Show my love to my best friend. She joked that I have low requirements for my husband.

To put it simply, during the Dragon Boat Festival, my husband and friends went to the scenic spot to climb the mountain and climbed to a small waterfall. Suddenly I feel that my stomach ache is the pain I just want to solve. At that time, my husband was paddling barefoot, so I said I wanted to solve my stomachache, and when I saw that MS didn't have a bathroom, my husband asked me if I could bear it. I said no, it was too painful. He put on socks and shoes and let me walk slowly (all steps). He first trotted down to see where there was a bathroom, and then bought a paper towel to wait for me at the roadside, so that I didn't have to go to the bathroom by myself (because I was impatient, I was probably afraid of trying to find the bathroom myself). Then he hit it hard, because we didn't pay attention to where there was a bathroom when we entered the scenic spot, but common sense also knew that there should be one at the entrance. At that time, we climbed to one-third of the height of the scenic spot. Then I walked slowly down the hill, still uncomfortable. At the bottom of the scenic spot, I saw my husband waiting for me by the roadside. As soon as you see me, give me the tissue in your hand and show me the direction of the bathroom. At that time, I felt that my husband would still feel sorry for others. I know I'll run down first and find me a good place so as not to worry, because he used to like playing games very much and seldom felt sorry for others. I just think he is much wiser.

I told a girlfriend about it on QQ today, saying that he is more sensible than before. My girlfriend replied to me, your requirements are too low! This is the most basic thing for a man. I didn't know what to say at that time, because I thought it was very sweet and my girlfriend thought it was very basic. Did I have a miserable life before, indicating that my requirements for my partner are too low? Before, I never told my friends and girlfriends about my feelings. My personality is still relatively independent, not dependent on men. This time, I really felt a little heartfelt and said it. I was beaten by my best friend. Are husbands always like this to their wives?

Blogger reply:

"I never told my friend's girlfriend anything emotional. "If you don't have a girlfriend and don't share emotional things with her, you can't be a girlfriend. This exposes a big problem to you. You are a person without common sense and rules. You have been living in your own world, and your judgment on people and things is not based on social standards, but on your own experience.

If people like you want to live a stable life, they can only keep reducing their contact with the people around them, so you say, "My personality is still relatively independent." It is inevitable that you say you are "impatient". Because you don't have the ability to communicate with people normally, the troubles of interpersonal communication always bring you negative emotions. When the pressure increases to a certain extent, you will become generous and release the pressure generously. "Urgency" is a sign of generosity. Your parents hate your impatience. They used to beat you and scold you, but later they were afraid of you and kept their distance from you, so you must not live with your parents now.

You are very, very kind to your husband and treat him as your son. Every time you lose your temper with him, you will be doubly kind to him to make up for it, so you become her nanny and mother. He is an incompetent man, because he is addicted to your service, so he wants to marry you. He can affect your mood most and make you suffer most easily, so there is only one way to make him unhappy: don't put any pressure on him, don't make any demands on him, and try to help him do what he should do.

Your attention is on him, and monopolizing him can bring you a full and happy feeling. You have more reason not to contact with the outside world. You go to work to make money, and go home immediately after work. As soon as you stop thinking about him, what will you give him to eat? Is there anything you haven't done for him? If he looks angry today, how can you make him happy? Your life circle is getting smaller and smaller. He is a stake, and you are a grinding donkey, blindfolded around him.

Your husband helps you buy toilet paper and find a toilet. You are very touched, thinking that he knows how to care about you. "Because he used to like playing games and seldom cared about people, I simply think he is much more sensible." This exposes another big problem. You want to change him, move him through your efforts, and let him know that you need him to love you most, and he gives you such a return, and you immediately feel very happy, because you are so happy that you need to share it with others. The first time I told my "best friend" about you, I didn't expect her to pour cold water on you. You said you were beaten.

You can't change him at all, and you will never get what you want in return, because he doesn't love you, just because he needs you now, so he can find you a toilet. There was a friend who wanted to show that he was a good husband. Besides, he doesn't want people to see you in a hurry to find the toilet. He feels ashamed. Besides, he is in a good mood. My husband was swimming barefoot, so he helped you this time. He doesn't feel that he is in love with you, and he will definitely deny that he is in love with you, because you will ask him to continue to love you. When he feels stressed, he will deny that finding a toilet is in love with you. Don't believe that one day when you quarrel, he will say, why don't you go to the bathroom first and then climb the mountain? Why don't you bring toilet paper in your bag? The conclusion is one word: stupid. But you will still stubbornly think that he loves you, and stubbornness is your label.

You don't realize that you have no common sense and rules, because you think you have common sense. "We didn't pay attention to where there was a bathroom when we entered the scenic spot, but common sense also knew that there should be one at the entrance." You always think you're right. Remind your friend of your kindness, your feelings are hurt, and you regret telling her. The reason why you have "Do all husbands treat their wives like this?" This confusion is because you can't accept what your friends say. If you don't feel bad for you, then your efforts will not see the results you want. You have a sense of happiness for nothing, followed by fatigue and cold. When will your efforts end and when will you enjoy your husband's heartache?

One day, your husband who loves to play games will grow up and his desire will become stronger and stronger. If you want to enjoy yourself and have a woman, if you can't satisfy him, he will definitely find an extramarital affair. You can't monopolize him. He puts a lot of pressure on you, and you pay less. If you pay less, he has no reason to continue living with you. Divorce is inevitable. If you can't enjoy your work and learn to make friends, your most suitable lifestyle is celibacy.