What should I do if I always refute you no matter what you say?

wechat has long been a tool for people to chat. Now everyone's mobile phone will bring this software. But when you chat in WeChat group, can you often meet a kind of person called Bar Jing?

what is lever essence? It's not a mental illness playing horizontal bar, but a person who is addicted to wrangling when chatting. No matter what others say, this kind of people refute criticism first and then confuse right and wrong, just for the sake of refuting. They are indiscriminate and show their sense of superiority by refuting other people's remarks.

speaking of which, everyone should understand. Such people are everywhere, and you must have met them. So how many kinds of bar essence are there?

1. open bar.

The so-called open bar means to talk to you with gongs and drums in person. This kind of lever essence belongs to the kind with quick brain and glib tongue who likes to play hardball.

their routine is to interrupt and deny your remarks as quickly as possible. Then suppress you at an extremely fast typing speed, confuse your speech center and start to refute you and argue with you.

for example, you said that the movie so-and-so was really good. This kind of open bar responds immediately, and you can enjoy that bad movie yourself. What good film can that director make? As far as the actor's various scandals are concerned, this broken theme has been ruined @ #%&; *@... ...

What should you do if you encounter such an open bar? There is a saying in Cao Gui's debate: once you muster the momentum, you will be exhausted after three failures. When you meet such an open bar, don't worry about what he said, just answer him and say, "What do you mean? I don't understand? Would you please speak more clearly? " Then no matter how the goods are explained, you just need to ask these words repeatedly and say that you don't understand and let him explain. If you fail again, you will be exhausted. After a few explanations, this bludger will cut his throat and shut up.

2. hidden bar.

There is another kind of bludger who dares not bludgeon you in person. Instead, grab your words when you leave the group chat and start to blackmail you. Because you are busy and can't reply, this hidden lever will continue to use the topic to play grandstanding and say what is what.

you must not let such a person go. Because most of these hidden bars are open bars, but yours. You can choose to directly take him down, or @ he can use the above method of pretending not to understand and asking for an explanation to counter it.

3. group bars.

what is a group bar? This is a complicated scene. That is, soon after you joined a new group, chatting and chatting, suddenly a lot of bar spirits came out to bar you together. Generally, this kind of situation is a situation in which old gangsters bully new people. They defend their territory like a pack of wild dogs.

This situation needs to be handled according to the situation. Let's think about the purpose of this gang. The first purpose is to ask the newcomers for red envelopes. This is the simplest way to handle it. A dime red envelope is distributed in ten packages. After two or three packages are distributed, this group of people will shut up. Second, they think you threaten their sense of existence. When encountering this kind of group bar, red envelopes are not easy to use. It's no use asking for explanations one by one. If you have time to talk to them, talk to them, but just ignore their news and don't bother. Use the precipitation of time to make them shut their mouths.

what? Is there nothing you can do when you meet a group of bars? Ha ha. It's like you're walking on the road and a group of dogs are chasing you. You should either sprinkle some dog food to keep them safe, or wave a dog stick to drive them away. If you don't have a stick or dog food, you should get out of here quickly and don't let the dog tear it up, right?

At the end of the article, the author would like to say a few more words: Please rest assured. In the end, the bar essence will definitely disappear without a future.

Just smile, and a wise man won't think that what he said is right.

There is no need to take it seriously with the bar spirit. There was a classic story about the bar spirit in Confucius' period. Although it was a joke, it was worth learning from [covering his face ]

One of Confucius' students was sweeping the floor outside the door, and a man came over and asked him, What do you do?

student: I am a student of Confucius. Somebody say, do you know how many seasons there are in a year?

Confucius' students answered, Four Seasons.

no, it's three seasons!

The students laughed. Of course, it is four seasons. How can it be three seasons?

come on, it's three seasons.

the two men argued endlessly about it. So bet: if it is three seasons, students have always kowtowed three times;

if it's four seasons, people kowtow to students three times.

They were going to ask Confucius when Confucius came over.

They raised the question, and Confucius pointed to the students and said, It's three seasons, so kowtow quickly!

