My parents laughed at my depression.

For friends with so-called psychological and mental problems, the most important thing for you at present is to tear off all kinds of "symptoms" and "diseases" labels attached to you as soon as possible.

All your negative emotions exist in everyone alive in the world, just like breathing. You're sick. Everybody's sick. As ridiculous as eating disorders and sleep disorders. Since it is normal, there is no need to solve it. Unless life is solved, it will not be solved. You are all normal people, no different from others. Therefore, psychological and mental problems are a false proposition. Solving psychological problems is the problem itself. This is a terrible trap. Once you fall in, you don't even know it, and you don't even have the consciousness to jump out.

What is the difference between us and ordinary people? The difference is that others have negative emotions and don't fall in. Not only did we not know it was a trap when we fell in, but we certainly didn't know how to jump out, let alone how to jump out. We can only struggle innocently.

Therefore, having negative emotions is not terrible. The terrible thing is never to get caught up in it. Don't be afraid if you get stuck, as long as you know it's a trap and you don't need to solve anything, just jump out and you'll be fine. Someone said, "I can't jump out." That's because you don't know how the trap came from, how it worked, and how it fell in. I can't even see the trap, of course I don't know how to jump out. Knowing this, you can do the opposite and jump out.

Where is the trap? It lies in all kinds of persistence and desires in our hearts. It weaves an invisible net for ourselves and firmly binds ourselves. In the process of solving various practical problems that are considered to be the causes of our psychological problems, the net becomes denser and denser until we can't move. If you do the opposite, only by letting go of all kinds of persistence and desires and solving any problems can you get out of the trap completely. This is the way to get lost.

Someone insisted on asking me the specific method. There is no specific method. Our hearts are all the time. Internal problems cannot be solved by external methods. We still eat, sleep, work, study and live, and do whatever we want. Since I'm not sick, of course I can only do whatever I want. Is there any other way? But what to do at this time is completely different from before. Now I just want to eat and sleep, and work is work. Learning is learning. Live in the present, don't regret the past, and don't fear the future.

Traditional psychology, because it doesn't understand what psychological problems are, has scientifically and systematically invented many seemingly scientific, intelligent and tall "symptoms" and "diseases" for various seemingly negative emotions and physiological reactions, which makes people dazzled and cannot but admire the greatness and intelligence of psychology. In order to shine, traditional psychologists have also carefully designed various scales, which are extremely accurate, scientific and convincing. However, this is really ridiculous. Our hearts can be so precise and unchangeable. Any so-called normal person will be labeled when he has negative emotions.

In order to cover up their incompetence, traditional psychologists tell everyone: "This is not only a disease, but also a lifelong disease, and you must take medicine for life." This conclusion pushed many people to the abyss of despair. Once we are convinced of this conclusion, we will accept our fate, give up ourselves and spend our lives like walking dead. This is really a great sorrow.

You know, we must take everything into our own hands. If it is due to the outside world, and we can't change the outside world, what can we do except despair? In the same way, if we attribute the so-called psychological problems to the outside world and think that they are caused by heredity, family, environment, disease, money, others or other reasons, if these external problems can be changed (in fact, even if they can't be changed, it won't help), then you have nothing but despair.

You know, our inner control is in our own hands. Whether we are happy, depressed or anxious is up to us. Your mentality can only be changed by yourself. The same problem can be handled with different mentality. If we are unwilling to change, there is nothing anyone can do.

Our hearts have nothing to do with the outside world and physiology. On the contrary, physiological changes are caused by changes in our hearts. If we attribute the reason to the outside world, then we will lose control of our own lives, resign ourselves to fate, go with the flow, be completely irresponsible to ourselves, give ourselves to others and still be slaughtered by others.

However, your heart can only be changed by yourself, and no one else can move it at all. It's impossible to make people change their minds. Legs on yourself, others can only tell you the direction, you need to take every step by yourself. One step is one step, if not, stay where you are.

