Why can some people give people a strong sense of oppression?

Generally speaking, this kind of person will adopt the following ways:

1. Express your "Excellence" appropriately.

Such a person is really better than others. He is very keen to show this power in front of others. No one is better than them.

But he won't just say "Look at me".

It won't be Versailles: "well, I'm always accosted by my uncle driving in the street." Is it wrong for me to look good? " "

We all laugh when we see the above two, and we won't feel any depression.

People who feel oppressed will show their "Excellence" in an elegant and decent way.

For example, in the dialogue, I intentionally or unintentionally use slightly uncommon allusions to hint at what skills I have learned.

They are experts in this field, and most of them are just white. It is normal to be fooled.

2. Guide you and praise you

They will set themselves as "absolute authority" and "standards" in a way that you can't perceive.

In addition to the appropriate position, he will also recommend books and movies to you.

They usually say, "You can read this book."

If you do well, they will praise you.

"Great, you have started to think about this problem now."

When you get their praise, you will be a little happy. After all, you are recognized, but you always feel uncomfortable.

It is because "praise" and "guidance" are things that superiors do to subordinates. While praising and guiding you, he has acquiesced that he is superior to you.

Behind this is a kind of power coercion.

We can think about it, will a child praise his parents? Does a student dare to instruct the teacher?

He praised you and guided you, not really for your own good, but to show that "I am better than you."

3. I care about you

Such people will still care about you from time to time and be nice to you.

It is this kindness that disguises his strong sense of superiority.

It is this kind of kindness that makes you feel uncomfortable and oppressive, but you just can't tell what is going on.

Even, you will suspect that this is your own problem.

I will think: this person is so kind that I feel uncomfortable. Is it because I am too narrow-minded? How can I be such a person? It's just that you're not good, you're jealous, and you have a bad personality.

I am terrible. I am a loser.

As long as you think so, the other party will succeed.

He not only gained a sense of superiority from you, but also was deprived of his subjectivity.

But in fact, such a person is "weak" in nature, and his existence value is not determined by whether he really has profound thoughts, real ability and a higher level, but is based on the comparison with others.