bring that... I will not honor my parents for the rest of my life. , God cannot tolerate it

I just think that raising a baby alone can make the baby more familiar with life. When I was a son, he was the only one who would often stay and go out for a walk. Now there are two, and it is winter again. , the weather was also cold, and I felt like I couldn’t carry two of them, so my youngest daughter didn’t see many people. When I went back to my mother’s house this time, she suddenly saw so many strange people, and she kept crying. She would squeak even if she didn’t cry. Ye, she was having a good time, but she would cry as soon as I got up, and she would cry when she couldn't see me... The child was so insecure that she couldn't live without me for a second...

Holding the child in one hand while going to the toilet, holding the child in one hand while cooking... As long as you can think of it... When working, there must be children around you. Holding the child in one hand, organizing the wardrobe with the other, It’s almost over. The boss comes over, makes a few messes, and then has to rearrange them... When I hold my daughter, my son will ask for a hug. He often holds my daughter in front of me and my son on my back...

In short, it is really tiring for one person to raise two children, but if you are more positive, it will ease a lot. However, you must have a husband who loves you and loves your family... This will make everything feel more comfortable...

By the way, it should be said that I am raising three children on one hand, and I also have a five-and-a-half-month-old Bichon Frize at home... bathing, combing, shoveling poop...

My three Little one

The first few years were really tiring. My two children were 16 months apart and hadn’t had a good night’s sleep in five years. It’s my first daughter. It’s okay to have one. I only need to get up two or three times at night. I was very tired when I gave birth to my son! She loves to cry very much. She sleeps for two to three hours all day long and cries for half an hour. My husband only has time to take care of the two children when he comes back from get off work at night. Fortunately, neither of the two children will say that as long as I take care of them, my husband and I both have to take care of them. . My son didn't cry so much when he was seven or eight months old. When I had to do housework, I put him in the walker. My daughter would also help coax her brother, which made her feel a lot more relaxed. When I turn one year old, I can talk and walk, I can talk about anything I feel uncomfortable or want, and I am not so tired anymore. When my son was three years old and my daughter was over four, I was sent to kindergarten. I also found a job. It happened that my husband didn’t have to work overtime in the factory that year, from 8 to 11:30, and from 1:30 to 5:30 in the afternoon. He got off work half an hour late, so that year it was my husband who would pick up and drop off the kids, buy groceries, and cook. If I had to work overtime, he would wash the kids and their clothes. If I didn’t work overtime, he would wash the dishes and mop the floor while I did the laundry. Then we were a family of four. Go out for a spin. After the child went to kindergarten for two years, the boss asked my husband to count the months and basically have to work overtime. My daughter also went to elementary school. He sent her to me in the morning. I found another factory and explained that I had a child. I pick my daughter up from get off work at 1 o'clock, buy groceries, and cook. I drop her off at 1 o'clock before going to work. At 4 o'clock, I pick up my daughter and son and go home. Then I return to the factory and work until 6 o'clock. The house I rented is quite safe and has cameras. With the security guard there, I feel relieved. I just felt very tired. I ran around and lay down several times a day. That year I felt even more tired than when my son was born. Then a year later, we found another house, which was very close to the elementary school. My son also went to elementary school. They went back by themselves. I worked normally for nine hours. In the summer, I got up at 6 a.m. to buy groceries. In the winter, I I go shopping for groceries after get off work at six in the afternoon, but my husband still goes out at about seven in the morning and returns home at ten in the evening. His factory is twenty minutes away by bike from the rental house, and my factory is five minutes away from home. Now that my daughter is over nine years old, she feels much more relaxed than before. Both children help with housework. In summary, having two children is very tiring, but I don’t regret it. I didn’t get married and just wanted to have two children. It feels even worse to have two children after a long time. I finally can sleep peacefully and another one comes out. I won’t be able to bear it. I might as well so. Everything is better now, and all aspects of life are getting better and better...

