How do college students fall in love?

Love should let nature take its course

How to treat the phenomenon of campus love?

Qiu: Love is a natural emotion of human beings. Meeting the right person by chance may produce a strong feeling of mutual attraction, which is the beginning of love. However, good love and healthy love have no simple scientific standards and methods, but more life experience. As a new college student, it is normal to have the idea of falling in love, but you should observe and communicate more. You don't have to be stiff and depressed like a middle school student. When you meet the person you like and have feelings for the other person, you can also express your thoughts boldly, but don't promise yourself with the irrational behavior of pestering the other person. You know, others have the right to accept and reject.

But what students need to pay attention to is not to "follow the fashion" just because they see that others have friends of the opposite sex. Love in college, let nature take its course. Don't pursue it deliberately, and don't refuse the right fate. Experience tells us that those freshmen who are eager to enter the role of love may show a lack of family warmth, need to find a psychological support, or need to find an object to vent their sexual and physical impulses. In fact, freshmen who fall in love too early can easily become "lonely" and their circle of friends will narrow. Besides, the study task of the university is not light.

Rules of falling in love and things not to do.

What is love about? Who is the right person for you?

Qiu: Is it appropriate for two people to be together? It is a misunderstanding of young people to understand through "speaking", not just through "watching" and sexual behavior. So, what should we talk about in love?

From the case experience of clinical marriage counseling, if love is just patchy, or pursuing sexual stimulation and fashionable "cool", or needing mental dependence or economic dependence, then these love motives are bad and doomed to go far. Therefore, rational love does not talk about conditions mechanically like blind date, but widely exchanges views on life ideals, value orientation, economy, family, career and social responsibilities and obligations, fertility, parental relationship, life interests, making friends and so on.

Experience tells us that the closer two people's views are, the more likely it is that there will be a beautiful love or a happy marriage. On the contrary, it will often lead to conflicts and contradictions. In short, everything that may happen in real life in the future needs to be discussed, and it would be the most stupid and wrong thing not to understand falling in love as having sex.