Quarrel with her husband; No matter how noisy; How to scold; He just kept silent; What kind of psychology is this?

Life is always a mixed bag of fish and dragons, with joys and frictions, and quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable. We have seen people who quarrel and deny each other and wish each other to disappear immediately. We have also seen people who quarrel for face and the other side is silent. So, what is the psychology of the second silent expression?

Let's talk about something around us first. Neighbor Wang Ma is over 60, and her husband has been dead for many years. It is said that Wang Ma was very strong in those days. Every time there is a contradiction, she is yelling at her, and her husband says nothing. But after the quarrel, Wang Ma quickly let go, and her husband ignored her for several months, at least half a month.

Later, her husband got cancer and died long ago, leaving Wang Ma alone for so many years.

Ma's husband, he is a typical introverted personality, not good at communication, and keeps a lot of words and things in his heart.

They usually think these words go without saying? Don't you understand these truths? Wait a minute.

It should be noted that others are not you, and you won't know what you are thinking. Even if something is simple and verbose, you still have to say it. The root cause of many marital conflicts is poor communication.

The above situation belongs to the psychology of not recognizing and disdaining communication. In addition, there are the following kinds of psychology.

Second: show weakness and dare not refute.

There are also many marriages where women are strong and men are weak. Here, women are strong and men are weak, not what we often say about career performance, but strength and cowardice in character.

A timid man may be afraid to compete with a shrew. Of course, this "dare not" must be the result of giving up after repeated wars and defeats. If you can't say it, give up your arms from the beginning. Everything will be fine when the woman loses her temper.

Third: high self-cultivation, refusing to lower the quality of quarrels.

Many marriages are not completely equal, especially elderly couples.

When the man's quality is high, he consciously chooses to keep his mouth shut in the face of his wife's unreasonable encouragement. It is impossible to reason with an unreasonable person, but it lowers his quality.

Moreover, the more such a man is, the more afraid he is of embarrassment to his neighbors. It is better to take a conciliatory attitude than to disturb the neighbors more and more. You have a thousand arguments, and I have my own rules. In one ear and out the other, the woman screamed at the top of her lungs. He may have figured out who to go fishing with.

Fourth, there are thousands of manifestations of love, so we don't argue among them.

I have to say that having such a husband really envies others. What is more touching than love in details? Loving you means letting you go forever, even if what you say is wrong, even if you lose your temper, a broad heart will always be tolerant.

Here, I want to remind you that there is a limit to everything. Don't push your luck because of each other's tolerance. Love is mutual and fragile. Cherish each other's friendship and cherish each other's possession. Enough is enough.

The above analysis is a few typical psychology, and as for the implementation of each family, it may have its own special reasons. In any case, it is best to communicate calmly if there are differences. It is not advisable to shout, swear or keep silent. Marriage is not easy. Let's do it and cherish it.

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From personal experience, men think that women are emotional, so they usually quarrel with women, and women are unreasonable. Men are rational. They want to be reasonable and don't want to hurt women. They just don't say anything and don't want to intensify contradictions, so your husband still loves you.

For example, when I quarreled with my daughter-in-law, I used to listen to her scolding, but later she disliked me and ignored her, thinking that she scolded me and I wouldn't listen. I tried to quarrel with her, but she couldn't argue with me and made her cry every time. Now as long as we quarrel, we immediately admit our mistakes. Even if it rains today, it's my fault. For family harmony, mutual understanding is the best. Men can be really hard sometimes. I hope that female friends can understand the difficulties of men more. We should not only bear the responsibility, but also bear the responsibility of not understanding, suffering from anger outside and suffering from anger at home. Men are the pillars of the family, and support their husbands' work as much as possible, hoping for better and better.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question.

From your description, it is not difficult to see that your husband may have the following psychological aspects:

1 introverted. In your married life, he belongs to the weaker side. Many times, the initiative is always in your hands. He only agrees or disagrees. As for the right to speak, he didn't!

(2) Keep attacking and retreat to advance. He deliberately asked you not to argue with you. Too much talk, you don't like to listen. Just forget it. He is not really silent, but regards silence as a defensive weapon. This not only fully reflects his self-restraint, but also reflects his higher wisdom than you!

3. Broad-minded. As a man, your husband is broad-minded and shrewd. He doesn't care about ordinary trifles at all. No matter what you say, people will do what they should do in the future.

He has been putting up with you. This is the most terrible, because once he reaches the limit, he is likely to have a big explosion! At that time, it is estimated that you have suffered enough!

I hope you can live in harmony and don't ruin each other's deep feelings because of a little thing. Be calm, think more, and learn to control your emotions. Good luck!

This shows that your husband cares about you and your family, so he can tolerate your temper.

Otherwise, as the saying goes, rabbits bite when they are in a hurry! Besides, he is a living man.

Congratulations on covering the sun at home, but I hope you can control your emotions and attitudes so as not to hurt him and yourself!

Recently, some media reported that the divorce between Li and Li was an example, which also aroused enthusiastic comments from netizens. From Jerry and Lee to the end, Jerry has been in a humble state. As long as Li XiaoLu proposes to Jerry, he will try his best to get Li XiaoLu's love. This is obviously a kind of doting. Of course, I won't comment on this matter. I just want to discuss your problem with you seriously.

Quarrel with your husband, and then don't say anything. It can be seen that you are a very important position in your husband's heart. He avoids any conflict with you and doesn't want to hurt the harmony between your husband and wife because of a little incident. So he loves you very much. If there is an emotional quarrel between you, he will take the initiative to admit his mistake and please you blindly. This is a defensive strategy for him. For you, it is escape, and so on. In the end, the problem can't solve the practical problem.

Such a good marriage is not what you said or what you have been catering to. As a man, I should give you good advice. The premise is to coax a woman and then reason with her.

A good marriage needs mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding, mutual support and mutual companionship. Remember, it's mutual. You can train him slowly. After all, quarreling and scolding can't solve the problem. Only by finding the problem and then solving it is fundamental.

If this person is outside, he will talk a lot, but only at home, he will be silent, which means that you have formed this habit at ordinary times, and you may be a relatively strong person. You must be in a dominant position in daily life, so he has formed this habit and is not good at expressing his views, because he knows that you will not agree or accept it, and nothing can change it. The second is that he loves you very much and doesn't want to affect your feelings because of some trivial matters.

I really don't know. The educational level is different.

Signing a contract is to love you too much and tolerate you, unlike you.

I won the lottery. I don't care about you. I can make as much noise as I want.

Sign, fight, and when I'm bored, I'll leave in a row.

He's letting you go and doesn't want to argue with you. You should be glad to find a good husband, but you should stop.

This problem has been encountered by my former female colleagues!

Every time we quarrel, female colleagues are very anxious, jumping up and down and cursing, all kinds of things, hoping that my husband can give me some response, but my husband just stands still, like a silent mountain.

I think silence is the most likely attitude: I think I can't communicate with you, so I use silent cold violence to resist. (Note that this is not an accusation, but an objective description. )

Looking back, do you expect him to respond, but you don't listen to anything he says, and you will refute it more fiercely?

In fact, you expect him to respond, but don't argue with you. You just want him to respond, recognize, understand your emotions and comfort them.

He also knows how to do the right thing, but he can't do it, and he doesn't want to let himself suffer in the dispute, so he will simply keep silent and resist.

In fact, the core of solving this problem is that two people usually give each other equal rights to talk and listen. Don't just say everything about yourself, and you don't care what the other person says at all.

If you can listen to others, you can only listen to yourself. Regarding the art of communication, I recommend you to watch Non-violent Communication.