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Emotion refers to seven emotions: joy, anger, worry, thinking, sadness, surprise and fear. Any change in things has two sides, which can be beneficial or harmful to people. Similarly, people's emotions and emotional changes have both advantages and disadvantages. In life, everyone will inevitably have bad emotions of one kind or another, but we should be good at controlling and adjusting them and be able to eliminate them in time, so as to avoid being hurt by bad emotions more or less.

(1) Emotional control method.

Also known as the emotional restraint method, it originated from Huangdi Neijing. For example, the theory of yin and yang should be as pointed out in the big picture in Neijing: "Anger hurts the liver, and sorrow overcomes anger;" "If you like sorrow, you will fear victory;" "Thinking hurts the spleen, and anger overcomes thinking"; "Sad lung, joy wins sorrow"; "Fear of hurting the kidney, thinking is better than fear". Based on emotion, the method of controlling emotion by emotion uses the principle of yin-yang and five elements existing among the five internal organs to transfer and interfere the emotions that were originally harmful to the body in a way of mutual containment and restriction, so as to achieve the purpose of coordinating emotions. This is the so-called unique and rehabilitation method of Chinese medicine. This principle was fully developed and widely used in the Jin and Yuan Dynasties, represented by Zhang's Scholars. Zhang pointed out: "sadness can control anger, and you can feel it with sad words;" Joy can cure sadness and entertain sadness with teasing words; Fear can cure happiness, fear words of death; Anger can control thinking and touch it with insults and bullying; Thinking can cure fear and worry about his ambition. These five things will be deceptive and strange, and then they will be moving and easy to listen to. "

When using the method of controlling emotions with emotions, we should carry out formal emotional therapy when patients have a hunch, rather than suddenly when people are unprepared, and grasp people's sensitivity to emotions in order to choose the right method and avoid going too far.

People who like sadness win with fear.

Overcoming it with fear, also called panic therapy, is suitable for symptoms of excitement and mania. In The Scholars Family Relations, it is recorded that a doctor of Zhuang was "extremely happy to treat patients, and Zhuang cut his pulse and lost his voice, pretending:" I want to take medicine, and I won't come for a few days. "So the patient gradually developed fear from doubt and anxiety, and sadness from fear, thinking that the doctor did not come because he was seriously ill." The patient cried goodbye to his relatives and friends: "I won't be long!" Zhuang knows that he will recover and comfort him. " This case shows that Dr. Zhuang lost his voice according to his pulse and took medicine for a few days, which is called "fear wins joy"

There is also a case recorded in Huixi Medical Book: someone just got admitted to the top scholar, asked for leave to go home, suddenly fell ill on the way, and invited a doctor to see a doctor. The doctor looked at it and said, "Your illness can't be cured, and you will die in seven days.". Come on, hurry home. " The new champion was dejected and despondent, went home day and night, and was safe and sound after seven days. His servant came in and said, "The doctor wants me to give you a letter when I get home." I read in the letter: "I am happy and sad after I arrived, which is beyond the cure of medicine, so my servant is afraid of death, so it is no harm to treat the disease today."

The above two examples show that people with mixed feelings dare not solve them. What is the reason? "Wu Lecture Notes" explains: "If you are happy, you will be happy. Why should there be mixed feelings? The spirit of mortals lasts for a period of peace, and those who fail get sick, and those who pass also get sick. The scripture says,' God is hidden in your heart, and if God has more than enough, he will laugh'. Trying to use the word' endless' to taste is too happy to be correct. When you are so happy that you forget your troubles, you don't know how to ask for it. Isn't the hidden god distracted by it? As for fear of winning, what do you mean? Gaixi is the heart, fear is the kidney, and water can make a fire. Both are ways to help. More obviously, when people are extremely happy, they are prone to fear. When you meet them suddenly, you will always be happy and worried, but happiness is slower than fear, and fear is more urgent than joy. Is it based on the principle of fire and water restraint, or is it close to Fu Hui, but I don't know that the way to win and save is to rely on human feelings. And loved ones. "

Think of those who hurt the spleen, and win with anger.

