I am a student. I'm afraid to speak in front of everyone. I am afraid that if I make a mistake, they will laugh at me. What should I do?

Socialization is an indispensable activity for everyone in modern life. But many introverts, especially young women, will feel uneasy in interpersonal communication, and they will blush, sweat, beat faster, stutter and be at a loss. This phenomenon is called "social phobia".

General social phobia: If you suffer from general social phobia, you will be afraid to be the focus of attention everywhere and under any circumstances. You will find that people around you are watching you and observing your every move. You are afraid of being introduced to strangers and even eating and drinking in public places. You will avoid shopping malls and restaurants as much as possible. You never dare to argue with your boss, colleagues or anyone to defend your rights.

Special social phobia: If you have special social phobia, you will be particularly afraid of certain special situations or occasions. For example, you are afraid of speaking in public and performing in public. Still, you are not afraid in other social situations. Salesman, actor, teacher, musician, etc. Often have special social phobia. There is nothing unusual in their general communication with others, but when they need to perform on the stage or make a speech in public, they will feel extremely scared and often become tongue-tied or even stand on the spot.

People with social phobia are always worried about making a fool of themselves in front of others and feel extremely anxious before attending any social gathering. They will imagine how they make a fool of themselves in front of others. When they are really with others, they will feel more unnatural and even can't say a word. When the party is over, they will relive the scenes in their minds over and over again, reviewing how they handled every detail and what they should do correctly.

Both social phobias have similar physical symptoms: dry mouth, sweating, rapid heartbeat, and want to go to the toilet. The symptoms that people around you may see are: blushing, stuttering, and slight trembling. Sometimes, patients will find themselves short of breath and cold hands and feet. The worst result is that the patient will go into a state of panic.

Social phobia is a very painful psychological obstacle, which seriously affects the life and work of patients. Many things that ordinary people can easily do, but people with social phobia are afraid. Patients may think they are boring people, and others will think so. In this way, patients will become too sensitive and even unwilling to disturb others. Doing so will make patients feel more anxious and depressed, thus further worsening the symptoms of social phobia. Many patients change their lives to adapt to their symptoms. They (and their families) have to miss many meaningful activities. They can't go shopping, establish a normal relationship between men and women, take their children to the park to play, and even have to give up good job opportunities and avoid dealing with people.

How can we eliminate this mental illness? The following five measures are very effective. Try them:

1, do some exercise to overcome shyness. For example, stand firm, then gently lift the heel and hold it for a few seconds before putting it down. Doing this 30 times each time, two or three times a day, can eliminate the feeling of uneasiness.

2. Being shy makes people short of breath. So you have to force yourself to take a few deep breaths and rhythmic breaths, which can relieve tension and lay the foundation for building self-confidence.

3. When you are with others, whether it is a formal or informal party, you might as well take something in your hand from the beginning, such as a book, a handkerchief or other small things. Holding these things will make shy people feel comfortable and secure.

4. Learn to look at others fearlessly and concentrate. Of course, it is difficult for a shy person to start doing this, but you must learn. Imagine, if you always avoid the sight of others and stare at a piece of furniture or a distant corner, isn't that naive? Aren't you equal? Why not show some courage and look at others boldly and confidently?

Sometimes your shyness is not entirely due to nervousness, but because your knowledge field is too narrow or you know too little about what is happening at present. If you can often read some extracurricular books, newspapers and magazines, broaden your horizons and enrich your experience, you will find that you can express your views effortlessly in social situations. This will help you build confidence and overcome shyness.