Now there is a phenomenon of "taking turns to provide for the aged" in rural areas. How to treat this realistic problem?

Now, let's take a walk in every village. The street is empty, and every door is closed or locked. Occasionally there are old people or children in the village. The countryside has become a "hollow village", that is, some lonely old people and children constitute the main groups in the countryside. For these old people, their old-age care depends not on their children, but on themselves. But in case you get sick or stay in bed, you need someone to take care of you. Parents' kindness in raising their children should be rewarded in spring. As the saying goes, sheep have the grace of kneeling and nursing, and crows have the meaning of feeding back. As children, they should take the initiative to bear the obligations and responsibilities of supporting their parents.

Rural families generally have two children, and even some rural families have several children. After they got married, each family had its own things, and the situation of each family was different. It is unrealistic to let the only child support the elderly to be filial. On the one hand, a child will support the elderly for a long time and take special care of them. In the long run, it will be psychologically unbalanced; On the other hand, villagers will treat other children with different eyes and attitudes, thinking that they are not filial to the elderly, and they can't stand the villagers' comments and supercilious eyes. Therefore, in order to take good care of elderly parents, it is very common for families with many children to take turns to provide for the elderly. Each child takes turns to take care of his parents for a period of time. This method is really a good one in rural life now, so that all children can fulfill their responsibilities of supporting their parents fairly. Supporting parents is the duty of children, and there should be no problem at this point.

It is natural for children to support the elderly, which is the inheritance of filial piety culture and the responsibility of life. In today's rural areas, the actual situation of each family is different. Some families have better economic conditions and some families are poorer. Almost all farmers want to increase their income by going out to work or developing other industries, which will inevitably lead to the inability to take care of the elderly. However, caring for the elderly is the basic duty and obligation of children, and no one can escape or avoid it; Taking turns to take care of parents can also allow children to farm or work at other times to increase their income. Therefore, it is the most fair and reasonable way for children to take turns to serve their parents in rural areas, because parents belong to all children, so parents should take turns to take care of them when they are old.

Old people in rural areas really can't move for various reasons and need children to take care of them. Generally speaking, they choose the attitude of persistence and forbearance, and don't want to involve the children. They are also aware of the difficulty of having children, especially in today's increasingly stressful life. Children should not only be busy with family life, but also take care of their children and pay off their mortgage and car loan. The time and energy to really take care of parents are very limited, and the pace of children's life is fast. Therefore, it is a wise choice to take turns to take care of the elderly.

It is everyone's dream to realize farmers' pension. Mencius said, "I am old, and people are old." Every one of us is old, especially the rural elderly. They have worked hard all their lives, but they have no living security when they are old. Especially after the only child has become the main labor force in society, the problem of providing for the aged in old villages has become a major social problem. In some rural areas, it is likely that a couple will have to support four old people. In the current rural society, such a burden is unbearable for ordinary rural youth. At present, the phenomenon that children in rural society take turns to provide for the aged is rooted in the imperfection of the rural social pension mechanism in China, which directly increases the burden of providing for the aged of farmers' families. Therefore, in the case that one child in a rural family is unbearable, it is also a good way to share the pressure if the elderly have several children.

In rural areas, the pace of life is getting faster and faster now. As long as you are a little lazy for a year or so, your family's economic situation may lag behind your neighbors. In this case, no one can but support his parents. Therefore, children take turns to serve the elderly at home, no matter how difficult it is. This way of providing for the aged, whether in urban or rural areas, is our most common way of providing for the aged. Everyone thinks that if parents are sent to nursing homes, it is extremely unfilial, will be spurned by colleagues in the neighborhood, and even cause various adverse social effects, which is not good for themselves; However, if we simply put the elderly in the children's home for the elderly, the children feel unfair. "Parents' pension is everyone's business. Why are they the only ones who keep paying? "Over time, everyone agrees that every household takes turns to provide for the elderly, and with the development of rural society, this model has existed for a long time.

If it is really "serving" the elderly as the topic owner said, it is not bad, at least it can meet the basic needs of the elderly. But in fact, I am afraid that my children will shirk their responsibilities and no one will treat the elderly well. In the end, the old man will end up with a tragic ending of "nine sons give birth to dragons, each a snake".

I personally live in Enshi, Hubei Province, and we rarely see the phenomenon of "taking turns to serve" the elderly. Generally speaking, the elderly either follow the children with the worst family conditions or follow the children with the best conditions. Few old people change places to live together every three days.

