The happiness that women really want.

What women really want is happiness. Happiness is not a carefree state, but having someone who loves and understands himself. When you are tired, someone will rely on you, and when you cry, you will have pain, mutual suspicion and mutual warmth. Let's look at the happiness that women really want.

The happiness that women really want 1 When I speak, you should listen carefully.

Now each of us has hundreds of friends in the WeChat address book, but every time we want to call someone to chat, we don't know who to call. After thinking about it, I put the phone down helplessly, and everything I wanted to say became the twinkling stars at night.

Want someone to accompany me, listen to me, happy and sad, dissatisfied with life, worried about work. The neighbor's children were punished for being naughty again. The aunt in the vegetable market gave a few more leeks this time, and the uncle in the convenience store sent away the last Guandong cooking for free.

And these long-winded and interesting parents can tell you without thinking. You just sit quietly by my side, feeling as novel and interesting as listening to fairy tales, and occasionally casting approval and spoil eyes, so that listening to me after work every day can make me feel happy and warm.

When I am willful, you will love me well.

In the adult world, everyone lives in a mask, playing tricks with heart and being careful everywhere. Everyone lives very tired, and we can't be willful like children anymore. We have to adjust our mood to silent mode every day.

In fact, the happiness I want is very simple, that is, I can be a simple little girl in front of you, without any scruples, without disguise or careful hiding. Smile when you are happy, cry when you are sad, and be childish when you are willful.

You won't mind these. In others' eyes, I may be rude and unreasonable, but in your eyes, I am kind and naive. You know the recklessness behind my willfulness, and you will love me no matter what.

When I need it, you will appear in time.

Every day, I always care about each other through the WeChat circle of friends: "Let's have dinner together another day." "It's raining. Do you have an umbrella? " "Pay more attention to your health!" But in real life, we never met again.

In fact, the happiness that women want is not these illusory concerns, cold transfer records, and routine holiday wishes. But when I am sick in bed, confused and helpless at work, wronged in life, every time I am weak and helpless.

You can always be by my side in time and give me a solid shoulder to lean on. You may not be a doctor, a boss, or an emotional motivator, and you can't solve these thorny troubles and problems I face.

But your first appearance made me feel brave and warm, and suddenly gave me the strength and courage to fight against life.

This is the happiness that an ordinary woman wants most. No luxury car, no big house. Just hope: when I speak, you will listen carefully; When I am willful, you will love me well; When I need it, you will appear in time. It's as simple as that, and the content is enough!

I hope that the rest of my life will be quiet and beautiful. I hope that someone will know your warmth and sadness, understand your joys and sorrows, love you as always, love you to the bone, and never be disappointed!

What kind of happiness do women really want?

Romantic with you at the age of 20-30.

Riding to the lake to listen to saxophone in winter night, it's very cold. I'll let you take my gloves. I'll stand in the back seat of the car and cover your ears with my hand.

On the evening of summer, we sat by the road and ate watermelon. You are half, I am half, but I still robbed your food. I accidentally spilled watermelon juice on my body. You called me stupid and wiped it for me.

In the spring afternoon, we went to the park to take pictures together. Only the two of us couldn't take pictures, so we squatted on the ground, smirking at the camera on the ground, taking pictures horizontally and comparing with the upright cow.

In early spring and autumn, we do sports together. I didn't run, but you couldn't help it. I squatted down helplessly. I laugh wildly. As soon as I climbed on your back, you knocked me down.

I waited happily until that day came. I opened the big box of chocolates you gave me, and I saw the wedding you arranged.

Me. Then I cried and hugged my mother and threw my favorite ring into your arms.

We waited happily until that day came. You should accompany me to watch him come into this world, and then kiss my sweaty forehead, wife, thanks!

30-40, we live together.

Every day after work, you kiss me, kiss the baby, and then drink the soup I made for you. Every night, we tell stories to the baby together until he falls asleep.

I accompany you to watch the ball game, from being forced to become a fan; You accompany me to watch Korean dramas, but you never feel helpless. We hugged each other and slept at night. As soon as I turn around, you will wake up and pull my quilt, help me cover it, and then go to see the baby. We ran like hell in the morning, in a hurry, and there was still time to stuff you with a bag of milk when I got off the bus.

