How to master the degree of joking with children

Many parents are flaunting how much they love their children, but in fact, sometimes, the way you care for your children is wrong, which is an invisible harm to children. Sometimes parents play inappropriate jokes on their children, which may inadvertently hurt their self-esteem and psychology. The following is jy 135. Experience on how to master the degree of joking with children. I hope I can help you. Friends who find it useful can share it with more people!

How to master the most sensitive corner of human mind when joking with children?

Children's Dignity Many parents have noticed that their babies over one year old or even less than one year old already have self-esteem. For example, a parent said: My baby doesn't sleep at night, and grandma slaps her ass and she starts to cry. It doesn't hurt to pat your ass so gently. I didn't expect such a small child to have self-esteem. ?

Soviet educator Suhomlinski said: Children's dignity is the most sensitive corner of human mind, and protecting children's self-esteem is the potential power to protect children. ? Parents may know that they shouldn't beat and scold their children in public, but they often don't know that some of them are just a little joke, but they don't see anything funny in their children's eyes, and even think it's his shame.

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The child's face is particularly thin. At a parents' party, adults talked about bed wetting and told their oldest bed wetting history as a joke. Coco is playing with building blocks, but when he hears the adults talking? Wet the bed? Then I moved to the corner of the sofa with some embarrassment. Cocoa often wets the bed. Cocoa's father noticed that Cocoa's position had moved, but he didn't notice his unnatural expression. Instead, he went over and picked up Coco and said, Coco, you drew a map on the bed again last night. ? Cocoa blushed and defended: I didn't! ? The uncles and aunts next to him all laughed, and a friend next to him blew his little nose and said, Oh, it's a shame to wet the bed at such an age! ? Cocoa's face became redder and her eyes filled with tears. She broke away from her father's hand and ran into the room to hide.

You can imagine how Coco's heart was hit. He will feel that it is embarrassing for his father to tell him about bed wetting in front of so many people, so he is embarrassed, especially because he has been shaved and everyone is laughing at him. This is really just a trivial matter for adults. Some adults ignore their children's self-esteem and like to embarrass them by teasing them. I don't know that children's self-esteem began to develop at the age of two or three. At this time, the child's self-awareness has increased, but his self-regulation ability is still very poor, and his self-esteem is easily hurt. When criticized or accused, especially when criticized in public, children's mood will become very low.

Tian Mi didn't know that the adults didn't mean to criticize him. For adults, this is just a boring game to expose children's shortcomings in public and embarrass them. Coco thinks? Scandal? He is ashamed to be said that others are laughing at him, which is no small matter. This is really no small matter. This kind of laissez-faire children? Make a fool of yourself? In fact, it is a disgrace to the child's personality and will seriously hurt the child's self-esteem. They may lose confidence in themselves, feel inferior, shrink back and think they are in the eyes of others? Bad boy? And there are opposites between parents. Parents still don't say this? Secret? Hide and save some for the children? Face? .

A misunderstood joke

To give or not to give, that's a question. Give your candy to your uncle. ? A friend who likes children deliberately teased my daughter. My daughter clung to the lollipop in her hand and refused to give it. This is her only lollipop today, and she will save it for the afternoon. It's hard for my daughter not to frown, because I usually educate her to share her things with everyone, but she really doesn't want to share her candy with this uncle.

My friend saw her predicament and asked again on purpose. Give it to uncle, don't be stingy. ? Daughter is even more embarrassed. Seeing the little guy crying, I quickly said; ? Baby, would you like to give the candy to your uncle? The daughter shook her head. I said:? Since you don't want to give it, don't give it to your uncle. Let's bring more sugar to eat together tomorrow. ? The daughter was relieved. This is a joke that adults often play with children. They didn't need the candy and toys in their children's hands, but they deliberately took the things in their children's hands on airs or asked them to make demands to test their generosity. This kind of joke of adults just wants to increase the intimacy and interaction with children. But children will not regard it as a joke, but seriously think about whether to give this thing or not, and what to do if they don't want to give it.

The result of this kind of joke is often that after fierce ideological struggle, the child finally gives up what he has in his hand, but the adult laughs and says, Uncle, don't. I'm just kidding. Help yourself. ? If children often encounter such a situation, they will think that what they say cannot be realized, which is not conducive to the formation of children's correct values, and it is easy to develop the problems of lying, willfulness, meanness and selfishness.

A compliment that embarrassed her.

Hanako is my friend when you face a child with excessive self-esteem. She told me something about her childhood, about her father's praise.

Hanako's cousins often give her old clothes that she can't wear, and she won't be ashamed of it, but she is willing to accept gifts. One day, my father praised Hanako in front of his friends. The child is quite simple and often wears old clothes given by others. ? Now it sounds like a compliment to me, but Hanako's performance at that time was blushing and even suffused with tears of injustice. Hanako still can't forget this little thing. Hanako is a person with a particularly sensitive nerve, and her self-esteem has been particularly strong since she was a child. This kind of child is often more delicate and sensitive than ordinary people, and especially cares about what others think of him. With her own evaluation? Self-esteem? .

Now parents like to give their children some frustration education, which is good from the starting point. When real setbacks come, children will not be so fragile. Children with high self-esteem are still a little insecure after all, so they are too sensitive. Parents should teach their children to know themselves correctly. While praising children, we should also gently point out their shortcomings and deficiencies, so that children can realize that making mistakes is not terrible. There is no need to feel inferior if you have shortcomings. If you correct them, you will be a good boy.

American education, which has always attached great importance to the cultivation of self-esteem, is a kind of education method based on praise and affirmation. Everybody wins? It's a hint that American children get from childhood. Recently, some psychologists have reflected on the phenomenon of children's excessive self-esteem: should children be given self-esteem? Vent? . A certain degree of restraint and constructive criticism is very beneficial to children's growth and can help them establish a correct and peaceful character.