When children cry incessantly, how can adults help them stabilize their emotions?

Do you still remember in "Inside Out" when Popsicle was so sad that he sat next to him after he was thrown into the garbage dump because of the moon rover? Lele said, it's okay, I'll tell you a joke. Make a face. Think of happy things. But these don't seem to be of any use. Youyou just sat next to Popsicle, enamored of his feelings. I understand your feelings. You and Laili must have experienced a lot of unforgettable times. After he finished crying and expressed his sad emotions, he felt better. . The first thing every child does when he comes into the world is to cry, but it will be different when he grows up. Some children love to cry very much. They will cry non-stop for any reason, and they can even cry for half an hour. Why do children cry so much? What is the best way to educate such a crying child?

"Oops! Baby, who bullied you again!" Parents feel heartbroken when they see their children's little faces covered with tears! However, the child is too fragile. He will cry when he wakes up in the morning and cannot see his mother. He will cry when his food is eaten by others, and he will cry when his toy is broken. . . . . . So over time, distress turned into upset. "Don't cry!", "If you cry again, I'll sell you out!" However, the more severe your reprimand, the harder the child will cry! In the end, you, the almighty one, suddenly ran out of tricks! So, why do children cry so often, and how should parents respond when their children cry non-stop? 1. Understand your child’s sensitivity. Sensitive children feel pain more intensely than other children. Parents should help them gradually become stronger through understanding, sympathy, and encouragement. 2. Let the child use language to teach the child to be good at expressing his pain clearly and clearly explaining why he is crying. At this time, the mother can provide some comfort, which can reduce the chance of crying. 3. Parents learn to control their emotions. Crying children are particularly sensitive, so adults’ anxiety, tension, anger, depression and other emotions can easily affect their children. Therefore, adults should relax and control their emotions. If emotions have been expressed, it is best to give a simple explanation to the child immediately to avoid making the child continue to guess and increase sensitivity. 4. Be more gentle and humorous. For sensitive children, adults’ glares and disappointed expressions will cause reactions, so adults must be in control, let alone scold the children loudly. Being gentle and humorous to them may be more effective, but when When a sensitive child does something wrong, don't criticize him for fear of crying. You should clearly explain where the mistake was. Neither rebuke nor be unprincipled. 5. Firm but gentle downplaying treatment: Use firm but gentle downplaying treatment for children who cry incessantly due to unreasonable demands and children who cry out loud due to willfulness or doing wrong things. Parents must not be soft-hearted or lose their temper. They must be patient. Wait until he calms down before responding appropriately. When you cannot satisfy what he wants, first tell him that there is something better than this or make an agreement with him to meet certain requirements before you can buy it.

When the child cries, we can express affection first. Emotion means seeing his emotions and speaking them out, seeing his needs and speaking them out. Sometimes you can add your own emotional expressions after the emotions to make the child feel understood and accepted. , be loved. Do you like that toy very much? Are you sad because your mother didn't buy you a toy just now? If only mom could buy you this toy now. Are you feeling scared or sad because your mother lost her temper just now? Now it would be nice if it was summer, and the baby could go out wearing only one piece of clothing. It's so cold outside, you'll get sick if you go out without a coat, and your mother will be very worried and sad. The result has not changed. The child did not kidnap his parents by crying, but he was understood and accepted, and he will calm down faster. On the contrary, if you are accused, why are you so disobedient? Stop crying. If you continue to cry, I won’t let you go. The more he cries, the more violent he becomes. He is not understood, wronged, labeled, accused, and intimidated. At first he is just sad, and later mixed with grievances, anger, and fear. He slowly learns not to express his needs and hide them. Your own emotions will label yourself "I am bad" and "everything is my fault". It must be a very helpless feeling.

If parents know that their child's crying has a purpose, then do not grant privileges or cancel rules according to his wishes, let alone exempt him from punishment just because he cries. You can give some comfort, but you can't have too much sympathy, otherwise he will just get an advantage and act like a good boy, and cry even harder. Crying children are obviously particularly sensitive and are easily affected by adults' emotions such as anxiety, tension, anger, and depression. Therefore, parents should first set an example, relax themselves, and control their emotions, so as to prevent their negative emotions from spreading to their innocent children. You must praise your child more and criticize less. Even if your child fails to do what you want, as long as he tries his best, don't criticize him too much. For example, when a child washes his hands and spills water everywhere, parents should first praise him for washing his hands, and then help him wipe the water off the floor. For sensitive children who love to cry, simply doing the above points is not enough. The only way is to help him do more tactile desensitization training (for example, alternate hot and cold water several times when taking a bath, use a towel to wash his hair, comb his hair with a comb, and take him to play with water and sand, participate in outdoor activities, or go to The professional sensory training center accepts dragon ball, acupressure board massage, etc.) to reduce his emotional sensitivity, so that he can fundamentally get rid of his crying problem.

My little boy also likes to cry. Grandma gave him a dish he didn't like, and cried and said he didn't want it. Grandpa didn't allow him to eat ice cream, and he cried and said he wanted to eat it. Dad accidentally knocked him and cried and said it hurt. Grandma said she wanted to take a bath, and cried and shouted that she didn’t want her to take a bath. There is not a single day at home where I don’t cry. Last year he was not very good at speaking, and we could only guess at what he meant when he cried. This year I am a talkative person. I talk non-stop. I can understand what adults say, but I still like to cry. At first, I let him cry and everyone ignored him. Basically, after crying for a few minutes, he would take the initiative to find his mother, and then he would act coquettishly and stop crying. Gradually the crying time became shorter. Later, I told him: You are a man, you bleed and sweat but not shed tears. He was curious about this sentence, and his voice basically became smaller as soon as he said this sentence. Later, I told him clearly that if he wanted something he could get it without crying, he had to make it clear. Come on, tell mom, mom, I want to watch TV. He looked at me and repeated, and I praised him again: That’s right. Teach him how to express his emotions correctly every day instead of shouting loudly not to cry. After a month, the little boy cried less often, and he would actively say that he stopped crying and that his mother would give him a hug. Some children have poor verbal expression skills. My little boy is also poor, but he has strong learning ability. Parents should set an example and let their children follow suit. Be patient, encourage them and give them more time to practice. Parents must not yell at their children for crying for a long time. After a long time, they will either continue to cry or become timid. Parents must first learn to control their emotions, accept their children's crying, and let their children know that their parents understand their pain and sadness, and then they can reason. Babies who calm down can basically take the truth into their hearts and slowly change.