The students looked ignorant, but they were terrified of Confucius, so they had to kowtow to others three times.

the students were very depressed after the people left.

Confucius said, you didn't see the man just now. He was all green. He was a grasshopper.

grasshoppers live in spring and die in autumn. How does he know that there will be another winter?

so in his eyes, there are only three seasons in a year.

if you don't kowtow to him, the two of you will never end the day, so what's the point of wasting time studying?

what does "Three Seasons Man" mean?

Three Seasons people mean: ignorant people, sometimes used in a derogatory sense. "Three-season people"-grasshoppers, born in spring and dead in autumn, have only experienced spring, summer and autumn in their lives. Where have they seen winter? There are many people in the society, just like the three-season people, who can completely avoid or ignore them!

justice is free from people's hearts, and the incorrect party is called the essence of leverage

the essence of leverage is the best cure!

If you are talking to most people, and the barman is always on the phone, then just ignore him and go on talking about yours.

If you're talking to a gangster, you should get ready, put oil on your feet and go.

stay away from the bar essence and keep your distance from him.

However, joining this bar is your closest person, such as your boyfriend. What should you do?

you can't kick him out.

yes, you can kick it, but it's not impossible not to kick it.

A real hustler, even if he agrees with your point of view, will say the last sentence, what you said is wrong, and then say a lot of things, but in fact you have the same point of view.

This kind of hustler lacks a sense of existence and always wants to express himself. Therefore, in many cases, chatting with them can lead to a topic. First, let him express his opinions. When he has finished, your opinions are no different, so it's over.

slowly, the bar essence has enough sense of existence, and it will change.

However, sometimes, the opinions are different. The bully is obviously wrong, and you are right. What should I do if he insists on fighting with you?

this is a cognitive defect.

is a sign of immaturity, but anyone with normal cognition, even children, will admit the correct view. If he refuses to admit it, he will argue with you, which is cognitive defect. He needs to improve his cognition. Of course, you can't say it, and it's unnecessary, because people can only grow up by themselves, and others can't help them.

If he knows that he is like this and is unwilling to change, then he needs to consider whether to live with him. You will have an accident sooner or later, which is an immature performance. In adult society, your immature performance is just childish, and it is easy for others to KO you.

don't wait until that day, and you will lose more than you gain.

In the face of the bully, change your mind, and you always say that he tries his best to bully you.

It really affects your mood to have a friend who is a gangster, and you can't communicate with him, so no matter what he says, when you think he is possessed by a gangster, you can reply. You are right. In that case, he won't say it for a while.

Don't argue with him when dealing with the barman, you may not be able to compete, and if you have a bad psychological quality, it is easy to make yourself angry and unable to eat. Because as long as you say one word, there are always thousands of words to refute you.

I almost became a badger for a while. Because my subconscious habit is negative, for example, when someone suddenly asks me if you want to eat this food or not, I will subconsciously tell you without thinking, no. But sometimes when my classmates ask me something, such as whether this thing is like this, I will subconsciously say that it should not be like this.

Later, I found that it was easy to argue, and I just subconsciously didn't think, and I easily put my foot in my mouth. Moreover, my classmates also think that I deny him every time, which makes him very uncomfortable and easily affects the mood of two people. So now if he asks me something, such as whether this thing is like this, I will either seriously think about expressing my views or say I don't know. There are some things in life that should be debated, but there is no need to discuss the innocuous little things, just let it go, and there is no need to argue about it. If we encounter some difficulties in our study or work, we must fight it out. When two people argue about a problem, it will make you pay great attention to it, so you want to explore what it really looks like, and you will learn something in the process of arguing.

But for some meaningless questions, for example, I think tomatoes are delicious, and he insists that tomatoes are not delicious, so don't spend time arguing with him.

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You know someone else is a liar, so don't argue with him. Is it necessary to talk? Unless you are also a "lever master"

If you meet this kind of person in the future, you will flatter him, kiss his ass, and say anything to make him feel right and feel good about himself. Then when he stays in this state, he will find that there are plenty of people teaching him a lesson in society, and it is difficult for him to stand on his feet in society. There is a saying that if you hold him high, you will fall and die.