If a family takes turns to serve the elderly, on the one hand, the family's reputation is definitely not very good. On the one hand, villagers will say that the children of the elderly are not filial, on the other hand, they will think that the elderly themselves have not educated their children well. On the other hand, the elderly can't keep up with their physical strength, and they have to take turns running to their children's homes every month, which will only increase the burden on the elderly. Besides, many young people in rural areas have moved to cities now, and "taking turns to support the elderly" simply doesn't work in some places.

I don't know if there are any farmers who are really in the countryside among readers. If there is, I should find that in fact, most old people will choose the one with the worst children to raise themselves. Take my father's four brothers as an example. Grandma is my second uncle, and the family conditions are not good. Even if other children take grandma to play at home, the old man will go back to his uncle's house in a few days. Grandma always said that the most important thing in my life is my second uncle.

The reason why old people like to follow their families with the worst conditions is that on the one hand, they think they are not old enough to help their children do some work and earn some money; On the other hand, in order to increase the affection between children, people are realistic. Even brothers can't get along, and finally family ties will fade away because of lack of communication. However, if parents stay in the poor family, other brothers and sisters will at least come back to see their parents, and then the feelings between children will increase because of their parents.

"No one in the city asks you if you are poor, and if you have money in the mountains, you have distant relatives." Everyone wants to live a good life, and different people will adopt different ways of providing for the aged. What we have to do is to do our best to honor our parents and let them spend their old age safely.

Hello everyone! I am a rural martial arts!

There are three situations of taking turns to provide for the aged. The first is that the elderly are healthy, but they have lost their ability to work and their source of livelihood. Such old people take turns eating and living among their children, ranging from once a month to once every six months. According to their own economic situation, they let the elderly eat and live at home to support the elderly. In the third case, the old man is bedridden and can't move. Children can only take turns to be filial to the old man's bed and give financial assistance, especially daughters. They can live with the old man and wait on him, but they can't take him to their own home. There is a saying that it is unlucky for an old man to die in his daughter's house, so it is not surprising that his daughter and son take turns to be filial. The third is that children pay for the elderly in nursing homes with good conditions, and children take turns to accompany them. This situation is not a last resort, and no one wants to send their old people to nursing homes for the elderly.

In modern society, life is fast and stressful. It is unfair to let a child take on too many responsibilities. After all, every middle-aged person is old and young, and life is not easy. It is the bounden duty of every child to understand and support each other and make the elderly happy in their later years.

I'm a country black sister-in-law, and I'll answer.

Five men and two women are fatal, no children and no women to practice.

This is a sentence that rural bachelors use to tease themselves, which is absolutely self-deprecating.

What does this sentence mean? Is that you have a daughter-in-law, five sons and two daughters. This is a bad life for you. We are single, childless and childless, which is a blessing that we have cultivated in our life.

Everyone knows that this is nonsense, but for bachelors, it is just a spiritual victory method similar to Ah Q, a fantasy.

We often hear people say: raise children to prevent old age. It is too safe to have a son to take care of yourself, five sons and two daughters when you are old. One son is unfilial, and there are other sons, all of whom are unfilial and their daughters are unfilial.

However, we always see some news from time to time, saying that an old man with three or two sons has no one to raise or something.

We can't help but ask, what is this?

There are also some old people who obviously have several sons, but they have to take turns living in their sons' homes. When you get older, you will fidget and move once every ten days or once a month. They look embarrassed.

In fact, black sister-in-law thinks it's good to take turns living, so at least someone can raise her. Compared with those old people whose sons are old but have no one to support them, it is good to live in turn.

Black sister-in-law has a relative. She has two sons and a daughter.

When I went to see her during the Spring Festival last year, I suddenly found that the old couple did not live at home, but lived in two color steel houses at the entrance of the village.

I was surprised because I knew that they used to live in the house of their youngest son. How come I haven't seen you for a while and have gone to live in the village by myself? The weather is so cold that the color steel room is very thin. It's really cold in winter and hot in summer. Living here is really painful.

So I asked her why she lived here.

The old man sighed, thought for a long time, and then pointed to the old man on one side and said, "Isn't it his fault? Living at home is always angry with others, so I moved out. "

I don't understand: "Why are you angry? Why are you angry? "

She stopped talking. My uncle was deaf for a long time. He can't hear our conversation at all, and he doesn't care about our conversation. He just stared at a lamb outside in a daze.

I decided to ask why their son was kicked out.

Seeing that I decided to ask, the old man shouted in horror, "Don't say you have seen me ..."

When I arrived at their home, I asked the old man directly why he lived in a colored steel house. Not afraid of jokes?

