The hidden rules of college students' dormitory relationship are not up to the counselor.

Counselors don't tell you the hidden rules of dormitory relationship

These three things must not be told to roommates.

Good things: for example, I got a national scholarship, for example, how much money I earned from part-time work, for example, I got a research quota, for example, I bought good skin care products and expensive shoes.

Private affairs: for example, quarreling with your best friend, for example, humiliating your boyfriend.

Bad things: for example, your family is in debt, for example, you have been cheated of money, for example, you failed the exam.

Good things are envied, private things are remembered, and bad things are used and satirized.

The best way is to keep 30% of the cards forever.

Going with the flow will only make you worse.

Don't be afraid of "special", conformity will only make you more degenerate. V You stay up late with your roommates who love playing games, so you can't have a normal work and rest and abundant energy. V If you have a party with Neptune, who likes to mess with girls, you will lose your outlook on life and integrity.

If you and your roommates who don't like studying skip class and leave early every day, then your report card must be a subject.

After graduation, you found out that people can spend money casually if they have mines at home, and all you get is blood and tears.

Don't take rudeness as sincerity.

Don't take rudeness as sincerity, others will only think that your emotional intelligence is low.

"Ah, you look fat in this skirt. Not as good as mine. "

"By the way, the last time I saw your homework grade was A, you helped me make a copy. Anyway, you are so good.

"Your makeup skills are poor, and your eyebrows are painted like bugs. Take them off quickly, or you will be laughed at. "

For this kind of person, I just want to say "it's none of her business"

Try not to bother others with what you can do.

Mutual affection is actually a savings account. Every time you trouble others, this favor is reduced by one point.

What you can do, don't give others trouble.

For example, helping to deliver a courier, such as helping to get food, don't think that people know everything. If you don't refuse in the world, you can send people around at will, and you should learn to care about each other.

Don't casually discuss with any roommate who is not present.

Because people are separated, you never know when she will betray you.

It will even add oil and vinegar to you, so that you can't wash your heart when you jump into the Yellow River.

If a person is isolated, he is either too strong or too weak.

Psychologist schacht thinks that gregarious can reduce fear.

If a person is too strong, the weak will automatically hold a group to reduce the fear you bring them.

As Hu Shi said: "Old worries are always lonely, and only foxes live in groups.

And if a person is too weak, they will dislike your food and won't take you to play.

The essence of human beings is to bully the weak and fear the hard, so the isolated people are either too good or too weak.

If not, then we should consider the personality problem.

It is ok to get up early, so don't influence others.

Do you know what it's like to be suddenly woken up by your roommate's harsh alarm when you are sleeping soundly after five o'clock in the morning?

It's like you want to kiss the goddess of God, but suddenly a basin of ice water is poured on your head, and then your mouth is pierced by ice debris.

If you really want to get up early, please put your mobile phone closer, turn down the alarm clock, get up gently, turn off the alarm clock faster, don't let the alarm clock ring twice, and don't disturb your roommate's dream.

If you can, you'd better turn off the alarm clock before it rings.

Put away your voyeurism. Don't stare at your roommate's computer and mobile phone screen when nothing happens, and don't ask your roommate's secret when nothing happens.

There is always someone who asks where someone has been when he is out. The mobile phone received the message and he asked who sent it. When going out to eat, he asked who to eat with. All he needed was a GPS on you.

This kind of person who wants to pry into other people's privacy anytime and anywhere will make people feel disgusted.

If you have any questions, ask them early.

There are always people who make phone calls while others are resting and play games while others are studying, which makes the dormitory very sanitary.

He probably didn't mean it, because it is very likely that he is like this at home. If you don't tell him, he will never realize it.

So, if you have any questions, ask them as soon as possible, and don't wait until you can't stand it. At this time, just talking can't solve the problem.

Learn to be generous with your roommate.

Roommates share their lives and feelings in the circle of friends and space. If you think it's right, give them a generous compliment, which is telling them: Dad has seen it!

Sometimes a compliment can enhance the feelings between two people more than ten sentences.

So we must form the good habit of boasting casually, understand?

Low key, low key and low key! Say the important things three times!

You don't need to show everyone what luxury skin care products and bags you use, how expensive shoes you wear, or even how many hours you study a day. Because you know, no one wants you to live better than her except your parents.

Those small shows that originated from vanity, while being envied, are also accompanied by jealousy and even being excluded. Your sense of superiority will only make others feel that you are not in the same circle, so they are afraid or unwilling to approach you.

Be a small Libra of several small groups.

There may be small groups in the dormitory that play well together in twos and threes. At this time, what you have to do is not to get on well with people in any small group, but to learn to make a small scale for these small groups. Imagine if you only keep good relations with two people in a small group. Once one day you are unhappy, you can't stay in this group, and other groups don't want to accept you. Others are playing so well that you are embarrassed to intervene. But if you are not a member of these groups from the beginning, get on well with each group and let each group be willing to accept you. If you are not satisfied with these people, you can play with others. Therefore, always remember to leave room and retreat for yourself.

This point should be written for those babies who are always kind-hearted and always like to think of others in the dormitory.

If you often feel good about everyone but don't get the respect and reward you deserve, even your kindness and kindness are taken for granted. Please remember, if you don't cherish your heart, you will know how to save it in time! This also applies to any interpersonal relationship. A person should have his own personality. I can treat you well, which is based on the premise that you treat me well and we respect each other. I'm sorry if you can't do it, but I'll take back my kindness.

Be sure to set your own bottom line and principles as soon as possible.

Let them know what kind of person you are and what habits you have, such as not liking others to use things without permission. Once someone breaks your bottom line, be sure to let her know that you are not happy right away. It is inevitable that people are not afraid of contradictions and conflicts. You put up with it for a while, instead of being peaceful, friendly and calm, you pushed your luck and made you feel more and more ugly.

Finally, give it to the steamed stuffed bun that is being squeezed out and isolated.

You are particularly excellent and worthy.

Don't deny yourself just because of one person or a few people. People who don't get along can't get along, and they don't have to think about what they can do to make themselves happy and get affirmation. You know, people who hate you hate everything you do. The more humble you are, the worse she is. If you feel that you can't turn your face, then fade out of her sight, go out to participate in activities and competitions, and meet some like-minded friends. Think about it. In fact, before college, we didn't have many opportunities to choose friends on our own initiative. The person in our class, the person at our table or the people before and after, that person is probably our best friend in high school. But college is different. A wide circle of friends gives you the opportunity to choose your own friends. Cherish this opportunity and find friends who are in line with your real interests. Most of the uncomfortable reasons for being isolated are because we are afraid of loneliness and no one to accompany us.

When you are accompanied by friends outside the dormitory, you will find something isolated and excluded. To put it bluntly, no common goal, no common goal. You take your wooden bridge and I'll take my sunshine road. Everybody's fine.