The husband is holding off on divorcing but is keeping a cold war (the man’s true motive for delaying divorcing on purpose)

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In today’s married life, many couples live together and make do with each other. Due to many reasons such as children, parents, property, etc., even if there is no relationship, they will not easily choose divorce. In this situation Very common.

Especially for men, divorce is always not so straightforward. There is a unwillingness to go through the divorce procedures even if there is no relationship.

In fact, a man deliberately delays divorce not because he still has feelings for you, but for these reasons.

We should understand in our hearts and not let this unhappy married life affect our mood and happiness.

01

Can’t let go of the unwillingness in my heart

Sometimes, when there are problems in the relationship between the couple, it does not reach the point of irreconcilability, but because They can't let go, or they are angry, or one party really can't stand the other party anymore and insists on divorce, but the other party can't let go of the unwillingness in his heart, feels that he has given a lot, and is unwilling to divorce, so he keeps delaying the divorce. With.

Generally, a man is reluctant to divorce. In his heart, it is probably because he has too much unwillingness and cannot let go of his lover who has been with him for many years. Even though the woman no longer has feelings for him, Although sometimes a man does something wrong and makes his woman angry and wants a divorce.

But the man is not willing, because in his heart, he feels that he has paid too much for this family, or for the woman, how could he choose to let go easily, so he does not want to end the relationship in his heart of.

But if a woman insists on divorce, even if the man is dragging her out and is unwilling to divorce, if she feels that she really can’t get along with the current man, she can resolve it through legitimate channels instead of losing face. , or waiting for the sake of the children, and finally delayed starting a new life.

02

Can’t bear to hurt children

Some men don’t want their children to lose a complete family, and they don’t want their children to have a shadow in their hearts. So I kept putting off the divorce. Even though I no longer had feelings, I still couldn't bear to hurt my children. Such men are generally caring and responsible, at least thinking about their children.

Generally speaking, in a marriage like this, the woman has done something that is unworthy of the family. Although the man was in great pain and wanted to end this unhappy marriage as soon as possible, when he saw his child, he became very entangled in his heart. Because if you get divorced, it will affect your children's academic and healthy growth.

Therefore, a man's reluctance to divorce also reflects a man's sense of responsibility for his family and children.

Sometimes, men live in an unhappy marriage, but endure great pain in their hearts. After all, the two people have no feelings, or the fate of the two people has been exhausted, and it is impossible to be the same as when they first got married. The two people vowed to spend their lives together.

Unexpectedly, two people would have emotional problems while walking. This is what a man least wants to see, but the man is helpless. After all, there are gay children involved, so , this is also the reason why men cannot bear to divorce.

03

Reluctant to lose property

There are also men who abandon their lovers during marriage, and it is very painful for women to leave the heartless man next to them. , which faces the problem of property division. But men are reluctant to lose their family property and are afraid that women will take away their property, so they are unwilling to divorce, even if they keep delaying it, hoping that the woman will automatically give up dividing her property.

Such men generally only value material foundation, or are misers. They are afraid of losing their property and are unwilling to agree to a woman's request for divorce. From this aspect, men are definitely the kind of people who care about everything. Even though the relationship between the two people has broken down, they are unwilling to divorce because they are reluctant to part with their family property.

As the saying goes, one day brings a hundred days of kindness to a couple. If a man really loves his woman, he will not disagree with the divorce. After all, after so long, the two of them cannot let their woman and children live a simple life. A man with a conscience and responsibility will never be unwilling to divorce because he is reluctant to part with his family property. This is the difference between men and men, and it is also a phenomenon in real life.

04

Feeling divorce is embarrassing

There are also some men who feel divorce is embarrassing and cannot hold their heads high in front of relatives and friends, so they are unwilling to divorce. It just keeps dragging. Even if two people live unhappy lives, even if they are separated, they don't want others to see their jokes and think they are incompetent.

After all, men are very face-conscious and don’t want people around them to know that their families are unhappy.

Such men pay more attention to their own image. They are afraid that divorce will affect their future, and they are even more afraid of losing the feeling of a woman. Once you lose your marriage, you will become very lonely and have to rely on yourself to do everything at home, so you will always be reluctant to divorce.

In married life, if a man is reluctant to leave you, he will not let you go easily, nor will he let you leave the family easily, because he is already used to having you at home. Therefore, when a woman files for divorce, as long as the man does not have another woman outside, the man will generally not agree to the woman's request for divorce.

Therefore, I am afraid that many women have not realized the true "intention" of men deliberately delaying divorce.

Maybe he can't let go of his unwillingness, maybe he can't bear to hurt his children, maybe he can't bear to lose his property, maybe he feels divorce is embarrassing.

Women should distinguish what kind of situation it is, think calmly, take it seriously, and know what exactly they want. Of course, for situations where you shouldn't get divorced, or if it's just a temporary impulse, you still have to think twice, don't do anything you regret, and cherish the marriage between two people.

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