When it rains, you take the initiative to pick me up from work, except for an umbrella and a warm coat. Your work is not going well, so I won't bother you. I'll make your favorite coffee and walk away quietly. I will iron your white shirt next to you. You don't want to look up at me and give you the sweetest smile.

On holidays, we go to visit our parents: in front of your mother, I am as meek as a lamb slaughtered by you; In front of my mother, you are the best-tempered Hercules in the world. Since my father had you, he doesn't have to do heavy work at home anymore ... we occasionally quarrel about the baby: you yell at him, I yell at you; I hit him and you asked me to hit you.

40-50, we are very dull together.

Children grow up day by day, and we get older and less arrogant. We began to get used to peace. On the weekend morning, we bought vegetables together and bought a handful of fresh vegetables, which was enough to make us happy for a day. During the holiday, we went out to travel, instead of going to crowded scenic spots, to a quiet and beautiful town. I get carsick, so you are used to taking pills out of your pocket.

I started nagging you not to smoke or drink, and you wanted to buy me cosmetics more and more, saying that I was still at work. I started asking you to help me thread when I embroidered cross stitch, but you also found that my eyes were a little blurred. We often help each other to pull out the long white hair and recall the little things when we were children. You always say that I wrote love letters to others, and I even forced you to contact the old woman who was my first love.

Our child has gone to college, and we are always worried that he has a girlfriend and eavesdrop on his phone calls.

50-60, we grow old together.

The waist is a little bent, and we are all about to retire, and we are all ready to take regular health care drugs. You suddenly learned to steal TV from me, and I couldn't help it. With a daughter-in-law, it seems that her son is hers. We look forward to seeing him at the weekend. You always look at your flowers, your fish, and you don't like looking at me anymore; I'm tired of watching you, too. I always look through our photo albums. How beautiful you were when you were young. ...

I was sick, you accompanied me to see a doctor, and the doctor said it was nothing, and we were all relieved. We occasionally go to restaurants where young people like to go. Although expensive, it will be romantic. I always ask you how long it's been since you said you love me. You laughed and said I was younger. I don't understand. It turned out to be menopause!

I found your private money in my bed and put it back quietly. Soon after, on our wedding anniversary, I was given a beautiful jade bracelet: I cried, and you said I was really an overseas Chinese; I smiled. You said the old lady was really cute.

60-70, we are confused together.

More and more forgetful, I can't remember my phone number. You pick up my grandson from school every day, and I cook for you every day. When you massage me while watching TV, you fall asleep. I get up early every day to dance with you, and people say we are like husband and wife. We all went to install false teeth. As soon as we took it off, we laughed at each other. You're still a little hard of hearing. I invited you to dinner and you gave me an egg.

The happiness that women really want 3 Where does the happiness of women mainly come from?

Happy women have the ability to manage their emotions.

When Nu Wa made a man, she gave a woman a soft figure, rich emotions and perceptual thinking. It can be said that women are naturally more emotional than men.

For example, Yuqi Zhang, an actress who frequently boarded hot searches last year, had photos of her and her ex-boyfriend Wang Xiaofei slapping each other and kicking Wang Quanan's car door.

Through those violent photos, we seem to see that whenever she has emotions in her life, she will burst out without restraint and tolerance.

Of course, for an honest official, housework is difficult to judge. What happened between Yuqi Zhang and two men, the ins and outs of things, right or wrong, others don't know, and it's even more difficult to judge.

However, there is an irrefutable truth: emotions are inherent in everyone, and there is no right or wrong, but the actions and consequences caused by emotions are positive and negative.

In this world, the ups and downs of life are inevitable. Those truly happy women are not without negative emotions such as anger, anxiety and sadness. What is really amazing is that they can extricate themselves from complicated emotions and live a sunny life every day.

This powerful skill is the ability to manage emotions.

Jiang Yang, praised by Qian Zhongshu as "the most talented woman and the most virtuous wife", has this ability.