Controlling it with anger is a kind of therapy to relieve qi stagnation in the body by using the function of liver qi rising when angry. Suitable for long-term thinking, pneumatosis or abnormal depression. The case of continuing a famous doctor's building contains: "A rich woman, worried too much, couldn't sleep for more than two years. Zhang looked at it and said,' The pulse in both hands is slow, and this spleen is also affected. The spleen governs thinking.' But he was furious with her husband, so he took more money and drank for a few days, but left at the same time. His anger and sweat made him sleepy at night. In this case, he didn't slap on August 9, so he naturally ate food and his pulse became flat. "This example shows that thinking can hinder the regulation of people's behavior and activities, leading to the failure of vital qi and qi stagnation, or disharmony between Yin and Yang, and insomnia due to hyperactivity of Yang without intercourse with Yin. When angry, the qi that goes against the qi pushes away the accumulated qi, and the excited yang is discharged due to sweat, which leads to the recovery of yin and yang.

"People in Sichuan Medical Forest" also described a case of depression and resentment: there was a Confucian scholar named Wang in Qinglong Bridge who had a strange disease and liked to live alone in a dark room and not near the lights. Occasionally, the condition gets worse, and visiting a famous doctor can't cure it. One day, the famous doctor Li Jianang passed by here, and his family was busy inviting him to see it. After Li was diagnosed, he didn't prescribe a prescription, but asked for past articles, read his sentences indiscriminately and read them out loud. Wang chide asked "who is the scholar", and Li spoke louder. Wang was so angry that he forgot his habit of being afraid of Ming. He ran out to grab the article and sat under the lamp, accusing Li: "You don't understand sentences, why are you yelling here?" Confucian scholars were angry and depressed.

Sad people will win with joy.

Winning with joy, also known as laughter therapy, can be used for various diseases of depression and depression due to mental injury. There is a joke in "Anecdotes of Medical College": There was an adult in Qing Dynasty who was unhappy and worried all day. The family specially invited a famous doctor to diagnose. When the famous doctor asked about the cause, he felt his pulse for a long time and was diagnosed as "irregular menstruation". Hearing this, the policeman scoffed and laughed. Repeatedly said: How can I be a man with irregular menstruation? It's ridiculous to the extreme. Since then, every time I recall this incident, I always laugh. This is the laughter caused by a common sense mistake made by a famous doctor on purpose.

Zhu Danxi, a famous doctor in Jin and Yuan Dynasties, once met a young scholar whose wife died suddenly shortly after marriage, so he cried all day long and finally succeeded. Seeking famous doctors and medicines, long-term treatment is ineffective. After feeling his pulse, Zhu Danxi said, "Your pulse is beating well. It seems that it has been several months. " The scholar burst into laughter and said, "Any famous doctor, regardless of gender, is a quack!" "Since then, every time I think about it, I will laugh naturally and often tell others about it as an anecdote to share the fun with you. As soon as the moon turns, the scholar's appetite increases greatly, his mood is cheerful and his illness is eliminated. At this time, I told him that this is a good way to overcome sadness with joy. Those who are afraid of hurting the kidney should overcome it with thinking.

Overcoming through thinking, mainly through "thinking leads to qi stagnation", allows patients to actively resolve some bad emotions and achieve the purpose of rehabilitation. "Biography of Jin Shu" records: "If you taste a kiss, you won't come back for a long time, and Guang () asks why. Answer: I sit in the front. Give me the wine. Fang wanted to drink, but when he saw a snake in the cup, he was very disgusted and fell ill after drinking. At that time, horn bows and lacquer paintings were hung on the wall of Henan Auditorium, and the snake in Guangyi Cup was also a horn shadow. The guest put the wine in front of him and said, Did you see anything in the wine again? Answer: I saw it as before. Being reasonable, the guests suddenly realized and sank into it. " The historical facts mentioned in the idiom "a glass of bow and snake shadow" show that it is caused by fear, and the psychological state of fear and tension can be alleviated through "deep thinking", thus eliminating the disease and restoring health.

Anger hurts the liver, but sorrow overcomes it.

