Don't be afraid to offend those who don't respect you.

Read such a story:

A middle-aged woman is leading her children to play in a group's private garden. Not far away, an old man with gray hair is pruning shrubs.

The woman took out the paper towels from her bag one by one, and they were still on the bushes trimmed by the old man. The old man was not angry or annoyed, so he picked them up one by one and threw them into the trash can.

Instead of being ashamed, the woman said to her son, "I hope you can understand that if you don't go to school well, one day you will be as worthless as him and can only do these humble jobs."

Hearing this, the old man walked up to the woman and said kindly, "Madam, this is the private garden of the group. According to the regulations, only employees of the group can come in. How can you go in? "

The woman replied arrogantly, "I am the department manager of the company under the group, of course I can enter."

The old man politely offered to borrow a woman's mobile phone. The woman reluctantly handed it to the old man and lost no time in educating the children: "Look at these poor people, they can't even afford a mobile phone at this age. You must work hard in the future. "

A man arrived immediately after the old man made the phone call.

After the old man gave the order, the man said to the woman, "I'm sorry to inform you that you are fired."

This woman looks surprised.

It turned out that the old man who was satirized by the woman was the president of this group.

The old man used actions to warn women and the world that anyone and any profession should be respected. Pretending to be lofty and uneducated, you will have to pay for it one day.

In this society, there are always some people who exist in ways that others don't like. They use magnifying glasses to infinitely magnify their own advantages and the shortcomings of others. They hurt people around them with words and actions, kidnap and suppress others with self-proclaimed success, so as to win a sense of existence.

And a truly mature and educated person will not raise himself and judge others at will. They know that society is complicated and people are unpredictable, but they can still treat people in a warm way. They are polite, polite, charming and considerate, warm others like the sun and feed themselves.

Recently, my good friend Y is in a bad mood. She said that she was so angry with a woman that she almost doubted her life.

This woman B who makes her angry is her colleague in different offices in the same unit. Her two ordinary contacts were limited to meeting and smiling, eating at the same table, and occasionally teasing, not to mention deep friendship, and there was no intention of deep friendship. She originally thought that maintaining this casual acquaintance relationship was the safest and least conflict-prone relationship. I didn't expect B's words and deeds to completely subvert her three views.

On that day, I organized a group of six people to study abroad. It's a long way, and when my mobile phone is tired, I start chatting and teasing.

People all over the world are saying that the atmosphere is cheerful and cheerful. I don't know who suddenly brought the topic to dressing.

A male colleague said that the best dressed woman in the unit is Y, and her clothes are different for a week. Every dress is decent and generous, which is a beautiful landscape in the office.

My best friend was secretly pleased at the praise.

B suddenly grabbed the words: she, don't look at the clothes she usually wears, the bags and watches she uses are all famous brands, and she is stingy on weekdays. If you don't want to eat, you can eat rice; I don't want to take a taxi, even if I take a bus, I have to ask others for 2 yuan. The beggar felt that 2 yuan was not enough, so she had the cheek to reach out and ask others for it.

When my best friend y first heard it, she didn't take it to heart. She just thought it was a joke. B usually likes to tease her from time to time, and she did ask two colleagues for 2 yuan to take the bus when she had no change. In her opinion, just two dollars is not a sum of money for anyone, far from being stingy or greedy for petty gain.

Y smiled and replied: I didn't ask you for 2 yuan, did I?

B said: if you dare to ask me for it, I will dare to humiliate you face to face. I don't want to encourage you to be such a bad style, such a person who cares about clothes and ignores face.

In my heart, my best friend Y thinks she talks a little too much, but there are many people here and it is not good to argue with her, so she bowed her head and said nothing.

B kept silent when she saw her best friend, but she became more and more excited. Like a moral godmother, she is criticizing her best friend from work to private life, warning Y to be a pragmatic person, not to be so vain and hypocritical, to dress up well and not to be a meal. There is no other benefit except to make men look good. She kept talking, with no intention of ending.

She didn't stop until a lesbian in the car stopped listening and stood up for Y.

