The Causes and Harm of the Overflow of "Human Feelings" in Treating Guests and Giving Gifts

? Human feelings? Causes and countermeasures of flooding: it is the traditional custom of the Chinese nation to treat guests with wine and reciprocate with courtesy, which is beyond reproach. However, with the rapid development of economy and society, this traditional etiquette has gradually alienated and deteriorated in daily life. Let's learn to treat guests and give gifts. Human feelings? Causes, harms and countermeasures.

Treat and give gifts? Human feelings? The cause of the flood

In officialdom, workplace, civil society and other social strata, it is full of? Human feelings? Wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding and even social justice. If universal human feelings are an invisible killer, then the human feelings of cadres are the catalyst to promote this invisible killer. When human feelings become a national habit, it is a kind of cadre eating and drinking? Hidden rules? It will become another extremely destructive force, which will have a great negative effect on our economic construction and social development, and cause great damage to our development efficiency and social progress. Therefore, it is urgent to break the bad habits of human feelings.

First, the basic situation of human feelings According to the interview, Yidu's current human feelings have the following manifestations:

First, there are more and more names. In the past, human consumption was limited to a few items such as weddings, funerals and weddings, but now it has increased to more than a dozen items. For example, birthdays, the completion of new houses, housewarming, further studies, joining the army, starting a business, etc. We must do a lot of things and collect presents. In some rural areas, even the old sows have to treat the young sows with gifts. Really? If you want to receive a gift, why not stop here? .

Second, the scale is getting bigger and bigger. In the past, weddings and funerals were limited to relatives, friends and colleagues at work. Now as long as you find a name, you will notice it everywhere, say hello from all directions, and even those who have had personal relationships will notice it. The notified person is justified, and the notified person is unwilling, unwilling and afraid of embarrassment, psychological contradiction and embarrassing situation in the future. A banquet is dozens or nearly a hundred tables, which is unprecedented. There used to be one under the county seat? There are very few people you don't know in the acquaintance society, but you can't look up and see. Therefore, some people ridiculed: Things are neater than the third-level cadres' meeting? .

Three is? Gift money? It's getting thicker. What did people believe in the past? A thousand miles to send goose feathers, courtesy is light and righteousness is heavy? Gifts are few and do not affect daily life. Now the gift money has developed from 5 yuan, 3 yuan to 50 yuan 100 Yuan, 200 yuan, 500 yuan or even more, which is far beyond people's affordability. There is another unwritten rule in Songmuping and Yangxi. I urge you to pay back 100, and you should pay me back more than 100 until it doubles. It has become a disguised investment with low risk and high return. ? Snowball? It's getting bigger and bigger, and some people want tens of thousands a year, so they really can't play.

Four is? Frequency? Faster and faster. I used to meet gifts several times a year, but now I can receive them three or four times a month on average. Arrive? May day? 、? Eleven? In the golden season of marriage and the days of joining the army, the notice of accompanying gifts is overwhelming. Some days, you have to accompany several copies, and it is too late for the family to run separately. Hospitals, schools and other units with a large number of personnel are even more unable to cope.

Fifth, waste is becoming more and more serious. I used to eat in restaurants, and I packed up what I couldn't finish. Now? Human feelings? When eating, there were dozens of tables, and some of them just moved chopsticks symbolically a few times, but they couldn't take them away and most of them were thrown away. All kinds of extravagant winds, white things competing to blow whips, red things competing to sing operas and order songs, and so on. And the huge cost is really shocking.

Sixth, some people hold banquets. Celebration is not an end, but an opportunity to make money. A few cadres with some real power like to do this. Greedy people like this. A few people who have no power or influence give too many gifts and want to get them back, but they can't find a reason and make a lot of jokes. How many times a year does the same person have children, start a fake business and close the door immediately, celebrate the birthday of the elderly under 70, and give relief to the piglets? Full moon wine? . ? The family is happy and full of worries, and the red envelope has crushed the citizens' heads. With more and more people, it is a pity to send money to hotels. ? Is this poem popular now? Human feelings? A true portrayal of the flood.

Treat and give gifts? Human feelings? Harm of flooding: human feelings are greater than debts, and human feelings are stronger than tigers.

This kind of stale human feelings makes the cadres and the masses more or less confused and helpless. Someone joked, what are you invited to? Red payment order? 、? Tender ticket? . Human feelings? A deep disaster? .

