Want "someone else's wife"? You have to become someone else’s husband

01

There is a joke that was once widely circulated:

Treat your wife like a princess, and you will be a prince; treat your wife like a queen, and you will be an emperor; treat your wife like a queen, and you will be an emperor; If your wife is a nanny, you will be a security guard; if your wife is a maid, you will be a eunuch. So whether you want to be an emperor or a eunuch depends on how you treat your wife.

Although I wanted to laugh, I deeply believed it.

Perhaps, in your eyes, your wife is unkempt, disheveled, speaks in a rough voice, and has lost all her charm, while other people’s wives look well-groomed, polite, and talk... He is very measured, and his every frown and smile can't help but make people take a second look.

Then you start to sigh, how come other people’s wives are so good, they can go to the hall, work in the kitchen, be busy at work, and have a son!

Stop it!

Don’t be too busy with envy, first look at what other people’s husbands do, and then sigh.

02

I once met such a woman. She often smiled at the corners of her mouth, had a charming look at the corners of her eyes and eyebrows, and spoke softly.

She was a former elementary school music teacher and now a stay-at-home mother.

After raising her children, she opened a piano studio and trained primary school students to play piano in the evenings and weekends. Unlike others, she did not rent a store outside. Instead, she renovated the living room at home and turned it into a small piano room.

Every weekend, the sound of various piano tunes comes gently from the window of her house, permeating the atmosphere of life in the community, adding a warmth to the fireworks life.

According to the plot setting, this woman’s husband should be an affordable man with a low income. Otherwise, why would his wife still be working hard to make money besides taking care of the baby?

However, life is not a TV series.

His husband broke out of the system and started his own business. Although it is very difficult to start a business on your own now, his husband started early, found the right path, and was very flexible. Therefore, after the company got on the right track, the income was also very high, and he achieved financial freedom long ago.

Although her income from training students is less than that of her husband, she works hard and does not slack off at all.

Therefore, the father can only pick up the children from get off work every night, cook, help the children with homework, and take the whole family out for a ride on weekends.

Someone said to him, your wife is really weird. She really doesn’t enjoy having you as a supporter and has to do everything on her own.

He smiled gently every time.

He felt that others only saw her dependence and comfort, but could not see her emptiness and self-doubt.

He said: Although his wife is a stay-at-home mother, family and children are not all she believes in. Men constantly create new lives to resist the monotony of repetition day after day. Women can do the same. This is her right. What I can do is let her pursue and create.

She wanted to prove herself and fly freely for a while, and he happened to be willing to support her and admire her courage.

It is said that after getting married, the husband is half responsible for the appearance and temperament of his wife. A husband who is considerate, tolerant and accommodating to his wife allows his wife to have full freedom both internally and externally. Not bad, not too bad-tempered.

A woman nourished by love like this, even as she ages, she ages gracefully and becomes an attractive sight.

03

As I write this, I think of the boss and his wife of the company when I was at work.

The proprietress is a woman with quite a petty bourgeoisie. She always wears exquisite makeup, wears decent clothes, and practices yoga every day. She also has a great figure, and her movements are full of feminine charm.

She is vigorous and resolute at work, walking with a wind in her eyes, and has the style of a royal lady in the workplace, but when she calms down, she immediately returns to the tone of a little girl.

Don’t all men like women like this? Anyone who sees it will sigh, this is someone else’s wife!

She loves all kinds of little romances. Today she DIYs essential oils, tomorrow she makes homemade yogurt, the day after tomorrow she makes a bottle of enzymes with no expiration date, and the day after tomorrow...you can never guess what she will bring. What a surprise.

The boss never said that she was not doing her job properly, but supported her with joy. No matter what she asked him to do, we could always hear the boss's affectionate words from across the office: "Okay, let's get off work." Go buy it.”

One New Year’s Day, the boss invited our entire group to his home. After showing us his single-family garden villa, he let us spend our time freely. I ran to the kitchen to help the landlady.

With your wife in the palm of your hand like this, according to conventional thinking, would you think that our boss is the legendary nouveau riche with a shiny face or a short, fat, frustrated passerby?

No, life never takes the usual path.

As far as image is concerned, the boss is refreshing and handsome, a matte handsome man, about 188cm tall, the type of a long-legged Korean oppa, you can make some assumptions.

More importantly, he has a high level of self-cultivation and is extremely polite and considerate in his dealings with others. You will always feel like a spring breeze when you get along with him.

However, they do not live in Qiong Yao drama. Like any living family, they will also quarrel.

Our boss lady is definitely a sharp-tongued type. Every time she describes something to us, she has the aura of a director, so when we argue with the boss, she is also plausible and convincing. She is not just a man.

Even in the office, she never gives in. Every argument always ends in the boss's compromise.

Occasionally, we will see that the boss will lean down and say to her dotingly: "Okay, okay, I won't argue with you, you will be right in the end anyway."

He was 188cm tall and suddenly became 128cm tall in front of the boss lady.

