A person chooses to break up, why choose not to stay?

Feng Zikai wrote in "Don't spoil and don't be surprised":? Don't be confused, don't fall in love. Not afraid of the future, not thinking about the past. Okay, then. ?

Although this is the best state in feelings, there are really not many people who can do it.

Many times, it's not the sadness I control, but the sadness I control. Especially after breaking up, people who are left behind are the most sad.

But as it sings on a cloudy day: Isn't love what you want, and it's best to call it love and hate?

Sometimes it's the best ending to meet each other, and letting go is the last decision you have to make, because you can't keep the person who is leaving.

So when a person chooses to break up, no matter how much you love, remember, don't stay.

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Breaking up is the inevitable result of some love.

I once read a sentence:? No one would have thought that some people can accompany you through reckless young people and wandering young people, but they can't walk through a stable and numb middle age and reach an old age accompanied by dependence. ?

Those feelings that you think will last forever, I don't know from which moment you can't go back.

So there are only memories left in the story, you are still you, I am still me, but we are no longer us, but maybe this rejection is the inevitable result.

Just like Xiaoqi, after three years with her boyfriend, they kept quarreling from the beginning, but Xiaoqi just couldn't bear to let go, so she kept giving in.

Until some time ago, Xiaoqi was ready to go home, but she couldn't get a ticket to Spring Festival travel rush for a long time. Ask her boyfriend for help, but she ignores it.

Xiaoqi was particularly wronged for a moment. A person has been popular for a long time and can't help complaining. Her boyfriend said: Are you bored? If you had bought it earlier, you wouldn't have had so much trouble. ?

After they had a big fight, her boyfriend broke up on the grounds that she had had enough of Xiao Qi.

That ticket was bought by Xiao Qi with tears in her eyes. After shopping, she packed all her luggage and prepared never to come back.

Because she remembers that she stayed in this city at the beginning, because she was willing to let go of her family because of him in this city, but now she suddenly feels that her love is so humble.

Some feelings are actually doomed from the beginning. No matter how much you pay for a person, when that person doesn't respond, it is proof that you don't love.

Unfortunately, even if the other person doesn't love, some people are deceiving themselves, thinking that as long as they work hard enough, it will be enough.

Xiaoqi didn't stay, her heart was torn by her own tears. The other party said something? Keep your voice down? She died in the first place, and she knew it was useless to keep it.

The road to love is not always right. Loving the wrong person is like going the wrong way, but turning back is not the way to regain love. After all, there are some mistakes and we can't go to the end.

Therefore, the feelings destined to be separated, at the moment of separation, don't stay, give yourself a little dignity, although not very good together, but it is also worth yesterday.

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You have to understand that some people can't stay even if they stay.

It is said that you can never wake a person who pretends to sleep, and you can never impress a person who doesn't love you.

The person who is in pain in love is real, but the indifference of the other party is also true. The last thing you need is to make excuses for each other after breaking up and find reasons for yourself to stick to it.

Because sooner or later, you will find that your persistence is really just a joke in front of people who don't love you.

And if that person still loves you, he will hold you tight as early as when you cry.

The entanglement after breaking up is actually not to retain love, but to delay time at most. The final result may be that that person walks more smartly and feels that there is no need to waste more time with you.

Therefore, a little love that I had before will be wasted by this retention. When that person doesn't love you, you can't stay.

Maybe you don't understand why someone clearly loved once, but finally let it go so quickly.

In fact, the answer is only one sentence:? All breakups have been planned for a long time? You just learned the news of the breakup, but in their minds, it has been planned for a long time.

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In love, the more importunate love is, the harder it is to be happy. If a person really wants to leave, the best way is to let go. Don't stay, not only for his own dignity, but also because if he lets go, he may be able to start again.

If that person likes you, if breaking up is just an impulse, maybe your failure to stay will make them regret it.

In fact, this kind of psychology is just like buying clothes. The more you express what you want, the harder it is to reduce the price. But when you have a little desire to leave, the store will keep you at a price.

But people who don't love you are like salespeople who want to close the store. Even if you want to buy it again, they may not be willing to sell it at a higher price, because they want to close the store and go home early.

San Mao said:? Maybe, one day, we will hold someone's hand and forget him. ?

Some stories are doomed to have no ending, so when a person chooses to break up, remember, don't stay, it's not necessarily those who are left behind who regret, and those who want to leave don't have to insist.