Overcoming sadness is a kind of therapy to promote patients' sadness and achieve the purpose of physical and mental rehabilitation according to the functions of "sadness leads to elimination of qi" and "sadness leads to triumph" in Huangdi Neijing, which has a good effect on dispelling qi stagnation and inhibiting excitement, and is most suitable for patients who consciously take pain as a quick symptom. In The Scholars Family Relations, Zhang treated a woman's illness and asked the patient, "Do you often cry fast?" The woman said, "I don't know what it means to want this." Zhang also said, "The sun's fire touches the lungs, and the gold lies in it. There is nothing to say, the lungs control grief, but they are also crying. " Therefore, Zhang encouraged the patient to cry as much as possible, and his illness was cured. This case was caused by wood fire, and the liver was depressed and the lungs were dry, so I cried the fastest.

What needs to be noted here is: when using the therapy of "overcoming emotion with emotion" to treat pathological changes caused by emotional factors, we should pay attention to * * *, that is, the emotional factors in treatment should be surpassed and overwhelmed, or suddenly powerful * * *, or constantly strengthened * * *. In short, the latter should surpass the former, otherwise it will not achieve the therapeutic purpose of winning with emotion.

(2) Empathy.

Also known as transfer method, that is, through certain methods and measures to change people's emotions and will, in order to get rid of the pain of bad emotions. After suffering from a certain disease, some people tend to focus on the disease, fearing that it will get worse, that it will not be easy to cure, that it will affect their work, labor, study and life, that they will think about the disease all day, and fall into depression, worry, sadness and even nervousness and fear. In this case, distract the patient from the disease and shift the focus of thought from the disease to other places; Or change the surrounding environment, so that patients are not exposed to adverse factors, which is the intentional treatment method of "empathy". Its significance is just as Hua said in "Clinical Guide Medical Records": "Emotional depression is due to hidden feelings ... depression lies in the empathy of patients." In the case of continuing to be a famous doctor, what is said is: "Frustration must be tempered." "If you consider moving it, you will recover from it." There are many specific methods of "empathy", and we should take different measures to use them flexibly according to different people's psychology, environment and conditions. The main methods are as follows.

The first is the empathy method of piano, chess and calligraphy.

"The Biography of Northern History Cui Guang" said: "Take music as a piano book to nourish the spirit." Wu Shiji's "Li Zhuo Parallel Prose" also said: "Patients with seven emotions, reading to relieve boredom, listening to music to eliminate anxiety, it is better to take medicine." Therefore, when you are upset and in a bad mood, you should listen to music, enjoy the drama, watch a humorous cross talk or pantomime, make Coke laugh, cheer up, and the tension and depression will disappear. Usually, you should engage in your favorite activities according to your different hobbies, such as calligraphy and painting. It is beneficial for people to use these methods to relieve their troubles, place their feelings, relax their qi and nourish their hearts.

The second is empathy.

Li Dongyuan's theory of spleen and stomach said: "If you work hard, the yang will decline, so you should take it." This shows that the use of tourism can dispel anxiety and is conducive to the recovery of physical health. When you think too much and feel unhappy, go to the suburbs for recreation, let the beautiful environment regulate negative emotions, indulge in the natural environment of blue sky and white clouds, birds and flowers, relax and forget your troubles. When arguing with others, the best way is to divert your attention and take part, such as playing ball games, taking a walk and hitting Tai Ji Chuan. Or take part in appropriate physical labor to eliminate mental tension with muscle tension.

The third method is sublimation separation.

Sublimation is to overcome the interference of bad emotions with tenacious will, overcome the misfortune in life with reason, turn reason and emotion into the driving force of action and devote yourself to the cause. For example, Sima Qian of the Western Han Dynasty offended Li Ling, was jailed and suffered from corruption. Sima Qian devoted himself to the writing of Historical Records with indomitable spirit, in order to divert the painful state of mind caused by his unfortunate experience, relieve his worries with Shu, adjust and alleviate his psychological contradictions, and turn his physical and mental trauma into hard work.

Transcendence, that is, detachment, should be taken lightly in thought and divorced from the environment that leads to bad emotions in action. For example, after failing the college entrance examination, some candidates feel depressed and desperate, and some even want to commit suicide. At this time, we should correctly understand the meaning of the exam. "I am born to be useful", and going to college is not the only way out. To see many people fail in the college entrance examination, you are by no means alone. As long as a person is not discouraged, cheer up, face life and his own reality, the road is at his feet and the future is broad. He should face life bravely. Ignore the gossip in society. At this time, it is best to find a quiet environment, think calmly, or go out for social investigation and tourism, which is also a way to restore psychological balance.