One time when the company went out together, due to the lively atmosphere, everyone couldn't help but ask the boss, why do you always give way to Sister Zhang (the boss's wife) every time you quarrel with her? Sometimes it's obviously her fault, right?

The boss laughed and said, because the life is ours, even if we win the argument, what will happen? Home is not a place for reasoning, but a place for love. If you win with reason and lose with feelings, your life will be boring.

I have no way of verifying how many people listened to the boss's words. Anyway, we have properly collected this dog food.

Yes, in a world of two people, one must be making trouble, one is smiling, one is noisy, and the other is coaxing. And if you are willing to be the smiling and coaxing man, your wife will not always be the noisy woman.

People, in the final analysis, are all emotional animals. If you are kind to her, she will remember it, repay you inadvertently, and light up your life.

04

I recently saw an article in the media interviewing Huang Lei, and I was quite moved.

He and his wife Sun Li have known each other for 20 years. During these 20 years, they had almost no quarrels and their lives were uneventful and ordinary.

Huang Lei said that he has become busier and busier after marriage, and his wife Sun Li protects the children and home. Here comes the key point, "My friends will definitely be her friends. If she doesn't like it, I will definitely not like it either." I like it.”

I don’t know how you will feel when you see this. Anyway, a friend said that it made her cry because her husband is the kind of person who only knows how to have fun with his friends. Someone who doesn't take her with her and requires her to take good care of her family and children.

Also, in daily life, Sun Li almost never interferes with his work, and Huang Lei never asks her. Since they were young, they had developed the habit of giving each other independence.

This is really important. There are many couples who find it difficult to be both intimate and independent from each other.

Huang Lei said that to be honest, his wife is just an ordinary girl. She is not unique or deliberately flamboyant. She is very beautiful, but she is not eye-catching or charming, nor is she extraordinary.

In terms of housework, she can hardly cook and is not good at handwork. At work, she almost gave up her acting career for the sake of her children and family, but before giving up, she had been lazy and not working hard, even though she was extremely talented.

But Huang Lei said, I love a wife like me.

He said that women like my wife are actually not rare and are universal, but in my heart, this is the only one that will not be returned or exchanged.

Huang Lei is so affectionate!

So when we look at Sun Li, she is not ostentatious or dazzling. She is full of smiles in the corners of her eyes and eyebrows, because a woman who is truly loved has tenderness in her heart and eyes, and every move she makes. Inadvertently, you convey your happiness to the people around you, and naturally you become more and more gentle and beautiful.

05

It is said that behind a successful man there is a good woman. In fact, behind every gentle woman there is a man who truly cares for her?

In a good love or marriage, both parties should achieve each other rather than destroy each other.

A college classmate complained that his wife turned into a "dominatrix" after giving birth to a child, and her Hedong lion roar filled the house all day long, making him feel afraid of going home.

However, after getting to know her a little more, I discovered that her wife had to get up to feed and change diapers seven or eight times every night. When she was tired, she occasionally pushed him who was snoring like thunder next to him, but in exchange, he got a thunderous response. anger.

She felt that she had no one to rely on, so she could only become stronger and shoulder the heavy burden alone. She couldn't wait to find an armor to arm herself, and tried to be strong with all her teeth.

In this case, if you want her to smile at you and be gentle, wake up, brother, you can become a wall-facer!

Don’t think that your wife is wrong because she becomes unreasonable. You also bear half of the responsibility.

They are married as husband and wife, and there is no doubt about their love. I wish to win the heart of one person and never leave each other.

The moment we walked hand in hand on the red carpet, it was definitely not for the purpose of alienation and isolation in the future, not for the purpose of becoming enemies, not for the purpose of becoming strangers.

It must be to stay together for a lifetime and grow old together, so when you are resentful of each other, stop and think about your original intention when you chose to be together.

Only by never forgetting your original intention can you achieve success.

Please cherish the person in front of you, and don’t let the relationship between husband and wife that has been cultivated for thousands of years turn into a PK between resentful couples. Try to be a good husband, and you will also gain a wife that others will envy.

It is actually easy for a woman to be satisfied. She does not require you to be rich and powerful, nor does she require you to be so handsome that you have no friends (rights) or hands (hands) in the world. You only need to do the following things. .

1. Support your wife’s whims, don’t laugh at her naivety, and don’t say she’s boring. Understand that she just wants to live a different and wonderful life.

2. Appropriate praise. A good wife always praises her. Your affirmation is more important than anything else.

3. Don’t dislike her nagging. She just loves you and wants to share all the trivial things with you. Think about it, would she just find someone on the street to nag for a long time?

4. Respect her parents and friends around her. If you really don’t like it, you can explain clearly the reasons and reasons. Don’t just blame and ridicule.

5. He is a big man outside and a little man at home. The family is so big and there is no distinction between husband and wife - this is what Huang Lei does.

Six Occasionally being romantic is also a small splash in ordinary life. When you recall the past in the future, it will be an unforgettable time for you.

In addition, if you are a man's wife, the same applies to the above.

It's not difficult, is it?