First, follow? Human feelings? The spread and rise of human consumption have increased people's economic burden, increased a lot of extra expenses and affected normal family life. The most affected are farmers and farmers. Wage earners? . In rural areas, many people are? A debt of gratitude? Borrowing from the east and borrowing from the west can't make ends meet. In cities, many employees work hard and earn only a few hundred or a thousand dollars a month. For these low-income people, it is undoubtedly worse to maintain daily expenses and increase human consumption. And those low-income workers and retired workers are even more difficult and overwhelmed. Some old people hate that they are not dead, which seriously affects social stability.

The second is to corrupt the social atmosphere. Are you online? Human feelings? With the spread and rise of debt of gratitude, gifts are getting thicker and thicker, but human feelings are getting thinner and thinner, and some of them become naked money transactions. I gave it to you today and I'll try to get it back tomorrow. Some people will catch up with people they don't know, so that they can get more gifts in exchange for something. I took yours, so I have to find a chance to return it quickly. Turning around, all the money was given to the hotel, and no one benefited. Everyone? Human feelings? Victims, but many people are? Human feelings? Sponsor. Everyone hates this atmosphere, but they all feel helpless and irresistible, blaming each other, imitating each other, and even adding fuel to the fire. In the long run, the social atmosphere is getting worse and worse.

Third, it corrupted a few party member cadres and damaged the image of the Party and the government. ? Human feelings? Prevalence is directly related to unhealthy trends in the party and society. Some leading cadres in party member ignored the repeated orders of their superiors and made excuses to collect money. Some split their business into parts in order to avoid the inspection by the discipline inspection and supervision department. Get an injection and change places? . Please invite three or five tables at a time, notify them in batches, and some even run for ten days and a half months. Some leading cadres violate the rule that they are not allowed to do anything except weddings, funerals and weddings, and find various reasons to make a big deal, taking the opportunity to accept gifts, and even a few people take bribes.

Fourth, human feelings have deteriorated seriously. China people have been advocating reciprocity since ancient times, but with the development of the times, this kind of communication has distorted interpersonal relationships more and more, and human feelings are polluting people's hearts. The amount of money represents the weight of human feelings; The price of the gift shows the intimacy of the relationship. Because of the amount of gifts, elders and younger generations turned against each other, brothers and sisters turned against each other, and relatives and friends were at odds. In order to avoid these problems, the amount of consumption can not be less every time. This kind of reciprocity has been replaced by a vulgar money relationship, and reciprocity has almost become a bond between people. What if someone dares to take the risk? Is the world big? If you resist human feelings, will you be accused? Open the roof door? , is regarded as? Alternative? Suffer a cold reception.

Solve the treat and give gifts? Human feelings? Countermeasures of

(A) publicity and education is the foundation. Interpersonal relationship is a category of moral constraint. Therefore, the key to governing human feelings is to rely on citizens themselves. Only when people realize the harm of human feelings, start from themselves and everyone resists can they turn bad customs into good ones. We should regard human management as an important content of spiritual civilization construction and an important measure to build a harmonious and economical society, educate citizens to declare war on old customs, change vulgar interpersonal relationships and compare psychology, guide people to change their customs, and use limited funds to improve their lives, develop production and establish healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships. The propaganda department should take the opportunity of implementing the Party's spirit and strengthening the construction of the socialist core value system, educate people with advanced ideas, guide people with correct public opinion, advocate a healthy and civilized social atmosphere, vigorously publicize new people and new things in interpersonal relationships, deal a big blow to all kinds of stereotypes and bad habits, promote the return of interpersonal relationships to purity, and make life full of true feelings. The propaganda department can take the lead in organizing the Communist Youth League, women's federations, trade unions, and civilized offices to carry out in-depth and lasting work among the broad masses of cadres and people in urban and rural areas? Oppose extravagance and establish a new civilized style? Our publicity and education activities use radio, television, newspapers, columns, slogans and other forms, including posting public service advertisements in hotels and restaurants, to create a strong publicity atmosphere, guide people to discuss abnormal human consumption, and publicize the growing harm of human network and the benefits of simply doing things with people and things around us. At the same time, analyze yourself and make rectification measures. We should mercilessly expose those cadres who have the psychology of accumulating wealth and make things difficult for them, and widely publicize the new civilized style of keeping weddings and funerals simple, so as to form it in the whole society? It is shameful to do great things, but glorious to do new things? The atmosphere of public opinion is strong.

