Huang Lei’s 23 words against Zhang Yixing made me really see clearly the emotional intelligence level between him and He Jiong

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Love is in the front, but the excitement is always behind

I have always thought that in terms of emotional intelligence in dealing with people, Huang Lei and He Jiong are indistinguishable up and down.

But the last issue of "Longing for Life" was like a magnifying glass, taking a clear look at Huang Lei and He Jiong, and the "warm and cold" of the two people was immediately put on the table.

As we all know, Zhang Yixing suffers from acrophobia and is afraid of animals such as chickens and ducks.

Probably in order to increase the popularity of the show, the show team specially set a rule for this: Zhang Yixing can exchange an egg for something.

Everyone who thought of this regulation looked at Zhang Yixing at once, and the expectation in their eyes was self-evident.

Peng Yuchang asked Zhang Yixing with a smile of unknown meaning: Brother, how many eggs can you get? How many chickens are there?

Zhang Yixing crossed his fingers and held the tea cup tightly, with a reluctant smile on his face, and a look of fear and reluctance in his eyes.

Yang Zi, who was a guest, was confused and didn't know what he meant.

As Zhang Zifeng explained, he raised his hand and pointed to the chicken coop in the distance. Several majestic chickens were "clucking" and walking in the circle.

Zhang Zifeng saw Yang Zi staring at the chicken coop with an indistinguishable expression, and asked cautiously: Are you afraid?

Upon hearing this, Zhang Yixing, as if grasping a life-saving straw, pointed at Yang Zi with a bit of joy in finding someone of the same kind: Are you also afraid of chickens?

Yang Zi, who came back to her senses, said I’m not afraid.

"Oh..." Zhang Yixing took back his hand in disappointment, and said "oh" low and long, releasing endless loneliness and desolation, and the disappointment on his face was instantly visible.

Seeing this, Huang Lei said seriously: No one is afraid of chickens, only you.

No one said anything, so he immediately raised his lowered head again, leaned back, stared at Zhang Yixing and said with disdain: How can anyone be afraid of chickens? Chickens are simply too weak. What a weakling.

As soon as these words came out, a pin drop could be heard and embarrassment spread everywhere. Looking at Huang Lei who was staring closely at him, Zhang Yixing tried his best to smile, and a weak and distant "hum" came out of his mouth.

As a guest, Yang Zi was obviously even more embarrassed, like a guest who happened to encounter a conflict in the host's house. He was in a dilemma and couldn't decide whether to move forward or retreat. He simply grinned exaggeratedly.

No one can tell whether it was an unintentional ridicule, a deliberate attempt to make things difficult, a deliberate editing by the program team, or a real situation.

The camera shows us Huang Lei’s aggressiveness and Zhang Yixing’s unspeakable misery.

At this time, He Jiong came out to break the deadlock and said to Huang Lei gently and politely: What you said made Zhang Yixing unhappy.

In one sentence, Zhang Yixing's grievances were poured out, and he also eased the out-of-control situation, turning "aggressiveness" into "ridicule." The sensible Zhang Yixing took advantage of the situation and laughed at himself: A dozen chickens like this would probably be dead.

Everyone burst into laughter, the freezing point broke at the touch of a finger, and the whole hall was filled with laughter again.

In just one clip, we can intuitively feel the difference in emotional intelligence between Huang Lei and He Jiong.

But in fact, in this episode, He Jiong considered the "children" more than once and smoothed things over for Huang Lei.

When Zhang Yixing drove the tractor to plow the land, Huang Lei was moved and wanted to start directly, but He Jiong asked him to wait until Zhang Yixing finished driving.

Yang Zi was bargained too much by fellow villagers. She originally got 250 yuan but only got 88 yuan. Everyone was a little dissatisfied. Huang Lei asked directly: There are still such bargains. He Jiong quickly said: We don’t want it. It is also appropriate to use money to help fellow villagers.

To be sure, Huang Lei has no bad intentions, but he can't say he has high emotional intelligence.

Low-level emotional intelligence means making things difficult for others and yourself, and feeling unhappy everywhere.

Normal emotional intelligence means getting along harmoniously with oneself and making one feel comfortable physically and mentally.

Advanced emotional intelligence means putting yourself in the shoes of others without losing dignity and taking care of yourself.

Obviously, He Jiong's emotional intelligence is at the highest level. While cooking, he said to Huang Lei: It's normal. We were like this when we were young. We didn't want adults to disturb us when we were playing. Huang Lei is obviously a little inferior.

I once read a joke about Huang Bo: There is no such thing as high emotional intelligence, it is just a skill developed by being teased since childhood.

I think this sentence can also be given to Huang Lei.

He wrote his sentences with a wealth of poems and books, used cleverness and tact to adapt to the situation, and used his eyes to understand the world to develop a sophisticated knowledge of human nature, presenting us with an image of sincerity, wisdom and humor. .

But when it comes to emotional intelligence, he is not very thoughtful after all. He lacks the ability to empathize with others.

Therefore, in "Extreme Challenge", he ridiculed Sun Honglei, laughed at Huang Lei, and teased Wang Xun. In "Longing for Life", he talked about Zhang Yixing, and it was natural for everyone to move trees.

And He Jiong seems to have such a nature that he can transform himself into countless people no matter when and where.

Taking Yang Zi to see the excavator plowing the land; letting Peng Yuchang pick up Yang Zi because he was afraid that Zhang Yixing and Yang Zi would be embarrassed; organizing Zhang Yixing's clothes; helping Zhang Yixing to rescue...

All these , countless, Zhenzhen entertainment circle is truly a "warm baby".

What’s even more valuable is that usually trying to help others in this way will make you feel wronged, but He Jiong has developed his own skills, allowing others to have a way to go, and his own path is getting wider and wider.

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