When you are at rock bottom and there is no one to help you, what should you do?

What should you do if you are at rock bottom and there is no one to help you?

Ni Ping wrote in "Grandma's Quotations":

If you don't fall, you can get through anything; if you fall, no one can help you up.

Therefore, first of all, I believe that there is no worst, only worse. You must always remember that we are never the hardest. Our so-called valley may be the high mountain that others envy but cannot reach.

Secondly, I think it’s not a bad thing if no one helps you. At the critical moment, you can look at people’s hearts. Only then can you tell who is your true friend?

Third, if it is really, really difficult, don’t be anxious. It’s useless to be anxious. Calm down, reflect on yourself, analyze the problem, and solve it step by step. There are always more methods than problems. We are always the lucky ones.

If you are unfortunate enough to have a physical illness, most people sympathize with this experience. However, we still have to think like this: I am already very lucky. I am just sick. I have no physical disability. My discomfort is only during the illness. After I am cured, everything will return to normal. Looking at those who are physically disabled or suffering from incurable diseases, they are even more unfortunate, so I should cherish the present and be optimistic.

It would be the most fortunate thing if we were only short of money and faced excessive financial pressure.

In this world, the trouble of having no money is the easiest to solve, because there are too many people’s troubles that even money cannot solve. For example, some people have birth, old age, sickness and death, and some people have many problems. Money, but no descendants, and some people have no money, but full of descendants. I believe that as long as there are people, we are not afraid of other difficulties.

There is a popular saying on the Internet. Although it looks like chicken soup, if you taste it carefully, it still makes sense.

Everything is the best arrangement, and what we are experiencing now is part of life. All the things we have experienced in life, without any stage, we would not be who we are today.

Therefore, the mentality must be good, because it is useless to be anxious, because it is useless to get angry, and the problem can only disappear by solving it. If you don’t have anyone to help you, take this opportunity to clean up your circle of friends.

I used to have a few very good friends who were always together and complained to each other about their worries. In my heart, I thought they were the best friends. As a result, I fell ill and was hospitalized. I had major surgery and only one person went to the hospital to see me. The rest just exchanged pleasantries on WeChat, and one didn't even ask.

I felt quite uncomfortable at the time, because I was usually very nice to them and would often buy each other gifts and delicious food and go shopping together. From then on, I stopped playing with them and only followed the one who came to see me and was always nice.

Another time, I urgently needed 10,000 yuan and was still short of 5,000 yuan. I asked my sister to borrow it because her family situation is better than mine and she earns more. I wanted to borrow five thousand from her, but she told me that all her money was used for financial management and she had no money left. To be honest, I felt quite uncomfortable at the time. She was not a person who didn't put money in her hands. She was a dear sister.

But, can you blame others for not helping you? No, a friend in need is a friend indeed. Helping you at this time is a sign of affection, but not helping you is a duty of others.

So, don’t be sad. It’s not a bad thing if no one helps you. Then stand up bravely and rely on yourself to survive the desperate situation. You have to know that for thirty years in the east of the river and thirty years in the west of the river, some people may have "zodiac signs" throughout their lives, but absolutely no one will be unlucky throughout their lives. From the day you hit bottom and rebound, you can confidently tell everyone that I got up on my own.

Therefore, you may be depressed because the other person did not help you, but others may be proud because they did not help you.

When you are frustrated, most people laugh at you, but when you are proud, most people just laugh it off, or get jealous and continue to live their lives.

So, it doesn’t matter if no one helps you. It’s just a good time to clean up your circle of friends and distinguish which people are worth cherishing for a lifetime and which people can only be friends in a casual way. Difficulties will always be solved, but you have to show your edge first, and then they will be solved!

Many people, when they encounter difficult things, immediately start to get angry, get mouth ulcers, tongue blisters, tonsil inflammation, etc.

In fact, no matter how anxious you are, no matter how anxious you are, the problem is always there. If you don’t solve it or think of a solution, it will always be there to bother you.

Avoiding can't solve the problem, and anxiety can't solve the problem. Only by calming down, reflecting on the nature of the problem, finding the key points of the problem, and coming up with ways to solve the problem can we completely solve the problem and overcome the difficulties. past.

