Second-married women send children in a circle of friends (the circle of friends stings the ex-husband's heart)

It is said that children are a godsend, but not everyone is qualified to be parents, and children do not have the right to choose their parents, so it is most unfortunate for children that parents themselves cannot bear the responsibility of being parents.

In today's society, the cost of raising a child is increasing. Many people choose Dink without effective commitment. Many people don't understand. They think it's natural to get married and raise children, but their parents don't want to. If they don't even know this, how can they train a child into an adult?

Many people simply regard having children as a task, thinking that as long as they have children, they will complete the task of carrying on the family line, but in fact, children are independent individuals, and parents should choose to have children only when they are fully prepared for a new life, otherwise they will be irresponsible not only to themselves but also to their children.

Netizen Lynne shared his story with us. During his marriage, he chose Dink under the persuasion of his wife. After the divorce, his wife and her new husband gave birth to a child. Let's take a look at his story.

Meet each other on blind dates and get married quickly.

Lynn and his wife Gao Yue met through blind date. In fact, both of them are only in their twenties. Just because I was busy at work, I bought a car and bought a house, and I forgot about falling in love and getting married. The parents of both families are very anxious, and they are afraid that their children will find someone casually in the end, and they all try their best to arrange blind dates for their children in a hurry.

Lynn and Gao Yue met because of an accident. The two met in the same place on a blind date, met by chance, and came together. So compared with other couples who get married on blind dates, they have a little emotional foundation. Neither parent interfered too much in their affairs. After three months together, they got married after learning about their personality and family.

After marriage, two people still concentrate on their respective jobs as before, and there is no harm. Two years later, Lynn and Gao Yue saved a down payment for a suite, settled down and started a business. At the urging of her parents, Lynne also began to consider the children's problems.

Lynne told Gao Yue that Gao Yue had no objection. She just said that she wanted to coordinate her work. Unexpectedly, Lynne said directly to her, "What are you coordinating? If we are going to have children, one of us must resign. I am a big man. Do you want me to quit my job and coax the children at home? "

Gao Yue never thought that Chen Lin would say, "But my salary is similar to yours now, and I will probably be promoted this year. It's not good for me to give up now. "

Isn't having children what women should do? What does it have to do with me?

"Abortion, you are wrong. Isn't a woman's mission to have children? Really can't. When the child grows up, I will let my parents take it, and you can go out and look for a job. " Although Gao Yue doesn't quite agree with Lynn, she also understands that it is difficult for many women to have children and a successful career. She can only talk to Lynne first and let her think about it.

Gao Yue went home first to discuss with his parents. Her parents expressed their willingness to support her daughter's decision, but Gao Yue's mother warned her, "Daughter, although her parents said they supported all your decisions, it is obvious that you can only choose one of your work and resignation to have children. If you have to run at both ends, you may not only make mistakes at work, but also be bad for your children. "

Gao Yue understood her mother's meaning, and she began to think about whether to put down her work first, but she didn't tell Lynne yet, but wanted to inform him after making up her mind, but she thought she had chosen a job early in the morning, and then she always mentioned it intentionally or unintentionally.

"You know, I have a classmate who is the same age as me. Now he has two children, both of them. Look at us. " Lynne's hint is obvious, but the more so, the more hesitant Gao Yue is. At this time, Gao Yue's boss told her that the promotion was certain, and Gao Yue still didn't want to give up in the face of such a rare opportunity.

She thought Lynn would understand her. I didn't expect Lynne to fly into a rage when she found out. "Do you like women? The most important thing for a woman is to have children. Why else would you get married? " "No, I'm not saying I wasn't born. I just want to work for another year, secure my present position, and then take maternity leave. After that, we both reduced the workload and took turns to take care of the children and the parents on both sides. " Gao Yue also knew that her approach might be a little inconsiderate of Lynne, so she made a compromise suggestion.

"You mean you got a promotion, but let me sacrifice my career. Why, shouldn't you women be responsible for having children? We men should pay attention to our own careers. " Lynne took this for granted, and Yue felt that her previous understanding of him was wrong, which made her start thinking. Even if she does return to her family and devote herself to being a full-time mother, is Lynne a qualified father?

After thinking for a while, Gao Yue made a decision. "Lynne, I think what you said is reasonable, but I don't think you and I should give up our future life for my children, so let's dink. Maybe I will change my mind later, but now I want to fight for my life."

Lynne seems to have heard some jokes. "Gao Yue, are you kidding? We are almost 30. What's there to argue about? Have a baby for the rest of your life. What are you doing? "

"No matter what you think, I won't change my mind. If you feel unfair to you, we can also get a divorce. " Gao Yue is very calm.

Gao Yue chose Dink, and Lynn divorced her.

Lynn was so angry that she slammed the door. Later, she called Gao Yue's parents and in-laws. Gao Yue's parents didn't say anything. As always, they support their daughter. Needless to say, they want to have grandchildren. They called Gao Yue and scolded her. Knowing that Gao Yue still didn't want to have children, she said that she hoped Lynn would divorce her.

Gao Yue didn't say anything, knowing that Gao Yue had made up her mind, Lynne finally chose to divorce her, and Gao Yue also readily agreed. When she came out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Lynne was still swearing. "You are a woman who doesn't want to have children. Who will marry you in the future? " "This won't bother you, but I still advise you that giving birth to a child is definitely not a woman's own business. You have to bear the responsibility of being a father."

Lynne obviously didn't listen to her. Later, when dating, he would write the sentence "After marriage, I hope the woman can quit her job and tutor the children" into his request, but few people agreed to date him. Lynne is confused. He felt nothing wrong until a year later, when he saw Gao Yuefa's circle of friends.

Gao Yue and her current husband are holding their newborn twin sons and laughing happily. The article wrote, "Thank you for your thoughtfulness. I am willing to reduce the workload and take care of the children. I will come back to work in the second month. Don't worry. "

Lynne felt her heart pricked. He sent a WeChat to Gao Yue, "You are willing to have children now. Why did you dink with me in the first place? " "I don't want a widowed marriage."

Gao Yue doesn't really want to be a Dink. He just hopes that Lynne, as the father and husband of the child, can take on her responsibilities. However, in the communication with Lynn, Lynn made it clear that all the tasks of giving birth to children are on Gao Yue. He has this idea. It is not difficult to imagine that Gao Yue's situation after the birth of a child has never been the responsibility of a person to support his family, but Chen Lin has such an idea. Gao Yue thinks he will be a widow in the future.

There are many people like Gao Yue in life. They know what they want and whether they can bear the heavy responsibility of raising children. They will not give up their future for their children, nor will they rashly decide to become parents. In fact, many people should learn from this practice because there are too many unqualified parents now. They think that raising a child with their own money is a good parent. In fact, raising a child is more important to their growth stage.

Children are independent individuals, and it is said that an unhappy childhood will affect a person's life, so it is very important to choose parents. Don't treat children as objects and choose them at will. Such a choice is extremely irresponsible.

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