Her youngest son said something with an aggrieved expression. It means that the old man is old, but he has been living in their house. He wants to take turns, but Big Brother doesn't want to.

He is the boss, why not let the old man live? Are they my biological parents? You don't care, and neither do I.

So, the old man lived in the color steel house at the entrance of the village.

This reason made black sister-in-law have nothing to say, and finally left angrily.

Let's go back to the theme here. How to treat the elderly living in turn?

It's really good to take turns living. I am afraid that my sons will blame each other, and I am even more afraid that one of them will not let the old man live. Once such a person appears among the sons, it must be the old man who is unlucky, because if he is not allowed to live, other sons will have opinions.

In the end, it is very likely that the elderly will be homeless.

It is natural for Lao Tzu to raise his son, and it is understandable for his son to raise his son.

Filial piety is a moral issue. When we lower this moral standard again and again, it is actually only the helpless compromise of the elderly.

However, we sadly find that the compromise of the elderly can not be exchanged for understanding and goodwill.

Is it because the old man was born wrong, son? I don't think so.

Answer to the main question: it's good for the old people to take turns living, and it's no trouble to move. What I'm afraid of is having several sons, but having no place to live. This is the saddest thing.

Written at the end: the above is just an example, and many sons still get by. We can't grasp a limited number of cases to enlarge the whole group. This is irrational and unfair.

I am not only my maiden daughter, but also the daughter-in-law of my in-laws. Let me tell you a story about the real waiting for the elderly in these two families for your perusal.

Mother-in-law used to be a doctor and was the leading center of the whole family. The old man is capable and can move things. More than ten years ago, my father-in-law was seriously ill in bed. Under the leadership of her mother-in-law, children from four families helped her mother-in-law take turns to serve, and that's how it came about.

Now, my mother-in-law is old and sick and skinny. When she went to the hospital, there was something wrong with her lungs. The nephew secretly wiped his tears and decided to be hospitalized.

The old lady was not confused. She assigned two sons to work shifts at night and two daughters to take over during the day. Children are still filial, and daughters-in-law, grandchildren and nephews come to report almost every day.

But the old lady seems to have a little holiday with the big girl, and she doesn't deal with it on weekdays. Now in the hospital, both sides are still very angry. The boss's rotation is a bit sloppy. Even come and go without saying hello. I couldn't arrive in the morning, so I ran away when I was free in the afternoon. The burden of the second girl is a bit heavy, which can only be shared by her sons and daughters-in-law.

What's more, because the old lady has a retirement salary, her children are a little stingy in consumption. Mother-in-law gave all the money for medical treatment to her youngest son before, and others were reluctant to buy things.

That afternoon, the girl told me in the hospital to buy food for my grandmother quickly. I was so hungry that I couldn't stand it!

I was surprised at work. There is a canteen opposite the hospital. Why didn't anyone buy it? ! Then I figured out that these people spent a lot of money, and the hospital restaurant card was recharged. You need to pay first when you go out to buy things! Who let the old lady let the younger son manage the money for treatment? They're all staring.

I bought steamed bread and yogurt in a hurry and sent them first.

When I get home, I will tell him that it is really "a loving mother loses many children, and a dutiful son comes out of poverty!" "

My home is in the countryside. After my father died, my mother completely lost her income. It is supported by our four brothers and sisters. Mom told us that 100 yuan per person per month is enough.

The four of us, my second brother and my family won't pay monthly. Every time we meet, it's 1000 yuan, which is 500 yuan's shot. It's different to buy medicine for mom at ordinary times. Although my brother has a large population in the village and is not well off, he pays money on time every month. Only the third brother sometimes breaks his word here, so my mother won't say anything.

Last time my mother was hospitalized, first I paid for it alone, and then my second brother was anxious to pay for it.

If our family is like theirs, it is estimated that my mother would have been hungry!

So, sister, I think when you get old, you always have to rely on your children. As long as a family has one or two children, the elderly will be blessed!

If you really care, the more children, the more trouble! How is a bowl of water flat? !

Therefore, no matter the old people in cities or rural areas, they should have their own nests when they are old, so that their children can be filial! Rich, strong output! Otherwise, if it is a task to take turns to serve and support the elderly, the life of the elderly will be difficult!

For children, "the old man is the Buddha at home", and being kind to the old man means seeking more happiness!

It is common to serve the elderly in turn in rural areas. So, is this phenomenon good or not? Let's analyze the problem ourselves.