This kind of tiredness really cannot be expressed in a few words. Many people think that I have a complete life with a son and a woman, but only I understand the hardships involved. This kind of tiredness is not the physical tiredness caused by trivial matters such as washing, cooking, firewood, rice, cooking oil, and salt. On the contrary, these things now seem to me to be a kind of rest, a way to clear my ears and calm my mind. I am really tired. Most of all, I am mentally tired.

Not to mention that the future of work makes people confused from time to time, nor to say that in order not to be out of touch with society, we have to constantly squeeze in time to recharge and learn various improvements, but just to deal with various disputes between two children every day , fighting wits and courage with the children, accompanying them to various studies, activities, visits, and games. Arranging all these has already made me physically and mentally exhausted. It is really difficult for me not to become stronger.

How tiring will it be to raise two children by one person?

I am in this state now, and my eldest daughter is about one year and eight months pregnant with my second child! The baby is now more than four months old! Dabao is just over two years old!

After the baby was one month old, I took care of the two children by myself! So most of the time, Dabao is making trouble and Xiaobao is crying!

Every day I feel that I can only have some quiet time when they are sleeping, otherwise I am busy all day and my ears can’t be quiet!

I am busy from morning to night every day, and it is impossible to have time to dress up. Sometimes I don’t have time to go to the toilet, so I can only think in my heart that it will be fine when they all go to school! No matter how painful my heart is, I can only get through it!

This is what life is like for two children who are so different! It would be better to wait until Dabao goes to kindergarten to have a second child!

The above is a portrayal of my life! You can talk about your life with your second child.

This is what I am like now, renting a house alone and my husband works out of town! The eldest daughter is six years old this year, and the younger daughter is one year old! The first few months after the birth were miserable. They had to pick up and drop off the eldest daughter, buy groceries, cook and clean up. These were nothing. The most difficult thing was that when the two daughters fell ill at the same time, they were really exhausted. One time, the younger daughter had a high fever and died. Over and over again, the kindergarten called to tell me that my eldest daughter had a fever and diarrhea. At that time, I really wanted to collapse! You can't get sick now because no one can help you if you fall down. It's very painful!

I am a mother of two children. My two sons are two years apart, one is seven years old and the other is five years old. Lively and cute, but also often naughty and giving me a headache! My mother-in-law is famous in the village for being unreasonable and unloving, and has a bad temper. I don’t dare to expect her to take care of me. If she doesn’t come to me to quarrel and fight, I will be like Amitabha!

I was only 19 years old when I was pregnant with Dabao. For girls in the city, some may still act like a spoiled child, but I took on the role of a mother. I suffered from morning sickness until more than five months, which was a waste to others. He was in disgrace, his face was sallow and his muscles were thin. He was so exhausted that he could only lie down. When he sat up, stars appeared in his eyes. He couldn't take a mouthful of hot rice. He could only survive on fruit every day! My husband is a careless and inconsiderate man. He often quarrels with me because I complain about my grievances. He has shouted at me several times to take me for an abortion. Think about it, he is such a bastard! I managed to survive six months, and the morning sickness passed. Due to a long-term lack of nutrition and calcium, I often woke up with cramps and pain in the middle of the night. The pain of cramping and bone-pulling would be unforgettable for the rest of my life.

Around eight months old, my whole body was swollen, from my feet to my hands and even my face! The days when my legs hurt when I stand, my back hurts when I sit, and my chest hurts when I lie down! I finally gave birth, but the baby’s umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and the fetus was in an abnormal position. The doctor said he needed a caesarean section, so just do it! I would be happy to die for the sake of my children! The three days after the caesarean section were a hellish life. I had to lie down to eat and drink, and I couldn't move. The next day, the doctor asked me to get out of bed and walk around because I was afraid of intestinal adhesions. The grinning and frowning expression is probably something that most people can’t imitate!

