Tell this story to help the attacked children win back their courage and strength.

During the May Day holiday, I watched a Japanese cartoon Rudolph the Black Cat at home.

Rudolph is a lost little black cat. He got on a coach by mistake and went to another city. After his owner moved away, he left him a pet cat "Keduole" (named by different people, such as garbage tiger and boss). ) and Cordole became good friends. Rudolph decided to take a ride home, and Keduole went to the domestic evil dog "Devil" to ask Rudolph for a piece of beef, but later, the Devil changed and everyone got along happily.

After the devil was pushed into the pond and surrendered, in his own words: after self-reflection, he had a chance to talk to Rudolph. He said, "I am really a narrow-minded dog." Originally, the devil and Keduole were neighbors, but when Duole was a domestic pet cat, they got along very well, but after Duole's owner left Keduole in the United States, the devil "looked down" on Keduole. Deliberately hurting Kodole with malicious words, such as "It must be very hard for you that the master ran away in debt?" "Anyway, the meat he fed you is so bad that you might as well run away" and so on.

In fact, the essence of the devil is "I have never walked out of this yard alone" and "I don't have so many friends, so I am jealous". The devil is lonely and fragile inside. He is a vicious dog himself, so he is always locked in the yard and cannot be free. He turned his inner self-attack into an external attack on others. This is like, if a person eats something bad and has indigestion, he will feel very uncomfortable. He has no digestive ability, so he can only spit it out, but he is afraid to vomit, so he looks for someone who has no resistance to the consequences of vomiting.

We understand that the principle of binary opposition is that there are many conflicting roles in everyone's mind, among which "victim" and "persecutor" are more common. If you identify yourself as a "victim", you will suppress the "persecutor" and attract the "persecutor" to your side from the outside. Therefore, from this perspective, children being bullied and ridiculed by jokes is an obstacle to their own life growth (in fact, it is all the parents' reasons, and I will write this part later). As the saying goes, "hanging up" means hanging up and bullying. This is why the children of the persecutors dare to bully their own children if they dare not bully other children.

Binary opposition and integration are not easy to understand in psychological theory. Hu Chaobing, a professor of psychology at Chongqing University, has taught applied psychology all his life, but a binary opposition integration activity made him truly transparent. Yes, in our public welfare course, we learn this part purely through experiential activities, without thinking, just according to the process and energy.

Why is experiential learning the most effective and can be truly changed? Think about the era before the popularization of printed matter, few people can afford to read books and go to school. Through their own work and social experience with their own people, they also gained first-hand survival wisdom. And knowledge/consultation is also great, but compared with experience, knowledge/consultation is second-hand and third-hand wisdom (that is the wisdom of others), and it is easy for us to fall into the embarrassment of knowing what we can't do.

Back to this story, Coldor is actually a strong dog and the "boss" of a stray cat, but he can still "attract" the devil to say these vicious words to him, precisely because Coldor is very concerned about being an abandoned pet cat, and he doesn't want others to know that he has been abandoned. Therefore, the devil can crush his "sense of abandonment" mine with the most painful words. It works as soon as you press the button.

In the process of helping children grow up, we know that children actually need to grow up, and growth requires strength and courage, but children before 12 years old often can't accept this logic: Why is it my own problem that he bullies me and makes me so sad? This needs to be handled wisely, and many parents will take the first step: * * love (in the same way) but after that? Always * * * love? No, what we need to continue to learn is how to help children deal with their emotions, win back their strength and take the next step that they recognize.

Helping children understand not only their own lives, but also each other's lives, so that children can understand the truth of all this. Such help is solid and does not repeat. This can be achieved with simple and practical tools-attention, the premise must be parents' own growth, otherwise they will only move, not internal skills.

The hardest way for parents to grow up is to know that they can't do it. Maybe you have experienced the following:

-After all kinds of classes, I still can't operate;

-Being kept in a gratitude diary, unable to express gratitude or feel grateful;

-I love myself hard but I don't know what I love and what I love;

I still have to do my homework to list the advantages of the people I hate the most, but I still can't leave.

-I have done a lot of public welfare activities and paid a lot of love, but I feel more lacking and depressed.

This is because the inner weight has not been cleaned and changed, and it is useless for the mind to know more. If you accidentally take the route of suppression/rationalization, you will fool your subconscious, but your body will show pain. Come directly to our public welfare class, bang. It is fun and efficient. After learning, you can directly give some guidance to others. After studying for three days and two nights, the following student helped his friend directly:

Check the curriculum:

May is a day to welcome abundance, and the creative journey around the world in May will be like a heart lamp, illuminating the way home for every soul! Creative tours around the country are arranged as follows:

May 12- 14

Soul of Enterprise 958 field

Teacher Taipei-Chen Zhihao/Chen Weiling

May13-15

Soul of enterprise 959 haochang

Hangzhou-Teacher Shi Fuping

The soul of enterprise, field 960

Kuala Lumpur-Teacher Guo Shiming

May 17- 19

96 1 field of enterprise soul number

Wuxi-Mr. Father/You Yaer

May 19-2 1

Enterprise Soul 962 field

Teacher Chen Chunliang/Liu Xian

Enterprise Soul 963 field

Taichung-Chen Zhihao/Chen Weiling teacher

Enterprise Soul 964 field

Shenzhen-Teacher Wu/Zhang Limin

Enterprise Soul 965 field

Teacher Changsha/Yan

23-25 May

Soul of enterprise 966 Chang

Teacher Ji 'an-Chen Yufei/Lu Meihua

25-27 May

Soul of enterprise 967 haochang

Kunming-Zhang Haiyan/Teacher Gong Zhi

Soul of enterprise 968 haochang

Jinan-Teacher Shi Fuping/Fan Xiaorong

Enterprise industry soul 969 haochang

Teacher Pingdingshan/Zhang

Soul of enterprise 970 games

Guangzhou-Hu Wenbin/Teacher Yu Chang 'e

Enterprise Soul 97 1 field

Teacher Xi An-Ping Jiang/Du Pengyan

Soul of enterprise 972 haochang

Wuhan-Teacher Wu/Zeng Shiyan

Soul of enterprise 973 haochang

Shenyang-Cheng Jianhui/Teacher Zhang Limin

Soul of enterprise 974 haochang

Shanghai-Teacher Shen Jianzhou

26-28 May

Soul of enterprise 975 haochang

Hong Kong-Teacher Wen

Soul of enterprise 976 haochang

Nanning-teacher Li

27-29 May

Enterprise Soul 977 field

Taipei-Teacher Li Kunming

28-30 May

Soul of enterprise 978 haochang

Cangzhou-Teacher Ping Jiang/An Jinling

May 29 -3 1

Soul of enterprise 979 Chang

Teacher Taiyuan/Liu