Stop being obscene, he doesn't like you.

1

I was emotionally deceived.

Probably when I was in my third year of high school, I met a boy in H City. This boy was quite handsome (I really thought so at the time), with extremely long eyelashes and a small face. Because we had never interacted with each other before, I just watched from a distance. So one day he suddenly sat next to me, and I was very nervous. I have forgotten what we said that day. I only remember that I was very shy when I saw him talking. I didn’t dare to look at him.

Then we exchanged WeChat messages and I was so happy.

From that day on, and for the next few weeks, we started endless dark conversations, really saying good morning to good night. When I was in high school, mobile phones were not allowed in school. I took it secretly. In order not to let my aunt find it, I put the phone under the pillow. After the night study session, I immediately rushed to the dormitory to tell him that get out of class was over, which meant that we could start our happy time.

"Lights out, stop talking!" The entire dark dormitory was quiet. I hid under the quilt, raised my hands to sign 4s, and made "heehee", "cluck" and "haha" sounds from time to time. What she showed more often was a shy girlish smile. Sorry, my roommates at that time, I don’t know if I disturbed your sleep.

He always said some things to tease me, such as "You know, I just want to see you" and the like, which made me fall in love even though I was still in high school. He must like me, otherwise why would he say such ambiguous words to me, why would he chat with me all day long, how could he come to care about me, and why would he come to say good morning and good night to me.

Then I asked my good friends around me what this kind of intimate chatting all day and night meant. They told me he must like me to do this. Naively, I actually believed it. I thought, it would be really great if I could fall in love with him, he is handsome, sweet and... respectable. Confess your love to me quickly! I'm about to welcome my spring!

Until one day, I accidentally saw the interface of another female friend’s mobile phone.

"Are you chatting with him too?"

"You too?"

"Yes, yes..."

Bah bah bah.

Men never know how fast information can be spread by magical animals like women. During my conversation with that female friend, I realized that this boy was always so ambiguous when talking to anyone. It turned out that he already had a girlfriend. It turned out that they had been dating for several years. It turned out that I, an innocent girl, was being tricked. After so long, it turns out that I have been wishful thinking for so long.

To be honest, I felt sad for a long time after that. Even now when I think about this incident, I still want to slap myself for being so loud at that time. What kind of erotic dreams did I have?

Stop being obscene, why does he keep flirting with you? It’s because he doesn’t like you.

2

Since experiencing this incident, I am firmly opposed to the word "ambiguity".

This reminds me of an incident that happened to one of my friends, my friend Minghua. Hua met a boy at an off-site performance, let's call him Mr. M. Originally nothing would happen, but Huadu felt embarrassed for constantly rejecting M's persistent pursuit. So after agreeing to M to go out for a walk at night for the first time, Hua would go for a walk with M in the playground or along the river at about nine o'clock every night. At first, she just said that she wanted to get to know each other, and it was hard to refuse people out of politeness. Slowly, the flowers changed.

Every time I come back from a night walk, Hua is very happy. She tells me that M can sing very well, what clothes M wore today, M’s grades are very good but he never goes to class, and what interesting things did M talk about today? What a joke happened with Er... He opened his mouth and shut up all the time with "M" in his mouth. Anyone with a discerning eye could see that Hua fell in love with "M".

At first I simply thought that maybe this was a good opportunity to let Hua feel the beauty of love, so I didn’t stop her. It turned out that things were getting worse and worse, and one day Hua told me that she had been forcibly kissed.

I was shocked, who the hell is this person! Hua said that they did everything a boyfriend and girlfriend should do (except for that), but M was still unwilling to let Hua be his girlfriend. He said that he was not mentally ready yet, and what was even weirder was that he was only willing to be with Hua as his girlfriend. Come and see the flowers in the evening.

The more you don’t get it, the more you want it, and Hua can’t stand it anymore. After the emotions were suppressed time and time again, they finally broke out. In order to be brave, she drank a bottle of "Jiang Xiaobai" (baijiu) and some beer, and then ran like crazy downstairs to M's dormitory to ask M to come down and speak clearly. (I couldn’t stop him at all) Of course M refused to come down. He said he had just finished taking a shower and didn’t want to go out.

It was already eleven o'clock in the evening. I was worried about Hua and sent her a WeChat message asking her to come back quickly. As a result, Hua sent me several voice messages in succession. She said she was downstairs in M’s dormitory, but M just refused to come down to see me. She said she had been waiting for a long time and she just wanted to make things clear. She said She wanted to wait a little longer. Every sentence was filled with tears, which made me feel distressed. Whose child is so bullied by others!

Fortunately, M finally went abroad, and Hua also felt relieved under my guidance.

Men are all big hooves, they are good at flirting but not responsible! If my daughter is bullied like this, I have to take a big sack off the bed in the middle of the night and throw her into the river!

Can you please, dear girls, stop wasting your time on people who don’t care about you at all? They are not worth it.

3

I was browsing Zhihu in the past two days and saw a question like this:

"I love him, but he doesn't love me. Should I marry him?" Give it to him? ”

They were introduced to each other by their best friends, and they felt very close at first, because they were both grown up, so they were both rushing to get married. After both parties met their parents, it was a matter of course that they confirmed their relationship. But later, because the boy was transferred to work elsewhere, they began a long-distance relationship. Long-distance relationships seem to be a scary thing for all couples.

Slowly, as time went by, problems arose between them. Girls can clearly feel that boys are becoming more and more indifferent. If they don't take the initiative to find him, boys will not take the initiative to contact him. Because of this, they broke up several times. But boys will keep girls every time, and it doesn’t matter if girls soften their hearts. But not long after, he began to ignore girls again. The boy said that he was very busy at work and under great pressure, so he should give him some more time. Girls forgive again and again, boys repeat again and again.

The girl felt cold due to the cycle of indifference, and she pretended to delete him while she was having a cold war with him. But for more than ten days, the boy has not come to the girl to ask for forgiveness.

The girl said that she really loves this boy, and she is so confused about whether the boy doesn’t love me anymore, whether he is only with me because he thinks I am a suitable marriage partner, and whether we can still be together. Continue? Can I still marry him?

Yes, he just doesn’t love you anymore.

If you really get married, you may sleep alone in a double bed at home for the rest of your life.

If he really loves you, how could he be willing to leave you in the cold?

4

There is always a corner of this world where a girl will ask

"Why doesn't he come to me?" "Why doesn't he come back?" "Me?" "Why didn't he call me?"

You know, he doesn't want to come to you at all, he doesn't care about you at all, and he doesn't like you at all.

He is not that busy at all. In his eyes, your occasional concern is the same as spam text messages. Maybe after he saw your letter, he immediately said to his roommate, "Why does this bitch come to see me again? It's so annoying."

What age is this? It’s not the age of cold weapons. Technology is so advanced now. If he really likes you, he will use all means to find you, let alone you on earth. He will dig it out for you in the soil.

I have to admit that boys all have "animal nature" and they are very possessive. If he really likes you, he will clearly mark his symbol everywhere you appear, which means "I'm in charge of this girl."

Girls are really easy to give their feelings, but once they fall in love, it is difficult to get rid of them.

A girl who is too affectionate will only be humble in the end. You know that he doesn't love you, but you still fly to the flames. Don't lie to yourself all the time, just to hide the truth that you already know.

So if you haven’t figured out how to take responsibility for this girl, please wait a moment, or let her go.

Everyone’s feelings are precious.

If you have never been sure whether a boy likes you or not, don't hesitate, he doesn't like you.