I am kind to others, but I can't get anything in return. Is it my fault?

It is incorrect to think that what you give to others will be rewarded. Maybe your contribution to other people's cognition is taken for granted or negligible. Pay is not necessarily recovered, and it is not necessarily unrewarded. It's just that many things are casual and you need to understand and discover them yourself.

From the aspect that you are ready to help others and expect others to return, you are still a naive person, and there are still many traps in life waiting for you to avoid. You may even feel lonely and want others to give you the same return all day. Once this good friend leaves you, you will regret it. Even if you go looking for it again, it will not only waste your energy and time, but maybe the new friends you find are not as good as the old ones.

People are eager for immediate returns rather than long-term benefits, which is one of the reasons why many people are too addicted to games. As long as they pay, they will get corresponding feedback immediately. But in real life, many efforts need to wait for a while. It's not that the present society is too cruel to provide you with an appropriate return, but that the time has not yet come.

Whether you get a good return is not judged by yourself, but by the personal ability of the person who returns you. For example, when people smile, they will feel rewarded; Will someone think that bowing and saying thank you is a good reward, or that they are really in a hurry and have no time to make other expressions, but they keep it in mind and will repay them one day? This is decided according to personal reality.

When helping others, it is easy for a person to assume a morally condescending posture. In fact, it is not easy to help others, not only to work hard, but also to avoid making mistakes, and more importantly, to pay attention to your attitude. When you find that the person who receives your help is ungrateful, don't rush to call others a baiwenhang. After all, it is difficult for a person to see his own problems clearly. This is the origin of the classic joke "Most of them are above average".

When we think we are on the moral side, the wrong enthusiasm often follows. If you want to help others, don't care about their reactions. Because moral standards are always a double-edged sword, it can make you behave noblely and make you overconfident.