After two months of divorce, I agreed not to contact my ex-wife and ask me to borrow 5 thousand yuan. Should I lend it to her?

No matter love or marriage, people who love deeply must pay more in this relationship. But the unfairness of love is that the more you pay, the more you get.

It is even possible that in the end, what you pay is completely inversely proportional to what you get.

So, he sometimes thinks: Did he owe her in his last life? So I'm here to pay my debts. How come I'm not like myself after meeting her?

Before he met her, he was obviously a man of his word. When he met a girl who liked him, he simply refused and never dragged his feet. He once laughed at one of his buddies and said, "Good horses no longer eat grass."

However, when she came back to him, he continued their relationship, and even had a little secret joy in his heart, thinking that his persistence was effective.

Before that, he chased her for more than two years. But she kept dragging him, saying that she didn't like him when he confessed. When he finally made up his mind not to look for her, she took the initiative.

Therefore, he thinks there is still a chance for their relationship, and it is good for her to continue chasing her.

It's like a circular chase game. After he paid too much, he was possessed and refused to give up, which may be unwilling or other emotions. Anyway, in those two years, he never liked anyone except her.

Even when she has a boyfriend, he continues to accompany her as a friend, and is always available when she has something to do, afraid to say a word that crosses the line, for fear that they can't even be friends.

She always comforts herself like this: "As long as she is not married, I still have a chance." Someone asked, "But people have boyfriends!"

He thought for a moment: "She has a boyfriend, but it doesn't affect that I like her. After all, I didn't destroy her feelings, just stood silently. "

It sounds like an infatuated person, and people around him have also advised him that there are plenty of fish in the sea, so why hang yourself on this tree.

He won't listen to anything and willingly became a spare tire.

02

I think, in fact, in the final analysis, he doesn't even know whether he likes her or is obsessed with his feelings and hasn't got the reward he deserves.

But anyway, he persisted. Less than a year later, she broke up with her boyfriend for various reasons. When she looked back, she saw him still standing behind her.

She believes that this is the most sincere person to herself, so she agrees to be with him. After being together for a year, they really entered the marriage hall because their families were very tight in urging marriage.

It seems that this is a beautiful love story. He waited for her for many years. After all kinds of experiences, she found that the person who had been behind her was actually the right person and formed a good marriage.

But seriously, is that right?

In fact, Rao didn't like him much after they were together, just like she didn't like him many years ago. Her feelings are unwilling to come, and she can't change because of a person's kindness. However, he is still very kind to her, even better than before.

Therefore, the days of two people can also be calm. In this effort, he really fell in love with her, deeply, but when he was deeply in love, he couldn't ignore her absentmindedness.

He said that she never cared about herself, didn't remember his birthday, wouldn't give him a gift, didn't learn to cook after marriage, and she wouldn't ask him if he worked overtime.

Even once, he didn't bring his key and didn't come back until after midnight. His mobile phone is dead, and she has locked the door and slept. The bedroom is far away, so he can't hear him knocking at the door. Later, he sat downstairs for half a night.

He said: "A normal wife should always care about the other half. She won't sleep so hard. Why is she always like this? "

Yes, he often regrets his efforts in this marriage and says she is indifferent. But at the same time, he became more and more attached to her.

03

Sometimes, love is such a strange thing It can come inexplicably, or it can answer the sentence, "Those who can't get it are turbulent, and those who can't get it are fearless."

They were married for two and a half years and finally divorced. She filed for divorce. Because she didn't like him, the boy who had always been in her heart came back to him and said that she still wanted to be with her.

She did not hesitate to ask for a divorce. Everything was caught off guard, and before he could react, this relationship ended.

All along, he could see that she didn't like herself that much. Therefore, I want to touch her with more kindness, and I want her to fall in love with herself. Finally, I just touched myself.

It's just that he didn't expect that he not only didn't like his simplicity, but also married him, because she had someone else in mind, because the boy left the city at that time, and she felt that there was no chance.

It happened that he chased her for many years and treated her well, so choosing to be with him should at least be a good destination.

Since they got married, because of her attitude, the marriage relationship between them has been as dull as water. His attentions are more like a one-man show. She is ungrateful, but he can still sing.

Because of this marital status, two people are also very calm when they divorce, as if they had gone out for a meal. She came back to pack her things and asked if she could be friends in the future.

He remembered chasing her before, and after she refused, he asked him the same thing. This time, he shook his head and said that we should all live our own lives in the future and never meet again.

She nodded her head in agreement.

Unexpectedly, after only two months of marriage, she called him: "Can you lend me five thousand dollars? I will make a loan. "

He asked, "Isn't it agreed that after the divorce, there will be no more contact and contact?" She didn't speak, and finally he sighed and borrowed money. Sometimes I feel sad when I think about it, just like the way they used to keep friends was to borrow money from him.

04

However, he is used to this model, to not refusing her request, and to being kind to her. Even if she is unkind and cruel to him, he can't really be decisive.

He said he was too soft-hearted, and his friends said he was indecisive. There is only one girl. After listening to his love, he asked, "What do you like about her?"

He froze, unable to answer. At first, he just thought she was good-looking and extroverted, which was her type, so he went after her. But later, when I think about it, he got stuck because of her indifference.

This is an endless cycle: the better he is, the more indifferent she is, the more natural she is, and the more unwilling he is to see this scene, so he increases his investment, but she is still indifferent, so he is even more unwilling.

I have a girlfriend who once met such a lover. She met the boy only once, and her words were ambiguous. She thought she liked it, offered to pay first, and then got stuck.

In this process, the boy did not refuse or take the initiative, and was not good enough for her, but he was not indifferent. She keeps increasing the cost of feelings, trying to find a result for them. But he remained indifferent, and she got deeper and deeper.

It took her a year to get out after cutting everything off. Later, I asked her, "You haven't lived together, and you don't know each other at all. How can you love each other so much? "

She didn't realize it. Yes, they don't have the same memory. Why can't they let him go? Later, she said, "Maybe I don't want to pay too much. I once had a bad idea that I felt that I had paid so much, and I must persist until one day he liked me, and then I abused him before leaving. "

But he didn't like her as he wished, so her feelings sank alone and she hurt herself deeply.

So is he, right? Did he really like her after marriage or was he unwilling? In fact, he himself can't tell. He just said, in fact, he has no feelings about marriage or divorce. The former is not very happy, and the latter is not very sad.

His hobby was only to increase her love for herself, but later he formed his habit, including lending money to her after divorce, which seemed to become a habit.

Therefore, when you love someone, you should also remember to stop the loss in time, don't just stare at the investment, and look back occasionally. If there is no result, you don't have to look for the result. Take back your feelings first.

Because sometimes, your excessive persistence may lead you to meet the wrong love.