Finally came home from the hospital! Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law and her family abandoned me at home seven days after my operation. Because Dabao’s birthday was the sixth day of the first lunar month, my husband left me alone and I couldn’t take care of myself for a few days after being discharged from the hospital (because the incision of the caesarean section had not healed well, so I couldn’t even lie down on my own). I can’t get up, I don’t dare to push my stomach, and the wound is so stretched that I can’t bear it.) My husband went to visit relatives and friends to celebrate the New Year! My mother-in-law went to the market with her father-in-law to check out the stalls! The child did not feed for a long time, and I did not go to the toilet for a long time. The child was hungry, and I held it in! Facing this cold-blooded, merciless family, I can only sigh! I cried when my husband came back. I shed tears because of my helplessness. I thought that my husband would come back to comfort me, but unexpectedly I was scolded and said that I had too many things to do. They didn't even go to play, they were just trying to survive! You clearly have no sense of responsibility and yet you still make plausible remarks, which is arrogant and unreasonable! When my mother-in-law came, she cursed at the door indiscriminately and said dirty words in front of my parents! What a family of low-class, cold-blooded animals with no education, no quality, and no emotions! For the sake of my children who have been tortured and endured countless hardships, I endured this painful experience that I will never forget for the rest of my life! My mother-in-law saw that I was compromising and compromising, and then she started looking for trouble and provoking all kinds of things unscrupulously! The husband’s incompetence and inaction, the mother-in-law’s meanness and viciousness! Successfully drove me into postpartum depression! I wanted to commit suicide several times and had written a suicide note, but when I heard the cry of my child, I gave up the idea of ??seeking death! Thinking about the fact that my young and ignorant son will have to live with people like them after my death, how can I leave without any worries and irresponsibly! Just when I was struggling, I found out that I was pregnant again, but my husband wouldn't let me. My body knew it. I rarely ate nutritious food after giving birth, and I was depressed and angry for a long time. My physical condition was not good at all. It was suitable for me to get pregnant again and give birth to another child. Considering that the baby was still young, I agreed to the abortion. The day after the operation, my husband quarreled with me over trivial matters. After the abortion, I was so weak that I almost fainted from his anger. I was in pain. When my husband saw me like this, he sent me directly to my parents' house, put me down and hurried home! After my mother-in-law's persuasion, he took me back home after half a month. Before I went back, I cried every day. During this period, no one from my mother-in-law's family came to see me, or even called me! I compromised again for the sake of my children! Unexpectedly, three months after the operation, I would be pregnant again! Oh my God! Is that kid back again? He couldn't bear to leave me and wanted to renew our relationship as mother and son! This time I will keep this child no matter what. I know that in this kind of family, I will never get the care of my elders or the care of my husband until I die. I can only place all my hopes for happiness in When it comes to children, children are everything in my life! The same painful torture, no one to take care of me, I walked on the street with a heavy belly in front of me, and a child who was just over one year old who had just been weaned on my back, and I took the child shopping and cooking alone! When a person takes a child to see a doctor and get an injection, he even has to hold the child with his free hand during the infusion and coax the child to sleep! My mother-in-law said she didn’t want to hear or see my children! In fact, it's just that she has little contact with the children, and the children don't know this biological grandmother. Later, I was about to give birth to my second child, and I really couldn’t carry or take care of the older one. Only after my husband begged did my mother-in-law agree to take care of the second child. During the first few days after we separated, I watched the child there during the day. At night, I looked at the child separately every time. For Dabao and I, it felt like we were parting ways. My mother-in-law let the child cry heartbrokenly, sitting on one side without moving, neither coaxing nor hugging him! The child's little hands slapped the glass on the window, shouting to his mother, "Don't leave!" Crying like a tearful person.

Every time I saw Dabao's child the next day, his eyes were swollen and his voice was hoarse! Although my mother-in-law took care of the child for me, I was not grateful to her at all. As the child's biological grandmother, she not only lacked the kindness and kindness of an elderly person, but also used the child to mentally abuse me and refused to let me take care of the child. The children of the Li family are not allowed to be taken care of by others, so she took care of my children in this way of being ambitious and indifferent to my children! Isn't she afraid of God's retribution?

