Children who are denied by their parents will never learn to love themselves!

Parents are the children's first teachers, and all the children's character development and conduct are related to their parents. If they want to raise their children to be warm and cheerful, their parents must adopt more different methods when raising them, so that they can make their children become what they want to be.

If parents bring up their children with what they think is right, they will criticize and scold them when they make mistakes. Over time, children will only become less and less confident.

Here are some examples for you to take a look at.

1 weekend, take the children to the basketball experience class. From the moment I entered the basketball training ground, I heard a woman constantly taunting the children: Look at you, where are you standing? Can you vote well? That posture of yours is terrible. If you don't study hard, you won't want to eat hamburgers at night.

And the accused child has been trying to cooperate with the coach.

However, when he heard the last sentence, he burst into tears, crying and shouting, "What should I do?

The coach nearby comforted the mother and son and said, "Joon-hee is doing well, but her strength is not enough.

When a child does everything wrong, it's not the child's problem, but the parents' problem. It's not only difficult for the child, but also difficult for him to please.

Looking at this scene, I can't help but think of a little girl standing on a high platform in a program of Teenagers' Talk, and asking her mother in a voice almost crying, "Why can't you see my efforts and only see other children being good?"

The mother in the audience, with a serious face like a strict teacher, said, "When you are strong, I think I need to take a picture. When you feel weak, I think I need to give you a push.

even, she indicated that she didn't approve of the child because she was "worried that you would drift away".

after listening to her mother's words, the little girl felt that the world was dark, and now she couldn't stand such treatment and began to cry.

Parents' approval is very important for children. A child who has not been approved by his parents for a long time is like a ship lost in the sea, with no direction or goal.

2 On the road of children's growth, parents' blind denial is a dose of poison, which will ruin children's life.

1. Parents' negative education will raise a child with inferiority complex.

psychologists believe that inferiority can be divided into primary inferiority and secondary inferiority.

Improper family education is the most common reason that leads to the formation of primary inferiority. Parents constantly emphasize their children's shortcomings and mistakes, and constantly deny their children. Compared with other children, children think that they are always inferior to others, which leads to the initial deep-rooted inferiority complex.

Perhaps, parents' negation is just to motivate children.

But children can't tell the truth from their parents' jokes. They just take everything their parents say seriously.

Jiang Wen, a famous director, was asked in an interview: "What is the biggest failure in these years?

he said one thing, that is, he didn't get along well with his mother.

No matter what kind of good achievements you have made, you have become an excellent person in the eyes of others.

However, my mother has always been a disapproving attitude.

In the program, Jiang Wen said helplessly, "She is not happy when I am admitted to Chinese Opera. She doesn't want to live if I buy a house. I don't know how to make her happy when I see what I have done.

Mother made it clear that she didn't like watching his plays, but she liked watching Wang Zhiwen's plays.

Jiang Wen, who longs for her mother's approval, is lonely in her heart, because her mother has never approved her and affirmed her.

Instead, he denies him in various ways and ignores his achievements in disguise.

Mother's denial leads to Jiang Wen's inferiority complex. He said gloomily, "I am an unconfident person.

2. Children raised by parents who deny education will lose their ability to be happy.

whether a person is happy or not does not depend on what he has and what he has created.

it's about how he views himself and whether he recognizes himself.

For a child who is always suppressed by his parents' denial, he will internalize this feeling into his subconscious, and there will always be an inner parent in his heart who is strict and does not recognize himself.

When he grows up, this kind of person will live very tired and be afraid of dealing with others, because he has a strong internal friction every day, and his inner parents have been accusing him, leaving him in a state of guilt, anxiety and fear that others will not recognize him.

live well, you have spent all your strength, so what about happiness?

I have a friend who is in his thirties this year, but he doesn't want to talk about marriage.

She said that since I was a child, my parents didn't think what I did right, and I have been trying to satisfy them.

I don't want to find someone to face this "negative" with me. In order to make my parents and leaders recognize me, I have tried my best and have no energy to deal with an emotional life.