First of all, when the elderly need someone to serve them, it shows that their health is not very good and their self-care ability has declined. It is said that there is no dutiful son before bed, and there will be complaints after a long time. Secondly, the old man feels that home is not like home, kicking around like a ball, and feeling homesick is very warm. Thirdly, after taking turns, children will certainly compare with each other, and serving the elderly may become a tool for children to compete for fame and gain.

It can be said that in today's rural areas, this phenomenon of "serving the elderly by turns" is very common, involving almost every family in rural areas. Because the elderly are old, they can't take care of themselves. Children have their own affairs, and it is impossible for them to have time to take care of the elderly at home. This kind of "taking turns to serve" is not only to take better care of the elderly, but also for children to have time to take care of their own family affairs.

Just say my aunt. My uncle passed away a few years ago. At that time, my aunt was in good health and could take care of herself, but my granddaughter and grandson came to live with her, and my son and daughter would visit her from time to time. The eldest daughter sometimes picks her up for a few days. At that time, she felt uncomfortable living with her eldest daughter and always came back every few days.

But in recent years, because my aunt fell, her legs and feet were not very good, and she could not take care of herself. Because aunt has her own yard, living in her own yard feels very comfortable, so at first, four children went to her yard and took turns to take care of her diet and daily life.

In recent years, my aunt's children are old, and they are married and have children, so they need to be taken care of at home. So they can't go to menstruation's house to take care of her. So speaking of who will take care of my aunt, who will take care of her for a few days and then take turns to pick her up.

Therefore, Sister Rong said that it is a good thing for children to "take turns to serve" the elderly when they are old. Because children have their own affairs, they can't always have time to take care of the elderly. In this way, children can take care of their families and the elderly better. Moreover, the elderly will get tired of getting along with a child for a long time, and taking turns to take care will make the elderly feel fresh. In a word, this can not only take better care of the elderly, but also take better care of the children, killing two birds with one stone. Do you think so?

I am Sister Rong, a rural woman who likes to tell the truth. The above is my personal opinion, I hope I can help you! I also hope that my friends will speak enthusiastically and express their opinions.

When I was a child, I heard my grandmother tell the story of "Five Thunder Newspaper", which was roughly about an old lady who gave birth to five children, took pains to raise them and then got married. After the death of her wife, the old lady divided the property equally among the five children and went to their homes in turn. One year on New Year's Eve, on the 29th of the twelfth lunar month, Xiaowu kicked the old man out, meaning that he had menstrual cramps and wanted to go to his hometown. However, the old family said that Xiaowu was missing a day and refused to accept it. The old man cried, and even ran to several children's homes, and he was busy with the New Year and wouldn't let him in. The old man was heartbroken, but it snowed heavily, and the old lady had no clothes or food. She calls and knocks every day. Injustice went up to the sky and angered God. In the twelfth lunar month, there was a thunderstorm suddenly, and five thunders killed Wuzi.

This story is also about rotation. Now rotation is the rule, and the destination of the elderly can be imagined.

There are thousands of buildings in Ande, and a nursing home has been built to make the old people smile!

The phenomenon of serving the elderly in rural areas by turns has always existed. Most of these cases are families with several brothers, once a month, once a few months, or once a year. There are many ways to support the elderly in rural areas, and some brothers quarrel because of supporting their parents. Most of them think that the uneven distribution of parents in the past, or their own contradictions, led to the elderly and children shirking each other and even going to court.

Everyone has an old age, and parents have worked hard to raise their children. Children must let their parents enjoy their old age. You raise me young, I raise you old! Very natural!

Nowadays, the elderly in rural areas are all supported by their children in turn. What do we think of this problem?

From my observation, the old people's pension is not only in rural areas, but also today. Once the old people in the family are too old to take care of themselves, their children take turns to take care of them, but the methods vary from family to family. But the responsibility is clear, and it is really a good idea to take care of it in turn. As long as we have filial piety, repay kindness, regardless of gains and losses, and let our parents be happy in their later years.

Yesterday morning, at the invitation of a friend, I went to talk about how my children take care of their elderly mother. The old man has three sons and a daughter. The man died two years ago and is a retiree. He had a retirement salary before his death. His children have different opinions on the handling of money, and some still refuse to communicate with each other. After a morning of heart-to-heart talk and persuasion, the two brothers and sisters finally understood each other, reached a * * * understanding, and decided to take turns to take care of their elderly mother, initially determining that the old man's place of residence remained unchanged, and each child was solely responsible for everything for the old man for one month. If there are special expenses, four people will share them. As a result, everyone was satisfied, and the implementation began with the boss. I wonder if the effect is good or bad. The old man has a fixed child to take care of, less loneliness, and hope, which can be regarded as a solution to his worries.