People who are not from the same class cannot be true friends at all. There is no need to force integration into different circles.

Different circles

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There is no need to force integration: This means that if your interests and hobbies are different, your life circle and friends are different, forcing them to be together will only make people feel uncomfortable. Feeling tired. In other words, the Tao is not the same and does not work together.

Many seemingly friendly relationships are just a show of love. Don’t think that others will be kind to your friendship if you put your heart and soul into it. Sometimes, when a group of people are talking about something that you are not interested in at all, but you still want to chime in and chime in, thinking that others will notice you, but in the end, you are all acting a one-man show.

Each type of person has his or her own circle.

Harmonious interpersonal relationships sometimes do not mean you get along well with everyone. It is precisely the disharmony with some people that shows your maturity. You will understand: there are some people in your inner circle who you can trust; there are some people a little further away, you are willing to contact them and have sex with them, but you do not intend to treat them as friends; it is worth noting. The thing is, there are still some people who are destined not to be your friends. If you don’t have a sense of hierarchy and judgment, you will inevitably compromise and try to cater to everyone.

Don’t be cheap, don’t pay at will, don’t cater to others wishfully, the circles are different, there is no need to forcefully integrate!

The implication is:

People must have self-respect, live their own wonderful lives, and don’t blindly cater to others. Don't live in such a humble way. Live as happy as you want. Life is short, so why bother yourself and treat others with humiliation?

Everyone has his own different social circle; at the same time, the people who form a certain social circle must also have their own characteristics, such as similar social status, similar wealth, similar ideals, similar personalities, and habits. They have similar character, have the same hobbies, the same industry, the same place, etc. The formation of a so-called circle such as a social circle or a circle of friends is mostly not subjectively determined by the individuals in the circle, but rather formed spontaneously and naturally. For example, in a hometown association, you cannot decide where you were born. People who have the same hometown as you may be members of the same hometown association as you; another example is a Jin Yong fan. Anyone who loves Jin Yong's novels can be called a Jin Yong fan. Naturally, they have the same hobbies and topics. You can't stop someone from loving Jin Yong. On the other hand, if you are from Hubei and there is a circle of fellow Sichuan fellows, it is obviously impossible for you to integrate into this circle of fellow Sichuan fellows. It is possible to have a good relationship with a certain Sichuan fellow, but overall it is quite difficult. And it’s not necessary. For another example, if you don’t like Jin Yong to begin with, in order to integrate into the circle of Jin Yong fans and share the same topics with them, it is unnecessary to force yourself to interpret Jin Yong’s novels like studying advanced mathematics.

Circle represents something that an individual desires but cannot obtain temporarily (perhaps a slightly higher-level environment), so many people are eager to blend in and gain the respect of those around them. It is understandable that you should be recognized and eager to improve yourself. But at the same time, we should not blindly exert too much force, but should think rationally, do I really need to integrate? What do I want to gain from this? What do I need to do to be close to them, and does it go against who I am? After thinking about it, make a decision based on your answer, and then decide what to do.

In short, I personally feel that the overall criterion for integrating or not is whether you will feel happy and whether you can continue to grow from it.

The more you experience, the better. I will understand why I am not popular with others in life, because I am not hypocritical enough, because I am not sweet-tongued, cannot flatter, and cannot tell lies with my eyes open. The circles are different, so there is no need to force me to integrate! Who are you and who can you attract? Stay away from ineffective and low-energy social interactions and achieve accurate and effective interpersonal communication! Your ability to meet the needs of others determines your value in the eyes of others. If low-value companies reluctantly integrate into high-value circles, they will eventually come to naught because of different interest bases.

The circle that you cannot fit into at the moment does not mean that the future does not belong to you. Everything you are doing determines which circle you will enter in the future.

Only if we are good enough can we attract equally good people to get close to us. Otherwise, the prosperity of other people's circles may seem dazzling, but it may not be suitable for us. Don't pay at will, don't cater to others wishfully, the circles are different, there is no need to force integration. See your true self. As high as your abilities are, do as much work as you can and get in touch with as many high-level people as you can. Dignity comes from strength. Choose what suits you and have it. Compromising is ultimately in vain. The hustle and bustle in the world is all for benefit, and the hustle and bustle in the world is for benefit.

In this world, there are only a small number of people who can be called friends. Most of the remaining people seem to be close friends, but they are just acting on occasion. Don’t think that others will be kind to your friendship if you show your heart and soul. Everyone has a hypocritical side. One minute they are chatting and laughing, and the next minute they are slandering the person they just laughed with. Unless we are like-minded, we cannot understand what we are seeking, and if we are not sympathetic to each other, we cannot understand what we are worried about. A true like-minded person will accept you because of your beauty and know how to appreciate it, instead of including you on the dating list because of your flattery and deliberate lowness.

Being with people who are not suitable for you will only make you lonelier, and you will also not get the attention of others. If you have different ideas and concepts, there is no need to force them to mix and match. If you are your own unique self, others may appreciate your differences. Although the circle is small, it is good as long as it is clean. There is really no need to squeeze into a world that cannot be entered. As the saying goes, there are people outside the world, and there are mountains outside the mountains. Everyone has his or her own unique character. If you are kind to me, I will not refuse you; if you are not pleased, I will not admire you either. Only by standing at a height that suits you can you understand your own beauty; only by being with someone who understands can your soul bloom.