(3) Hint method.

As we all know, there is a story in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, which is an example of suggestion therapy. Explain that suggestion not only affects people's psychology and behavior, but also affects people's physiological function. As early as Huangdi Neijing, Chinese medicine recorded examples of using suggestion therapy. For example, Su Wen's Theory of Tiaojing said: "* * * Don't publish it. From the needle, I will say: I learn deeply, change according to people, keep my essence, and disperse my evil spirits. It means that the doctor first keeps acupuncture until the patient should * * *, takes out the needle and shows it to the patient, saying that if I stick the needle deeper, the patient will inevitably concentrate, so that the essence will be hidden in the deep inside, and the pathogens will be scattered, which improves the curative effect of acupuncture. Zhang Jingyue, a famous medical scientist in the Ming Dynasty, used hints to spit medicine or acupuncture dozens of places to treat "cheating disease". Li Zhan used language to advise patients not to worry about their eyes, but to concentrate on their thighs, so as to guide the flame down and make their eyes recover.

The method of suggestion usually adopts language, but there are also gestures, expressions or suggestive drug codes. Hinting is different from persuasion. It allows patients to intuitively accept the ideas instilled in them by doctors without logical thinking and judgment through words. Its function lies in emotion, while the function of persuasion lies in reason. We should pay special attention to the suggestion treatment: First, the suggestion of patients is different, which is closely related to their personality and psychological characteristics and the characteristics of higher nervous activity, and also related to their age. The intelligence level and education level of patients have no decisive role in accepting hints. Second, win people's full trust and cooperation before treatment. Third, every treatment process should be as successful as possible. If it is not successful, it will shake the patient's confidence and affect the patient's trust in the therapist. Therefore, if the second treatment is carried out, it will be much more difficult and the hope of success will be much less.

(4) Be reasonable and enlighten.

Huangdi's Neijing said: "People's feelings are all based on death for pleasure, failure for complaint, kindness for complaint, convenience for guidance and suffering for opening. Although some people have no way, evil does not listen. " This is the origin of reasoning and enlightenment. Its main contents are as follows: 1. "Tell them to lose" is to point out the nature, cause, harm and severity of the disease to patients, so as to arouse their attention to the disease and make them take it seriously, neither ignoring nor fearing panic. Secondly, "speaking in good faith" points out that as long as we cooperate with medical staff, treat in time and take proper measures, we can restore health and enhance patients' confidence in overcoming diseases. Third, "guide according to its convenience", telling patients how to care and treat. Fourth, "open it with pain" means to help patients relieve tension, fear and negative psychological state. The above four points are about how to use reasoning and enlightenment. The so-called "reasoning and enlightenment" refers to the correct use of the tool "language" to enlighten patients, publicize disease knowledge, analyze the causes and mechanisms of diseases, relieve patients' ideological concerns, improve their confidence in overcoming diseases, and make them actively cooperate with treatment, thus promoting the recovery of health.

The most commonly used methods of psychological counseling are: explanation, encouragement, comfort and assurance. Interpretation is the basis of reasoning and enlightenment, which can explain the patient's illness, relieve the patient's ideological worries and close the doctor-patient relationship, so as to achieve the purpose of rehabilitation. Encouragement and comfort are the rehabilitation methods for patients with psychological contusion and depression. Security means that when patients have doubts and worries, doctors make promises with enough confidence, take responsibility and eliminate patients' tension and anxiety.

A person who has suffered setbacks or even misfortunes in life can confide his difficulties to his intimate friends and relatives, or write to them to tell his depression, so as to gain strength and support from their friends and relatives for guidance, advice, sympathy and comfort. As the saying goes: "Some people share happiness, and others share pain."

(5) moderate.

"Lu's Spring and Autumn Annals" said: "If you want to love, love has a festival, and saints stop wanting, so you can't do it." What I am talking about here is moderation, that is, moderation, reconciling emotions, preventing excessive emotions, and thus achieving psychological balance. Understanding of Medical Mind summarizes the four essentials, and "avoiding anger" is one of them. Taiding's main health theory emphasizes "five noes" and "not losing your temper" ranks second. "New Techniques for Longevity, Pro-longevity and Pension" summarizes the "seven educations", in which "don't fill anger and nourish liver qi, and think less and nourish heart qi". The "Twelve Less" of health preservation summarized in the Record of Nourishing Nature and Prolonging Life are mainly seven emotions such as less worry and less anger.

