Why doesn't your circle of friends send friends?

When I was in college, I was a person who liked to make friends. Whether traveling or drinking a cup of milk tea, you should make friends, but after working slowly, you don't make many friends. If I want to say the reason, I have thought it over. There are several.

Weak relationship brings psychological burden.

For most people, the circle of friends has experienced a process of continuous expansion. At first, it was just a circle of friends, which was small but precise and private. Slowly, colleagues, leaders, customers, etc. Gradually become a part of the circle of friends. When there are more and more similar weak relationships, the fun shared by friends circle becomes less and less. When you send any information, you should take care of all levels of relationships and be careful what you say.

Of course, the circle of friends can be divided into groups, but when you carefully organize the groups, the fun you originally wanted to share will become tangled and cumbersome. In the first year of work, I sent a message "I am tired of work and want to rot", which was seen by my colleagues, so I reported it to the leader, and then the leader was always angry with me, which was really annoying. Later, I left my job.

I am absent-minded and can't be myself.

The circle of friends has gradually become a small society. Originally a place to fly and pursue souls, it has become a sophisticated place facing multiple constraints and evaluations. Friends share it out of face and mutual affection. Praise and respond frequently, and send a dynamic message yourself. If a friend likes it and responds, respond to it in order to maintain the relationship. Unconsciously wasted a lot of energy, making people tired. In that case, it's better not to send it, so it can be quieter.

Commercialization and commercialization are repugnant.

As a netizen said, "? Today's circle of friends, chicken soup is not nutritious, advertisements can be seen everywhere, and WeChat business is everywhere. " . When the circle of friends gradually becomes a hypermarket, the trend of commercialization intensifies, and the space for friends and emotions becomes smaller and smaller. At first, the expectation and imagination of putting emotions in the circle of friends were gradually broken, and there were fewer and fewer reasons to make friends. Even if I do, I seldom go to see it.

The reason mentioned above is only part of the reason, but the main reason why I don't send a circle of friends is that all my circle of friends are sent to people I care about in the form of private chat. For example, when I go to play, I will send a message to tell my friend that the scenery is very good, and then invite her to come with me when I have time. I will also send a private message to tell the other party not to step on the thunder. This sharing is responsive and meaningful. It makes sense to send a circle of friends. Anyway, I think the desire to share is for those who are worth sharing.