After the mother-in-law moved into her son's house, the daughter-in-law began to sleep in separate rooms with her son, leaving early and returning late. What should I do?

Solving this problem requires the joint efforts of mother-in-law, son and daughter-in-law, and son, as a middleman, must play a leading role. Understand the root cause of the problem, work out the solution according to the root cause, and finally the three of them sit at the same table and start to deal with the existing problems and solve the contradictions and conflicts between them.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with. Before the mother-in-law entered the house, the son and daughter-in-law occasionally quarreled, but in the final analysis, it did not affect the normal life of the young couple. Since the mother-in-law moved into her son's house, family conflicts have become more and more serious. The son and daughter-in-law have been sleeping in separate rooms, and the daughter-in-law goes out early and returns late.

This phenomenon shows that there are deep contradictions among family members. If it is not solved early, maybe the son will face the problem of "wife and mother choose one" and will never solve it. To solve this problem, we can start from the following aspects, try to resolve contradictions and save family and love.

Looking for the root of the problem, the old saying goes well: "There is no love for no reason, and there is no bad blood for no reason." If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be in such a situation, there must be many trivial matters in life, and many minor contradictions will eventually accumulate until the daughter-in-law can't stand it and take the lead in making a negative response.

The two generations have different life concepts and different family and educational backgrounds. For a daughter-in-law, to suddenly live with a strange mother, there must be many habits and personalities, which need mutual understanding and tolerance, and gradually get used to it in life. This situation also exists for the mother-in-law.

The son is very familiar with his mother and lover, and he also knows the trivial contradictions in life. So he is the best mediator, and he must know the root of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Only by finding the root of contradictions can we move towards resolving contradictions and conflicts and easing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Doing the ideological work of wife and mother directly and letting mother-in-law communicate will only add fuel to the fire and deepen the misunderstanding and prejudice between the two sides. Before the two "talk to each other", the sons should do their respective jobs and resolve the anger and contradictions in each other's hearts in advance. On the mother's side, the son can be spoiled, guilty, or coax the mother with nice words; A reasonable mother doesn't want to ruin her son's marriage and family because of her appearance.

My daughter-in-law here, when lying in bed at night, exchanges this question and understands her deepest contradictions. Coax your daughter-in-law with your golden words and shut the door. No matter how humble you are, both husband and wife will not be seen by outsiders, but will only make your daughter-in-law feel that she cares about her.

In this way, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will make a little concession for this man who loves each other together, which will make the relationship easier. When we coax our mother and wife, we must not just talk about our own behavior, but urge each other to make a little change in their lives, so that they can be accepted by each other.

Seek a solution to the problem. When the daughter-in-law no longer goes out early and comes back late, and the husband and wife no longer sleep in separate rooms, it is the last stage to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Find a time, sit down and have a good talk, let both sides know what they are dissatisfied with, find a compromise, then make concessions to each other and work together for family harmony.

A good son and husband can be around his mother and wife, so that even if there are contradictions between them, they will be flattered by themselves. When the wife and mother complain to themselves about each other, as listeners, we must not ignore this stage and start to solve the contradictions between the two sides during this period.

Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, in more cases, the reason why they are angry lies in the middleman, son and husband. Because we turned a blind eye to their dissatisfaction, they became more and more disgusted. Finally, the husband and wife slept in separate rooms, and the daughter-in-law went out early and came back late, just because she didn't want to stay in an awkward home.

For my wife, we are her closest partners, and for my mother, we are her most concerned sons. Most families can't avoid the situation that their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law share the same room. It is also difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along like mother and daughter. No matter what the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we can't live without our lover, so mother-in-law will blame herself and think that her arrival has destroyed the relationship between husband and wife. For both husband and wife, feelings will also be deeply hurt.

Pay attention to the subtle changes of the two closest people in life. Solve contradictions and root causes at the beginning, and don't wait until they can't be reconciled before thinking of dealing with these problems. At this time, it is necessary to spend more time and money.