I'm not saying that we didn't work hard in the past, on the contrary, but that we worked too hard. It can be said that we have tried our best, exhausted all means and methods, and even worked hard for decades, but we just can't get out. Why? Because everyone went in the wrong direction and couldn't find the reason, they took the opposite road. As a result, the harder they work, the more serious they are. It's best to do nothing.

It seems that the sea of suffering is boundless, but in fact, the other shore is behind you, right in front of you. When you turn around, you turn around. We just need to stop releasing negative energy and start releasing positive energy. If you change your mind, you will be fine, you will turn around, you will change your direction, just stick to it. So, what is positive energy? Positive energy means that every thought, every sentence and every line is altruistic. I said too much in the article, so I won't go into details.

Psychological and mental problems are originally caused by wrong thinking patterns. But we still use the old thinking mode to solve it in the process of solving it. This will not only fail to solve the problem, but also make it more and more serious. This is also the reason why psychological and mental problems are difficult to come out. It's backwards! We must start with changing the old mode of thinking, which is caused by wrong ideas and world outlook, outlook on life and values. This is the root of the problem. Understand this truth, starting from changing ideas, psychological problems will naturally disappear. Actually, it's not just a psychological problem. All the problems in life are like this. Some people say that it is too difficult to change the way of thinking. You haven't changed. How do you know it's hard? In fact, it is not as difficult as everyone thinks. As long as we establish new thinking habits, the old ones will naturally disappear.

Friends with psychological and mental problems, no matter what situation you are in now, first of all, you should understand that you have no pain except happiness. This is the real you. No matter what kind of desperate practical problems you are facing at this time, such as major diseases or major economic problems, you should be happy. No matter how painful and desperate your heart is at this time, you can't get rid of all kinds of negative thoughts and how those thoughts haunt you. Please believe me, none of this is true, no matter how real it is. That's the illusion you created for yourself. No matter how painful and desperate you are, it does not belong to you, nor does it belong to you. Since it's not you, you can throw away the pain unceremoniously, just like an old dress. Nothing can't be abandoned. Once thrown away, all that remains is happiness.

Don't feel difficult, but because you don't believe me, you don't want to do it. As soon as you do it, you will find it is a paper tiger. Darkness looks terrible, but when it comes to light, even a glimmer of light will disappear immediately.

As for how to do it, I said too much. The only thing you need to do is to ignore all kinds of uncomfortable ideas that are constantly sprouting in your mind, and never face and solve them, that is, ignore them. As long as you ignore it, you are nourishing it and being dragged away by it.

Negative thinking is very cunning, elusive, ever-changing, both soft and hard, so don't be fooled into keeping up.

On the one hand, we ignore negative energy, on the other hand, we should release positive energy. Energy is the deepest cause of all problems. Our present state is caused by the lack of righteousness and positive energy. To get positive energy, you must first release it. Just like if we want to harvest fruit in autumn, we must sow in spring. This is a natural law, independent of human will.

Positive energy is the real weapon to overcome everything. It is light, and there is no darkness that it cannot overcome. We just release positive energy and ignore negative energy. The less you think, the better. The more you think, the more obstacles you have, and the more negative energy you have.

Our life doesn't need any change, we just need to actively devote ourselves to work and study, treat work and family with dedication, and help others enthusiastically. Turning resentment into gratitude, turning troubles into blessings, our future has changed in an instant.

If we really don't have any strength now, we are dragged by negative energy every minute and have exhausted our strength, then we must resolutely ignore these, which is not correct. The real you are full of energy. You can just send some positive wishes and hope that others will not have their own pain. The power of positive energy is so great that you can feel it soon. My heart will calm down.

If your family or children are in psychological and mental problems, don't be influenced by children. Just improve your positive energy and don't be obsessed with children. If you cling to something, you will be led by it, which will not only help the children, but also drag yourself into it. Let go of all children's problems, no longer be influenced by children, only concentrate on improving yourself, let children be influenced by themselves, and finally bring them up.