Modern research shows that only by being good at avoiding unpleasant negative emotions such as melancholy and sadness and keeping the mind in a happy and optimistic state can it play a very good role in human physiology. If the functions of the brain and the whole nervous system can be improved, the functions of various organ systems can be coordinated. Not only mild avoidable anxiety, insomnia, headache, etc. And there is also severe schizophrenia. , will reduce the incidence rate.

First, "control anger"

Anger is a common negative emotion, which is extremely harmful to human health. It can not only hurt the liver, but also hurt the stomach and brain, leading to many diseases. Lin Zexu's motto is "control anger", which makes sense.

To control anger, we must first be calm, because anger is often the result of not being able to think calmly. Therefore, when things happen, we must be calm, because only when we are calm can we think positively and come up with countermeasures to be complete.

Second, we should vent in time. If there is something wrong with your heart, you can talk to your intimate friends in time, or even have a good cry. Don't take it to heart, or you will get sick or fly into a rage.

Also, control anger and pay attention to nourishing the liver. Scholars believe that the liver governs anger, so to control anger, we must protect the function of the liver. If the stagnation of liver qi causes anger, Xiaoyao powder can be used for treatment; If excessive liver fire causes anger, it can be treated with Longdan Xiegan Decoction. If anger is caused by hyperactivity of liver yang, Zhengan Xie Feng decoction can be used to nourish yin and suppress yang.

Second, we should prevent "joy begets sorrow".

A poor shoemaker in Canada, after knowing that he had won a million dollars in the lottery, suddenly died in ecstasy, still smiling when he died. This sudden death caused by excessive excitement often occurs in the middle. After middle age, the arteries of the whole body will be hardened to varying degrees, and the coronary artery that nourishes the myocardium is no exception. If the heart beats violently, it will inevitably increase energy consumption, and the myocardial blood supply is relatively insufficient, leading to angina pectoris and even cardiac arrest. This is one reason why "joy begets sorrow". In addition, "happiness begets sorrow" will also lead to a sudden increase in blood pressure, which can be compensated by healthy people. If you have high blood pressure, excessive excitement will lead to "hypertension crisis", which is characterized by sudden dizziness, blurred vision and irritability. "Hypertension crisis" may last for several hours, but it can lead to sudden death due to cerebral vascular rupture. It can be seen that "extreme joy" is also undesirable. For the sake of health and longevity, any excessive emotional excitement is not desirable. We should adopt the method of "cold treatment". We should treat happy events and tragedies equally, excitement and anger, prosperity and adversity, happiness and pain, and be good at self-regulation. We must be careful not to exceed the normal physiological limit.

(6) Drainage.

The ancients once said, "It is better to wish than to wish." Generally speaking, people spend much longer in adversity than in prosperity in their lives. So, what should I do when I am unhappy?

Facts have proved that catharsis can free people from the negative psychology of distress and stagnation and restore psychological balance as soon as possible. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that "depression is the cause." Depression, that is, stagnation, mainly refers to depression, sadness and unpleasant negative emotions; Hair thinning, venting. When you are in a bad mood, don't bother yourself, hide your pain and sadness in your heart and vent it. If you can have a good cry and let the tears flow, you will feel more comfortable. Modern research has found that tears flowing out due to emotional changes contain two kinds of nerve conduction substances, which can relieve tension, relieve pain and eliminate anxiety of sad people after being excreted with tears. William Foley, director of the Psychiatric Research Office in Sao Paulo, USA, has an interesting experiment. Among the 200 men and women tested, 85% of women and 73% of men felt much better and their health improved after crying in pain.

Studies have proved that peptic ulcer, allergic colon depression, insomnia, and general stomachache are all related to emotional depression. Men suffer from peptic ulcer more than women, one of the reasons is related to men's tears. Therefore, when you want to cry, you don't have to hold back, let the tears flow out and discharge. Of course, it is not appropriate to cry for too long, beware of what you think is "great sorrow."