When my best friend came home, she kept replaying everything B said in her mind. The more she thinks about it, the angrier she gets. She wished she couldn't go back to the past at once and start all over again. She wants b to know that she is not easy to mess with. My best friend is obviously a typical Monday morning quarterback, and her cultivation will not allow her to argue with others in public.

Sometimes I think it's pitiful to be a kind person. When I am maliciously attacked, I have to take care of the other person's face, for fear that an unintentional word will lose its integrity and destroy the overall situation. In fact, in an uneducated country, your kindness and tolerance will be understood as cowardice, and cowardice will only get more and more humiliation, while humility, calmness and timely strength will probably win back your dignity.

In history, there is a very famous story: when the queen of Louis XVI was hanged, she accidentally stepped on the executioner's foot, and she subconsciously said, "I'm sorry." This casual apology is the embodiment of the Queen's noble personality and an awe-inspiring display of education.

On the other hand, in today's society, there are countless uncivilized behaviors:

Throwing garbage out of the window on the expressway killed the sanitation worker.

Two passengers in the subway car scrambled for position, and the scene was chaotic

In the hotel, the customer shouted at the waiter, and the waiter threw hot pot soup at the customer in a rage, causing serious injuries.

When entering a high-consumption place, the waiter stimulates customers with contemptuous eyes and sarcastic language, causing customers' dissatisfaction.

Some people say that education is related to family, education background and wealth, and think that good parents, excellent economic conditions and superior educational environment can cultivate handsome gentlemen or virtuous ladies.

Liang Wendao said in his book Luxury and Education:

Chen to also said:

In fact, whether you have an education has little to do with the rich and the poor and your family. There are uncivilized behaviors in the first class of the plane, and there are plenty of people who are polite and honest on the ridges in the countryside. People who have received higher education can show their uncultured culture incisively and vividly, and people who have not attended school can also be elegant and noble and admirable.

Education has nothing to do with wealth and education, but with the temperature of the soul.

Wu Bin, a bus driver, was hit in the abdomen and arm by a piece of iron flying from the air while driving. On the spot, his liver ruptured, his ribs were broken, and his lungs and intestines were bruised. At the critical moment, he reluctantly stopped and saved the lives of 24 passengers in the car.

The Yue Yue incident, which caused a sensation in the society, made us see the indifference of human nature, and also paid attention to a well-educated warm man, Chen Xianmei. She came after 18 indifferent passers-by, reached out and picked up Xiaoyue Yue, who was dying, and donated the money donated by the Love Society to Xiaoyue Yue's parents.

Are people with great beauty in their hearts.

Educated people, who have heaven and earth in their hearts and others in their eyes, are always thinking about others in their hearts and everywhere, naturally can't do such things as poking people's pain, denying laughing at others, borrowing money, peeking at others' input passwords, talking openly, being a commentator loudly in a quiet cinema, coughing at people, driving around at night and hitting high beams indiscriminately ... This will harm the interests of others and destroy people's mood.

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Where there are rivers and lakes, there are grievances. It is inevitable to meet all kinds of uneducated people in life. What should we do if we meet them unfortunately?

No one is perfect. Everyone sometimes speaks and does things without thinking, and sometimes he is young and doesn't know how to take care of others' feelings. If it doesn't affect the overall situation, hurt feelings and crush dignity, you don't have to mind.

For example, the woman B that my best friend met, standing on the red line of human dignity everywhere, looked down on this and that with a superior attitude, which made people scratch their hearts and lungs and wished they could tear her mouth off. For such a role, you can verbally warn her, or remind her that I am unhappy by ignoring and not responding. If I cross the line again, I'll really turn my face.

For those who have no morality, no bottom line or even lawlessness, there is no need to treat them like gentlemen. The wicked must be punished, and the best solution is to control evil with evil and violence with violence. Gentleman's wind, if you don't move after hitting you three times, may call the prodigal son back to those with conscience, but for those without conscience, it can only lead to bullying in storms.

Everyone's dignity should not be trampled, and everyone should be respected. Respect for others is the highest realm of education and education, and it is the most direct embodiment of comfort, and it is not embarrassing. In a cold society, we cannot change others, but we can correct ourselves. May everyone stand in a warm person with a gentle, uncompromising and unhurried attitude.

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