Don’t “cut” your children’s hair when you have nothing to do: it’s more difficult than tutoring homework, mainly because you feel sorry for your children

Written by: Xiao Mu

Final draft: Xiao Mu

Cutting hair is originally a very common thing in life, but if the target is a child, Then this matter will become very "unusual".

I saw a baby like this in a short video not long ago:

The father obviously wanted to cut his child’s hair, maybe because he was worried that the father would “miss it again”, or maybe because he was afraid of getting a haircut. The sound of the instrument made the baby cry very sadly, and the father was helpless.

As long as the father takes a step forward, the baby's cry will be doubled. In the end, there is no other way. The father can only take out the bathtub and coax the baby who likes to take a bath to calm down for a while.

@黑黑的Hey: My child is young and it’s not cost-effective to go to the barber shop. Basically, I solved the problem. But every time I get my hair cut, it’s like going through a tribulation. My child cries so much that I I didn't dare to start, and I broke it several times.

@凯Uncle’s Baby: Every time I cut my second son’s hair, the whole family works together. It’s much more difficult than giving homework to the eldest son. I’m worried about hurting him and not cutting it properly, which makes me feel bad. child.

@万万: This video is so real. When I was a kid, I gave my child a haircut and it was as if I wanted to beat him to death. It was so difficult that I was sweating every time.

It can also be seen from the comments of netizens that the problem of haircuts for children is not only a problem encountered by individual families. Every parent who plans to give their children a haircut is a parent who is the best at pretending.

· I don’t like the sound of the machine. The vibration of the electric hair clipper is relatively strong, which makes the child feel uncomfortable.

· Babies have the shadow of haircuts. If they are hurt, it will leave a very deep negative impression and they will be rejected in the future.

· Inexplicable fear of haircuts, thinking that cutting hair is a bad thing, and inner resistance.

· Not used to being restrained, unable to sit quietly in a chair, unable to accept instructions from strangers.

· There are psychological shadows, "Mom's last haircut was too ugly", "Dad was too cruel and ugly".

In fact, it is very normal for children who face a cold machine for the first time to be afraid. A strange barber with an exaggerated hairstyle or an unfamiliar person giving instructions are all factors that make them afraid. Factors in children’s fears.

If your child is very averse to cutting his hair but has to cut it, parents should think of as many ways as possible to avoid shadowing the child.

The cartoon "Big Ears Tutu" once talked about the problem of cutting children's hair. The big tiger who looks very strong on the surface is very afraid of having his hair cut, but the weak little girl is not afraid. .

Because she knows that "cutting hair can make you more beautiful, and I feel very happy when I think about it", and she also knows that "the uncles and aunts in the barber shop will not cut off our ears."

Using self-suggestion to allow yourself to accept hair cutting is far more effective than the coercion and inducement of your parents. In contrast, the smart Xiaomei is more brave because she knows how to cut her hair. "It's not that scary."

When parents guide their children, they should also be careful not to use coercion or inducement, let alone say "I'll give you an injection if you don't cut your hair," "If you don't cut your hair, the teacher won't like you," etc. Worse words.

It is easier for children to accept hair cutting from the bottom of their hearts than for parents to force them to accept it actively. Therefore, if cutting hair for children does not want to be like a fight, it is important to use different guidance methods.

Children feel most secure at home. If they are afraid of haircuts or don’t like barber shops, parents can give their children haircuts at home.

There are many children's hair clippers on the Internet, which are not expensive and safe to use. It is easier for them to accept haircuts at home without external interference.

If parents need a haircut, they can take their children with them, let them slowly experience the atmosphere of the barber shop, and tell them that they only need to accompany their parents.

Try to let them relax as much as possible when they are in the barber shop. Don't be too hostile to the barber shop. Let them accept that this is just a place that provides services, and it is not as scary as imagined.

If children are very resistant to adult barbershops, parents can take them to a children's barbershop, where there are children of the same age and many toys and cartoons that children like.

Professional barbers will also encourage children to be brave babies while cutting their hair. If these words are conveyed to children through strangers, their acceptance will be higher.

In short, it is not difficult to give children a haircut, but it is not as simple as everyone thinks. If you don’t have enough time, it is best not to do it yourself, otherwise it will not only make a joke, but also the child will easily have low self-esteem. They may be even more averse to haircuts.

Today’s topic: Have you ever cut your child’s hair? How receptive are they?