(2) It is the key to standardize the behavior of cadres in party member. Catch sheep first, catch leaders first. To control human feelings, we must first correct the party style and purify the style of cadres. ? Gentlemen are virtuous, villains are virtuous, and the wind on the grass will be suppressed. ? Party member, as a pioneer, set an example, as the backbone of society, set an example first, and human feelings will improve. Leading cadres should first set an example. As leading cadres, we should strictly implement the provisions of clean politics, declare beforehand and report afterwards, consciously accept the supervision of discipline inspection, supervision, the media and the whole society, arrange weddings, funerals and celebrations, set an example for the masses, and drive the fundamental improvement of the whole social atmosphere with a good party style. Adhere to the typical guidance of cadres. Widely promote healthy and civilized ways of cadre communication, set up typical cadres, and advocate expressing goodwill and enhancing feelings through brand-new civilized ways such as a bunch of flowers, a cup of tea, a song and a warm word.

(3) Governance according to law is fundamental. The law follows the wind, and the government and the people are safe. The governance of human feelings is also inseparable from the legal system. It is necessary to raise some customs about interpersonal relationship from moral category to legal category, and regulate people's social behavior according to law. It is necessary to establish rules and regulations to regulate the personnel relations between cadres in party member, and cadres in party member are not allowed to be on radio and television for certain things? Tell it widely? The scope of social interaction and banquets is limited to relatives and friends, and the amount of gifts is stipulated. It is strictly forbidden for party member cadres to hold banquets and take the opportunity to collect money. According to the practice in other places, the funeral organized by cadres in party member is limited to the death of parents and the marriage of children. A table of banquets should not exceed 30 tables, and the amount of gifts per person should not exceed 200 yuan. Advocate reciprocity in returning gifts and opposing spiraling upward. It is strictly forbidden to do big things and waste money. Let the people not only express their feelings, but also do what they can without affecting their normal lives. Innovate methods, carry forward the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, and create a new trend of civilization, harmony and health.

(4) Strengthening supervision is the guarantee. In recent years, a very important reason for the spread of weddings, funerals, weddings, and big-scale operations is that a few cadres ignore party rules and regulations and relevant government regulations, which not only corrupts the party style and political style, but also brings bad folk customs. To completely eradicate this unhealthy trend, we must strengthen the supervision of cadres in party member and seriously investigate and deal with the weddings and funerals organized by cadres in party member. At present, especially in combination with the implementation of the eight central regulations and accountability activities, party member cadres are required to play an exemplary role, consciously break the traditional customs and habits, and establish a good image among the masses. Discipline inspection and supervision organs should clearly stipulate that leading cadres who violate the regulations to handle weddings, funerals and celebrations do not constitute a violation of discipline, and they should be given talks, admonishing conversations, ordering inspections, rectification, informed criticism, dismissal and other organizations; Constitute a violation of discipline, shall be investigated for administrative responsibility according to the relevant provisions; Suspected of committing a crime, transferred to judicial organs for handling; If money and goods are given to leading cadres by the opportunity of weddings, funerals and celebrations, the disciplinary responsibility of the person directly responsible shall be investigated according to the relevant party and government rules and regulations; Leading cadres do not stop or investigate the outstanding problems of taking advantage of weddings, funerals and celebrations to collect money, which leads to repeated prohibitions within the direct jurisdiction, cancel the qualification of Pingxian Pingyou unit, and investigate the disciplinary responsibility of the main person in charge; Wedding, funeral and festive gifts received by leading cadres in violation of regulations should be collected according to regulations. The focus of supervision is on leading cadres, but it cannot be limited to leading cadres. All public officials, including village cadres, should be included in the scope of supervision.

(5) Practicing the purpose is the core. Weddings and funerals are essentially an exchange of interests. Some cadres take this opportunity to treat guests and give gifts, establish relationships and seek benefits, with the aim of getting more returns through people with certain power and social influence. People with certain power and social influence? A large part of them are our cadres. Therefore, our cadres should administer according to law, establish the ruling idea of serving the people wholeheartedly and the image of being honest and clean, and resolutely overcome it? Don't do anything if it's not good, but do something if it's good? Bad work style, earnestly safeguarding the interests of the overwhelming majority of the people, makes people feel that they can do things without inviting guests or giving gifts, and that only by being honest and not losing money can we fundamentally put an end to unhealthy practices. The spread of human sentiment not only distorts the pure friendship and feelings among comrades, relatives and friends, but also loses the fine tradition of thrift and hard work, corrupts the party style, political style, folk customs and social style, and damages the image and prestige of cadres, with extremely serious consequences.