After being married for half a year, my wife said at the time of divorce, "Why should I pretend to be lofty when dating?" What do you think of this?

Guide: blind date people are rushing to get married. When they meet for the first time, they should be sincere. Don't pretend to be lofty or indifferent. As a result, they delayed themselves and hurt each other.

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At family gatherings, everyone gets together to chat and drink tea.

My cousin who is going on a blind date asked me, "What questions should I ask each other on a blind date?"

I hesitated for a moment and thought about it. It is really difficult to give a fixed answer to this question. Life is different, and everyone needs different things for marriage. Some people need material things, some people need love, some people need to be suitable, and some people will choose to make do because the other person has good conditions.

In short, everyone has a marriage rule in mind.

But the premise of these guidelines is: all conversations should not be reserved, and key things should not be hidden from each other.

Only by getting along well can we get married in a hurry. What we choose to hide on a date may end up cheating and wasting people's feelings and time.

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Blind date is not a love game. Most blind date people are thinking about the other half of their lives.

The most important thing about blind date is not the material problem of car and house, but whether what you hide can be accepted by others in the end.

Last year, my friend met a teacher named Zhang through a blind date. On a blind date, a friend publicly explained his situation, saying that he was a fourth-tier city, an ordinary family, and his newly bought house had just been renovated, so he didn't have much money at hand.

After he told Ms. Zhang all his true situation, Ms. Zhang said that their family was rural and their parents were farmers. They don't need a bride price as long as they have a house.

Then my friend also explained that he did not have a car. If he buys a car, he will have to work hard for three to five years. The other party said that he didn't mind having a car.

In this way, the two began to get along under the premise of acceptable conditions.

Get along for a year and be satisfied in all aspects. When it comes to marriage, Ms. Zhang said that if she wants a bride price of 6.5438+0.5 million, she must buy a car, saying that it is the same in rural areas, and she will not get married if she fails to meet the requirements.

No way, friends who have a house, no car and no savings can't meet their requirements, and their marriage will go away.

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This kind of action before action, even in the smallest things in life, is very annoying, not to mention such a big wedding event.

In blind date, the most important thing is not facial features, not wealth, but confession.

What do you have and need, you should say it without reservation, which is a kind of responsibility for the blind date and a kind of respect for yourself.

An objective problem that can't be accepted from the beginning is unlikely to be accepted in the end.

If you are lucky enough to hide your needs and want to wait until the raw rice is cooked, then your cooked rice must be cooked in white, and the state of you two is half cooked.

If what you want is the basic conditions of having a house and a car, then say it without reservation, so that the poor boy across the street can either find a way to get it.

If you pretend to be lofty and say you don't need it, but get married after dating, you need a house, a car and a high bride price, which makes people cry, and it's not just the other person, but also yourself.

Blind date begins with external conditions, and the beginning of cultivating feelings is when conditions are acceptable.

Deceptive blind date, in the end, not only becomes "draw water with a sieve", but also makes people think that you are a liar full of lies.

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After reading such a wonderful joke, a man went on a blind date. Before he could sit still, he said, "Do your feet stink?"

The woman was angry at that time and replied, "Why don't you smell it now?" Then before the waiter came to the table, the two of them had already dispersed.

Although in the 30-second conversation, people think that this man is either mentally ill or intentional. But think about it carefully, whether intentionally or not, at least he said something he couldn't accept, and didn't delay the girl or even waste the meal money.

There is no need to get along, there is no need to make do.

I think everyone who goes on a blind date has a rational request that has been prepared for a long time. For example, some people may ask for a car or a house, while others may ask for a bride price deposit. It may be that you don't live with the elderly after marriage, or it may be an appearance association, asking the other party not to be too bad; May require a work degree, and may hope that the other party has no love history. ...

In short, many times, two people who can meet and date have something they have planned for a long time.

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A couple got married on a blind date. The man is a factory director and the woman is a cosmetics salesman. They are friends of their parents and have kept in touch since they met.

The man, in particular, was very kind and attentive to the woman, and they got married more than half a year later.

But after marriage, this man is like a different person. If he has nothing to do, he will find fault and get angry. A little thing can make a mountain out of a molehill for a long time. The woman also looked puzzled and felt that she was not married to the old man.

Later, in a quarrel, the man satirized his wife in a rage.

Suddenly, the woman realized why her husband had changed. It turns out that this man has a virgin complex, and he always wants to marry a virgin as his wife. So after marriage, he can't accept the fact that his lover is not good, so he always finds fault.

Later, the two of them really couldn't get through their hearts and chose a divorce.

"You have a virgin complex, that's your business, but you have this special need, can you say it from the start? I will quit automatically. Why do you have to pretend to be lofty when dating, to delay me. " This is the most helpless thing the woman said when they applied for a divorce certificate.

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When dating, you need not only eyes, but also heart. What is hidden in your heart is the benchmark of your happiness.

No matter how the blind date turns out, in every conversation, you should consider whether what you accept and what you need match the standard answer in your mind.

If the blind date can't meet your inner requirements, but you want to go anywhere first, and then you still feel inappropriate, it is irresponsible for both of us.

In the process of blind date, you can ask some wonderful questions, and you can also inquire about each other's private life and living habits appropriately, but please don't keep your most concerned questions from beginning to end until you are in love or even married. This is undoubtedly wasting each other's time and hurting each other.

If you want to say anything, just say it in pairs. You can't do it if you can't. People who have met once don't need to hide or cheat.

There are also some people who use lies that they think are very kind to enhance their status, thinking that such lies will make them look noble and perfect. To tell the truth, such people are really scum. Even if such a person finally degenerates, it is not worthy of sympathy.

Those who ask "OK" as soon as they meet, and those who frankly say "Is there a house with an area of 100 square meters or more" on blind date are actually kinder than those who don't ask for it, but ask for it after two people are together.

If possible, I think the most delicate conditions of blind date should also be observed with a magnifying glass. The purpose of blind date is not only to find someone to marry, but also to screen people who will live with you for a lifetime.

Only by starting the first conversation with your heart, mind and heart can you get closer to the spark of love.

Good blind date results often win in honesty. If you want two people to get along well, you can't hide it from each other.