Children don’t need a father, a mother is enough. What kind of mentality is this?

With the rapid development of science and technology, people's openness and inclusiveness have been greatly improved. Some traditional concepts can no longer restrict people with advanced ideas and independent personalities. As a result, the world has become more and more open and inclusive. Becoming more diverse.

Ye Haiyang, a handsome female referee with independent personality and strong strength, once skipped the steps of love and marriage and chose to go abroad to borrow sperm to have children. The entire Internet heard the news.

She broke the traditional views on marriage and love and took the road that few people took. When everyone lamented her handsomeness and wealth, there were also many questions: Is a family without a father a complete family?

These questioning voices are not completely unreasonable. According to traditional concepts, only when the family is complete and healthy can children grow up healthily. The lack of mother's love after meals will cause children to have some personality defects.

And Alisie Fromm clearly stated in the book "The Art of Loving":

"Any detailed research report shows that there is more tension and unhappiness in an intact family than in an open family." Rupture is more harmful to children, who at least clearly teach that one can end the current intolerable situation through decisive decisions

Some houses that appear to be intact actually do so. Scattered inside. Some fathers are lazy, have sex, have affairs, domestic violence and abuse...

This kind of father who is not qualified to be a father often causes shadow damage, which is the most irreversible to his children. .

Widowed marriages are usually worse than single-parent families.

Disharmony between parents can seriously affect children's emotional personality. American psychologists point out that children's brain and heart development are worse than those in single-parent families. Ours is much earlier. At an ideal level, educational experts point out:

Before the age of 3, he can grow to 80% of the mature stage and can make more than 700 to 1,000 neural connections. At this time, he A lot of information will be obtained through the auditory organ, and if the brain is a consciousness machine, then the language of the parents will create this machine within three or four years of the child's birth."?

Unfriendly relationships within the family usually do not happen. Noticing this can cause invisible harm to the child.

For those who support Ye Haiyang’s behavior, there is usually another point of view: the theory that the father is useless. Internet jokes once mocked the relationship between children and parents: The most common thing children say is: "Where is my mother?" The most common thing fathers say is: Dad, where is my mother?

The view that fathers are useless is indeed somewhat biased. From a psychological point of view, the reason why people form such a stereotype is because of all people, because fathers and mothers play different roles in the growth of their children. role.

Women have delicate minds, so mothers pay more attention to the details of their children's growth, which is the main role; men are good at observing problems from a macro perspective, so they are more strict about major events or principles for their children, which is the hidden role .

Therefore, the father's simple verbal love and inner love sometimes cannot be directly passed on to the children.

According to statistics, nearly 80 million people in our country currently belong to single-person families. Unhealthy families will cause a lot of harm to children, but this does not mean that there are no reasonable ways to treat them. question. The measure of family integrity is not measured by the number of people in the family, but often by the presence of enough love.

Ye Haiyang’s family is missing, so whose family is not missing? Financial disputes, divorce and remarriage, from bloody TV dramas to all kinds of conflicts in real life, which one can't leave a deep shadow and hurt people?

It can be seen from Ye Haiyang's personal situation that her independent financial situation and care for her children are enough to make up for her love for her parents.

A truly loving family is supported by love. Meeting true love is the luckiest thing in life, but the opposite is not necessarily a bad thing. If a person meets love without destiny, choose The marriage he would have was an irreparable mistake.

Faced with the child's origin, she is also calm to the outside world. Compared with those who make family relationships ambiguous and private, the sensitive atmosphere leads to the child's inferiority complex.

From a psychological point of view, some positive education methods can also make up for the child's lack of personality due to family deficiencies. Without a father, Haiyang's meticulous care and guidance of children's values ??may not necessarily be better.

In short, morality is self-discipline, and behavior that does not cause harm to others should not fall into the category of being kidnapped by morality. Ye Haiyang’s behavior neither actively advocated nor arbitrarily opposed it. Respect is the public The attitude you should have.