To outsiders, this friend has a decent job and parents who love her.

However, she always said that she was abandoned by happiness.

3. A child who is denied by his parents will never be happy, just like being cursed.

Parents' negative education will cultivate a person with low self-worth.

Psychology believes that children's consciousness comes from two sources:

One is self-awareness, that is, their own understanding of themselves; Second, from others, they are all called foreign consciousness.

For children with incomplete cognition, little life experience and weak heart, their self-awareness often depends on the evaluation of outsiders.

If children often receive negative comments from their parents, they will think that they are such a bad person and are not worthy of others' love.

Psychologist Willie James once said, "The deepest nature in human nature is the desire for attention from others.

parents' attention and recognition is a great blessing for children. Losing is a great regret in life.

Martin, the host, once had a speech that recorded his father's harsh and critical attitude towards him since he was a child, and he always denied everything he did.

Martin got the second place in the class with excellent results, but his father asked, who was the first place and how many points did you miss?

After a while, when Martin put the report card of the first place in front of his father, his father stared at the wrong question and said angrily, "The biggest stupidity in life is to fall down twice in the same place.

However, for Martin, the biggest tragedy in life is not making the same mistake, but having a father who doesn't recognize him.

parents' disapproval is fatal to children.

3 The reason why parents persist in educating their children in a negative way is not that they have a "mortal enemy" with their children, but that they just want their children to become better.

a clear mind can be used as a mirror, and the initial intention is good, but the method is not appropriate.

"How to say that children will listen and how to listen to children will talk" wrote: "Only when children feel good will they be willing to cooperate with their parents, and this premise is that parents should accept their children's feelings first.

1. First, listen more.

karl witte, a German educator, said, "I think listening is a very good way of education, because listening is a sign of respect and concern for children, and it also encourages children to know their own abilities. If a child feels that he can freely express his opinions on anything and his knowledge is not despised and ridiculed, he will express his opinions without hesitation, first at home and then at school, so that he can face up to and deal with problems confidently and bravely in the future.

Cousin's children are very sensible and considerate, and relatives are bound to learn from her.

she said, if you want the child to be obedient, don't say anything, just listen to him.

once, at a party, a particularly tall flowerpot in the restaurant fell in front of my cousin's children and broke.

When everyone thought it was my cousin's child who knocked down the flowerpot, my cousin said, "Summer, can you tell me what happened?

There was a mother who believed in herself and was able to squat down and listen to herself. My cousin's children quickly explained the ins and outs of the matter. It turned out that the flowerpot was not knocked down by my cousin's children, but was knocked down by several other children who were fighting and shoving each other.

If you listen to your child in advance, instead of blindly denying your child according to your intuition, you will certainly raise a confident and cheerful child.

2. Second, support children unconditionally.

many years ago, in a country yard in the south of the United States, there was a boy who danced and danced happily at the moon.

The mother who saw this scene asked curiously, "What are you doing?

The boy pointed to the moon and said excitedly, "I'm going to the moon!

In the face of the child's nonsense answer, his mother didn't criticize or deny him, but smiled and said, "Fine, but remember to go home for dinner!

Many years later, the first American who landed on the moon was shown on TV, and this man was the little boy of that year. He was Armstrong.

Parents' support is the best armor for children's growth.

only if the armor is hard enough can it be invincible.

3. Again, praise the children more.

Parents' praise is like a cool breeze in summer and a warm sun in winter to children, which makes them feel happier.

On weekdays, you need to pay more attention to your child's advantages. Your affirmation, encouragement and trust are all the support of your child's ability to form a good self-awareness. Only in this way can he become confident, sunny and lively.

Some people say that children who are denied by their parents will not stop loving their parents, but will stop loving themselves.

If children don't know how to love themselves, life will be dark, and they will become dead. They don't know what the joy of life is, and there is no future.

loving children begins with refusing to deny them.

I hope every parent can see the bright spots in their children and "carry them forward".