I was pregnant in October and gave birth to a son safely. When I looked at this cute little guy, I couldn’t help but think of Dabao and how much the child had suffered with his vicious mother-in-law! The mother-in-law is so greedy that she buys snacks for her children every day. She eats whatever she buys for her children! The child is getting thinner and thinner, and she is getting fatter and fatter! My second baby was less than a hundred days old and I went to the fields to cut grass for the sheep. My mother-in-law turned on the fan at home to look after the children, and she told everyone she was good about! When I was working, my clothes were soaked with sweat and milk. I twisted the clothes with my hands and the water flowed out. The sweat was milky white, and the milk kept flowing out. I knew that the child must be hungry at home, because my mother said that the milk would flow out. When the baby is engorged, if the milk is engorged, it means the child is hungry! I hurriedly loaded up the straw and rode the tricycle back. When I got home, my mother-in-law saw me coming back. I didn’t even wash my hands, so she impatiently threw the baby to me and asked me to breastfeed the baby quickly. Mom knew that I was there. My husband's family suffered a lot and often told me some knowledge about taking care of children. If you are sweating, you must cool down your breasts before feeding the child, otherwise the child will have diarrhea after eating hot milk. Every time my mother-in-law hands the child to me, she leaves without looking back. Then I put the child down and let the child cry for a while, because I have to wash my hands, face, breasts, and cool the breasts. When I sit on the sofa Breastfeeding is the most relaxing moment! When the child is full and stops crying and fussing, gently put the child down, change out of all the smelly and sweaty clothes, and put the child's diapers and small clothes, along with Dabao's, husband's, and your own, After washing and drying the clothes separately, it’s time to start cooking after dark!

Day after day, year after year passed like this. I got married on October 22, 2008 in the lunar calendar. It has been nine years since I got married. As a post-90s generation, I became the mother of my first child at the age of 19 and the mother of my second child at the age of 21. Now, at the age of 27, I will soon be the mother of my third child! I am now four months pregnant with a daughter. I am grateful to God for blessing me with two sons and a daughter. I am grateful to God for giving me two lovely and sensible sons. Dabao is seven years old and often helps me wash dishes and pots, fold quilts for bed, and light fires to cook. meal. Erbao is only five years old. He sweeps the floor, arranges the chopsticks and stools for the whole family when eating, carries the urinal in the evening, and empties the urinal in the morning! The two children also said: "Mom, when you give birth to your sister, we will take care of you. You don't have to ask anyone anymore, and you don't need anyone else to take care of you. My brothers and sisters and I love you and will protect you when we grow up." You will never let others bully you again." Looking at the children's cute little faces, innocent eyes, and touching words, I felt heartbroken, emotional, and moved!

Many people say that I am stupid. I am so young and living in such a good era. Why should I suffer so much and live in such misery for the sake of my two children? No one will know in detail what I have experienced in the past ten years. The pain and torture that life has given me are all weathered by time in the laughter of my children and my own tears.

Although a lot of pain has turned into a wound that will be difficult to heal for the rest of my life, I feel that it is worth it for the children! Because they are my roots and the continuation of my life! If a tree's trunk is not strong and its leaves are not lush enough, then its roots are the only thing that can support its survival! I am willing to spend all my youth, let time pass by in a hurry, and still protect my children! Even if there are violent storms, sun and rain, or even if I am completely injured by life, as long as my roots are still there, I will always be by their side! Because in my world, there are only children!

I also have a say in this issue. My eldest is three years old and eight months old, and my second oldest is one year and two months old. They almost all take care of the children by themselves. The eldest girl is very well-behaved and sensible. She also went to kindergarten last year. Yes, the second child is too clingy and not as good in physical condition as the eldest child. I also regret having a second child, especially since they both got pneumonia at the same time a year ago and I almost collapsed. My mother helped me take care of her for two days and she was also infected. Pneumonia, as people get older and their immunity weakens, our family almost doesn’t feel like celebrating the New Year. We spend all the time sick, staying at home and not daring to go anywhere. I almost collapsed. My husband works out of town. I can’t come back. I brought up almost all my children by myself. I don’t ask for anything else. I just hope that my children will grow up healthy, happy and sturdily. I am now afraid that my children will get sick. Really, if you want a second child, you must choose carefully. ! Children's health is better than anything else!