Some words really cannot be said! Words need to be spoken carefully so that love can come out

For the people we love most, we know their weaknesses best, so if we want to hurt them, it is easy to kill them with one shot and hit the vital point. That's because they willingly show us their most vulnerable side and give us the most selfless trust, but we must be careful not to waste this trust and say things that we will regret for the rest of our lives. Some things just can't be said. It is sharper than a knife and will leave a mark on your heart that will never disappear.

I saw a speech by Kou Naixin on a video that day. She said that she had used cruel words to hurt the two men she loved most, one was her father and the other was her husband Huang Guolun. At first, her father objected to her dating Huang Guolun. He said to her on the phone one time: "If you really want to date him, I will not recognize you as my daughter." After hearing this, she actually replied: "Okay! What do you think? When is the best time to start?" Her father was so angry that he almost sent him to the hospital for emergency treatment. She regretted it very much afterwards.

Another time when she had a quarrel with Huang Guolun, she said indiscriminately: "How are you worthy of me, Kou Naixin? Do you know that you are divorced and you are second-hand goods!" Huang did not reply, Turning around to pack his luggage, he glanced at her and said, "Naixin, do you know that there are some words that cannot be spoken?" He ran away from home for three days. After Huang Guolun returned home, Kou Naixin hugged him and cried bitterly. She said that the more eloquent a person is, the easier it is to hurt others with words, so she also reflected on it and called on her to never say words that she would regret for the rest of her life.

Yes, usually eloquent people are the easiest to defend and impress people with words, but they are also the easiest to hurt. It is like the two edges of a knife. It either saves people or hurts them. Therefore, you must constantly remind yourself not to "rely on power" (Taiwanese, meaning to bully others with power), especially if you step on others, it will not hurt others' self-esteem. For example, words like "If it weren't for my mother-in-law, how could you be here now" or "You are worse than xxx", etc. These words are meant to deliberately embarrass others and treat others as inferior to themselves. This is absolutely unbearable, let alone the closest person, it is even more unbearable. Empathy is always something communicators should learn.

There are also some things that you can’t say, which are the other person’s natural weaknesses, what the other person cares about, and the other person’s bottom line. You clearly know that it is a fact, but you just can’t say it. For example, if someone cares about his baldness, don't blame him in front of him; if someone cares about height, don't treat it like a joke. Friends can joke, but the weaknesses he cares about are not funny to him at all, because they are not things he can change.

There is also the tendency to joke about other people’s previous embarrassments or setbacks. You think it’s funny, but to the other person, it’s like a knife stabbing into your heart. , don’t offend your friends and regret it later.

Next time, don’t say it all, and don’t even leave yourself a step down. For example, it is easiest for a woman to tell her husband or son, "If you don't do anything, don't step into this house again," "Get out of here now and don't come back," or "Don't let me see you again." ”, if you meet a rebellious child or a stubborn partner, then someone may really want to run away from home.

Some words really cannot be said. Words must be spoken well so that love can come out.