Mother complained that her daughter was not good to her. Life answers: Look at how you treated her when you were a child.

On the street, my daughter dropped the health care products that her mother queued to buy and shouted at her mother, "How many times have I told you that these health care products are deceptive? You don't understand? "

Mother saw people gathered here and said softly, "Keep your voice down. It's a pity. "

At home, the mother washed her daughter's dirty clothes and was taking them out of the washing machine. My daughter is back.

"Who told you to wash my clothes? My clothes are pure silk and can't be washed in the washing machine! "

"I want to help you because you are busy at work."

In the hospital, my mother was ill and my daughter came back after paying the medical bill.

My mother looked at this bossy, shouting daughter, disappointed and puzzled, how did her daughter become like this.

At night, my mother dreamed and saw a life answering machine. She asked doubtfully, "Why do you think my daughter did this to me?"

Life answering machine said: although I don't understand your human feelings, I have some information here that you may be interested in.

Next, my mother saw photos of her getting along with her daughter.

In the street, she took her daughter's paper and scolded the child: then give me 67 points. Did you listen well in class?

The daughter said, mom, shall we go home and talk?

At the gate of the bookstore, my daughter said that the final term was coming, and the teacher asked everyone to buy exercise books.

In the living room, the little daughter squatted on the ground to help her mother wash clothes.

Seeing these fragments, my mother finally understood that these things on her daughter are all the marks she left in the process of education.

I sometimes feel particularly sad when I hear and see some stories about the contradiction between old people and their children, but after learning a little, I will feel helpless. In fact, parents can decide what kind of children to teach and what kind of relationship they have with their parents, which has to be regretted. Poor people must have something hateful.

Many parents will say that their children are baiwenhang and unfilial when they are old, but they only condemn their children morally and have never thought about why they become like this.

Children are replicas of their parents, what kind of people their parents are, how they look at the world, how they treat life and how they treat others, all of which will affect children invisibly, which is why people teach by example.

The child's imitation ability is amazing. Do you think that what you told him in words when he was a child was all you taught him? In fact, your behavior is the main content of children's learning, and imitating your behavior and thinking mode is the main way for children to learn. Most of what he learned is something you didn't tell him.

Someone caught such a scene.

A child draws with a paintbrush on the wall at home, leaving several traces of colored pens on the white wall. Dad saw it, walked quickly over and shouted at the child: "What are you doing! Who told you to paint on it? Go back to your room! Let me see you draw on the wall again! "

As he spoke, he tugged at the child's arm, snatched the child's pen and pushed the child away.

Then, one day the child painted with other children.

Another child added two pens to his paper, and the child immediately grabbed each other's pens and threw them away. He said angrily, "Don't draw on my paper! What a nuisance! "

The child treats others by imitating the way his father treats him.

Maybe the child doodles on the wall, and the consequences are quite serious, but mom and dad can stop it in a more reasonable way, and the harm to the child will be less.

The same thing, once I saw a group of children drawing pictures.

There is a boy among them, and there is a younger child who is not sensible. Ignorant children don't know what everyone is doing at all, so they draw casually with a pen and disturb everyone.

The boy painted several times, but he didn't get angry or yell at his brother. Instead, he took a piece of paper to his brother and told him it was your paper. Can you draw a little flower for his brother?

Sure enough, my brother immediately stopped making trouble and sat there quietly drawing small flowers.

Everyone asked the boy's mother, how did you teach it and how did the child understand it so well?

Mother said, "I didn't expect it either, but when I was a child, my son used to paint on the wallboard and door panel at home." I refrained from scolding him, but told him that artists need to practice painting to draw well. You'd better make a draft before painting, because after painting on the wall, you can't change it. What should I do if you make a mistake? So everyone draws on paper. If you draw well, mother can help you frame the picture and hang it on the wall. "

After listening to this mother's words, I was particularly moved at that time. Education needs wisdom. The wisdom of parents can not only help children better understand the truth, but more importantly, let children see what a wise person is. He will grow up to be as clever as his parents.

Parents' words and deeds, like seeds, are seen by children and planted in their hearts. You don't know when these seeds will germinate, but they will surely germinate and grow into the genetically edited appearance of this seed.

Children's indifference comes from parents' neglect;

Children's violence comes from parents' rudeness;

The imbalance of children comes from the eccentricity of parents;

Children's selfishness comes from parents' doting;

Children's rudeness comes from their parents' ruthlessness. ...

Everything happens for a reason. As parents, what we can do is to educate our children carefully when they are young, so that they can grow into qualified people and avoid all kinds of tragedies to the greatest extent.