There is a saying that is particularly good: "Difficulties are difficult only when you are trapped." "Only when you get out can there be a way out."

You have to jump out, look at the problem from an objective perspective, and analyze the problem in order to solve the problem. Summary at the end of the article:

Mentality is the most important. As long as the mentality does not collapse and as long as we face it optimistically, there will be no problems that cannot be solved, no mountains that cannot be climbed, and no obstacles that cannot be overcome.

Think calmly and face it optimistically. We are never the most miserable ones. We are the lucky ones. Together we have the best arrangement, and the future is worth looking forward to.

Focus, distinctiveness and persistence are the only keys to success in ordinary life.

Life is a process. Everyone will hit rock bottom. What should you do when you are at rock bottom?

First, don’t imagine that anyone will help you. No matter what you do, first think of completing it independently. Especially for people who are in a trough period, others will not easily help such a person, and they can only rely on themselves for everything.

Second, know how to choose. You will fall into a trough. It is nothing more than a certain direction or thing you choose that leads you to go astray. The deeper you fall, the more you are trapped in the trough and cannot get out.

Third, learn to give up. Only with losses can you gain. The greater a person's desire, the greater the burden he carries on his back. He is always in a state of panic and embarrassment. He is afraid of losing this and that. There is no perfect harvest in life, and if you don't pay the price, how can you get something in return?

Fourth, focus on one direction and keep going. If you are temporarily trapped in a valley because of temporary difficulties, you must understand that this is just a test for you in the process of creating a career. If you survive it, the dawn will always come. Come on! If you keep walking, you will find the ladder to the top.

When I was at a low point in my life, my relatives and friends were hiding from me before it was too late. I remember the ruthlessness of my parents-in-law, the betrayal of my husband when I was 26 years old, and even my parents (younger brother, younger brother) for their so-called family and everything. My daughter-in-law often quarreled over me staying at my parents’ home after she got divorced.) There was no other way but for me to leave my parents’ home. I will never forget this in this life. At that time, I weighed less than 80 pounds and was 160cm tall. I often couldn't poop. In order to support the children, renting a room can only accommodate a small bed and a table. Common areas for cooking. I had no tears and thought of dying, but for the sake of my children, I couldn't die. I'm very stubborn. If you don't believe me, I won't be able to get through it. When people are down and out, they will really endure all kinds of hardships. In wind and rain, they will do whatever they can to earn money. They have to rush to do everything they do. They are not afraid of working hard and sweating. They are not afraid of doing better than others. They are afraid that the boss will not accept it. I. Work during the day, run a street stall at night, and deliver milk in the early morning. I am not afraid of ghosts standing in front of me. I don’t know where the strength comes from. But my daughter has never suffered a day, so she is now 168cm tall. She just lacked company and was always left at home alone. She was so sensible and smart that she started her writing career at the age of 18.

Adversity has created my unyielding character. When I was 30 years old, I met my sister’s classmate by chance (she married in Hong Kong, so she has foresight). She was very kind, and she actually shed tears when she saw me and said: You are beautiful. Bright and smart. I suggest you learn a trade, don’t work so hard, and you are guaranteed to develop very well in the future. (She is my noble person) I went to Nanjing Chaoyan for a month. When I came back, there were few beauticians at that time, so I recommended myself to a high-end beauty shop. With my spirit of not being afraid of hardship and eager to learn, I was promoted to store manager in one month. She became the sales queen of this brand throughout the province and started her own business at the age of 33. I'm older now. It can't be said to be a success. But I am proud and grateful to all the sentient beings who have given me adversity. What I am most proud of is that I have raised two very sensible and outstanding children. They are the continuation of my life. . . . . . Therefore, many women choose to commit suicide for the sake of their relationship, even taking their children with them. I'm disgusted. Children should be the spiritual support for our survival, not the bargaining chip. I was a little excited today and wrote a lot in one go. I actually shed tears because I thought about the past. There are many things that people around you may not tell, but you can tell them to friends you don’t know. Thank you friends for reading. I wish you happiness and peace for a lifetime.