10 Free communication skills

Don't embarrass others in public.

As the saying goes: the truly powerful people please everyone. In the process of interpersonal communication, it is inevitable to meet people you don't like. At this time, please don't embarrass others in any public place. Sometimes what you blurt out may make people feel ashamed and angry. For you, it is not only useless, but also easy to get burned.

Sometimes, you don't know what the other person has experienced at all, and who are you to judge his words and deeds casually? If you really want to remind others of misconduct, you can gently remind them in private.

Try not to talk about work during holidays.

Few people want to stay in the working environment after work. Don't disturb other people's normal holidays unless it is very urgent.

Don't deny when others criticize you.

Must the advice be bad? Many people who dare to criticize you are relatives, friends or superiors who have a good relationship with you. At this time, don't rush to deny and justify. Before you are ashamed and angry, think carefully about what he said, do you really have such problems or shortcomings, and distinguish whether the other person wants to simply hit you or really do you a favor and mention you. The correct way is to control your emotions first and then react.

4. Be specific when praising others.

When praising others, be as specific as possible, and don't just say, "You are so beautiful! You are very virtuous! You're amazing! You are so polite! " Praising specific details will make people feel your sincerity more easily than perfunctory compliments.

For example, to praise a colleague for his good ability, you can say, "You did a good job in PPT. Not only is the picture exquisite and the logic clear, but every detail is taken into account. Can I ask you any questions I don't understand in the future? " The more specific praise, the more people will feel happy.

Don't say anything if you are not sure.

I would rather keep my mouth shut about some uncertain words than say them at random. For example, use these words: maybe, maybe, probably, estimate, hear, sometimes, gossip often becomes a weapon to hurt people because of these uncertain words.

6. Listen carefully to others and don't interrupt.

People often have a strong desire to express themselves. When we talk to others and listen to others, we may think of something. At this time, we can't wait for him to finish immediately, and then it's our turn to express our views. In this process, some people can resist the desire to speak, but it is already difficult to listen carefully. Some people can't help it and start to interrupt directly.

There is a folk saying: "learn to speak in three years, but learn to shut up all your life." Many times, we talk too much and listen too little. Listening carefully when others are talking is the most basic respect and accomplishment.

7. Don't answer someone who quarrels with you.

Whether it is family, colleagues or partners, getting along with others will inevitably lead to contradictions, and the friction is heavy, and the quarrel will follow. But no matter who the other person is, no matter how fierce the other person quarrels with you, here is a way to shorten the quarrel process as soon as possible, and that is: don't answer. He scolds you, you smile and don't talk, which makes him angry and cotton.

He said your shortcomings, and you did your own thing, and it was too late to listen. Don't accept the unreasonable criticism and accusation of the other party easily, but don't resist it in person. It is wisest to communicate effectively after both sides are emotionally stable. Only when you know how to understand and accept yourself can you truly understand and accept others.

Don't talk to others when you feel anxious.

No one likes to be transmitted with negative energy, even the closest people. As an adult, you should learn to digest some anxiety by yourself. If you really can't stand it, don't spit it out with emotion. We can occasionally talk about our worries and worries with friends or relatives, but don't always say the same thing.

9. Don't interfere with other people's choices, but you can offer suggestions.

Sometimes friends will ask you for advice. Since it is a suggestion, we only need to express our understanding and ideas, and there is no need to deny or attack the other party's point of view. You should remember this sentence: don't interfere in anyone's life choice, even if he is your closest relative. After all, no one can afford this consequence.

10, really don't know what to say. I'd rather smile silently.

I'd rather not talk than talk nonsense. If you don't know what to say, there is a best way to deal with it, that is: silent smile. It can help you to resist most social difficulties to a great extent.