What should I do after lovelorn? Four ways to get out of the shadow of lovelorn.

Don't let the grief, frustration and anger of lovelorn accumulate and devour our body and mind. This is the so-called one gain and one loss. When God closes this door, he will open another door for you.

One: stare ahead, don't look back, keep dignity: don't look for him, don't contact him, don't cling to the past. Although I make mistakes (everyone makes mistakes) and I have shortcomings (everyone has shortcomings), I still have my own dignity. I want to maintain my dignity, look forward and move forward!

Two: if you want to cry, just cry when you take a shower. If you want to scream, find a place where no one screams. If you want to tear it, shut the door and tear it hard. If you want to talk, talk to your bosom friend. But when venting, you must pay attention to the object, and don't look for someone to be a unlucky ghost at will, lose your temper with him and hurt the innocent.

Pretend you don't care: although you can't really care, saying so in action will affect your heart. Think like this: "He doesn't care, why should I care?" Or "the best way to deal with ungrateful people is to live well." Or "if you want to see my sadness and pain, I won't satisfy you." These ideas can help us not to fall into the whirlpool of bad emotions.

Four: clear his traces: filter everything he gives you. Good things can be kept, which will remind you of the past and throw them away, so as not to make yourself sad and angry. Don't go where you used to go, lest you get hurt and feel depressed.

Take out a pen and paper and list his advantages and disadvantages respectively: if his disadvantages outweigh his advantages, then why should you care about him? If you love your feelings, forget it! Leave yourself alone. If his advantages and disadvantages are equal, then don't worry, you will meet someone who attracts you more than him. If he has only advantages and no disadvantages (or few disadvantages), then you should circle one below: he is perfect. You are blind. Either you don't really know him, or you love an illusory ideal image (created by yourself or forged by him). This kind of love is unreal and unstable, and it can't be maintained. It's good to leave early!

Participate in more activities, get together with people, talk about some interesting topics: parties, outings, dancing, watching performances, playing ball games and other dynamic activities, and try to join other people's conversations, explore humorous and interesting topics, and laugh with everyone, and your mood will become cheerful.

Seven: Leave to travel: join a tour group or go to a foreign country or place with a group of friends to play or do research. The cultural customs of various places will make you feel refreshed. Broaden your horizons and create new feelings in your heart, and old troubles will shrink, disappear and fade away.

Eight: Contact with old friends: During the period of love, "valuing sex over friends", completely ignoring the life and death of old friends, and now "single", I still don't take this opportunity to "confess" to old friends. Who knows you like an old friend, does not blame you, does not tolerate you and does not cherish you? With them, you don't have to hide, you are comfortable, and there is no self-denial and doubt after lovelorn, which helps to restore your true colors.

Nine: devote yourself to work and research: I am easily distracted when I am in love, but now I can finally concentrate on my work and schoolwork. Turn grief into strength, work hard, and you will have unexpected achievements, and other honors will follow. This is the so-called gain and loss: when God closes this door, he will open another door for you.

The above nine points are the experience summarized by the author through years of observation and practice, and many of them have been fulfilled. I hope they will help you!