When she was 55 years old, the husband and wife were criticized as "ghosts". When the rebels cut her hair into a head of yin and yang, she put on a homemade wig and went out smiling every day.

At the age of 60, she was assigned to the May 7th Cadre School in Henan Province to grow vegetables, but she was still full of energy every day. She spends her time looking after the vegetable garden, sitting on a pony, using her knees as a writing desk, reading or writing. Others recalled that she couldn't see her melancholy or sadness because she was smiling all the time.

You see, despite his advanced age and awkward situation, Jiang Yang still smiled and calmly dealt with it, turning sadness, anger, fear and frustration into invisibility. This realm and accomplishment helped her through the dark period of her life.

Therefore, people who can control their emotions can often make their lives better.

Happy women have independent ability.

What is the best state of marriage?

Some people say that we should regard marriage as unmarried, not as an accessory of the other half, turn our expectations of each other into our own expectations, and pass on the idea of changing each other to changing ourselves. True female independence should be a kind of self-help, a kind of self-awakening and change.

To put it simply, an independent woman should not only have the ability of independent thinking, but also have a full spiritual world, and she can be independent of others economically.

Let's talk about the independence of spirit and thought first.

Teacher Liu Hong, a psychological counselor, said: "If a woman wants to be the master of her own destiny and live the life she wants, she must cultivate her independent thinking ability. As a woman, you should have the ability to think independently, which is the guarantee of your happy life. "

Zhao Zaixing, an artist who has recently become a new media partner and is about to start a new chapter in his career, said in his speech: "I don't want everyone to see that the female characters in TV dramas are always bound by small feelings and love, always fighting for men and always attached to men. I hope they can have richer ideas and actively pursue their own beliefs. "

There is no doubt that the "richer thoughts" here are the combination of independent thinking ability and rich spiritual world.

So we can see that this girl from the countryside has worked hard all the way and achieved the present results.

Besides, economic independence.

There is a short story: a woman in her thirties ordered a preserved egg lean porridge in a porridge shop. When the porridge was served, she found that there was no meat, so she went to ask the boss. The boss smiled and said, "This meat has been cooked for a long time, and I can't see it."

Unexpectedly, however, the woman stubbornly believed that the boss didn't put the meat, and the two men quarreled fiercely. Later, the woman actually began to cry.

Others are confused. The woman wiped her tears and said, "That's not what I'm crying about. I'm sad that I'm in my thirties and I'm still haggling over a bowl of porridge. This is not the life I want at all. When can I live like this? "

This is a sad story. Everything starts with money.

How important is money to women? Hepburn said that women, if they can choose between money and sex appeal, choose money. Money will make you sexy when you are old.

Hepburn's words are thought-provoking: without economic independence, personality cannot be independent.

Happy women have the ability to face up to their desires.

In other words, women's desire is "ambition".

A pool of stagnant water, no waves, no vitality, no flow, comparable to stagnant water, really boring. This principle also applies to women.

Only by keeping our ambition for a better life at all times can our life have room and motivation for growth.

Therefore, "ambition", a seemingly derogatory term, is an enterprising and positive spirit to some extent. Even if it is not persistent or dependent, it is also the responsibility of creating a world by itself.

Last year, Gao Huilan in the TV series Fog never concealed her ambition. The phrase "women don't exist to please men" even speaks for many female friends. From an unknown reporter to a popular female anchor, she lived happily and freely, making all the women around her "jealous".

Chen Ke in the TV series "Picture Book of Women in Jinghua" resolutely abandoned the "boring life of love at first sight" and became a drifter in the north, making no secret of her yearning for the upper class and her desire for promotion and salary increase.

An ambitious woman clearly knows what she needs and what efforts she should make to realize her own value. This self-confidence makes them invincible and indomitable.

Wong Kar-wai once commented on Zhang Ziyi, "I have high self-demand, always know what I want and try my best."

Xin, who shouted "I just want to be red", has shown her ambition in public more than once. She doesn't care how netizens interpret it, but she knows that only if she is red enough can she get a better role.

You see, these women have lived for most of their lives. Do you still think women should not have desires?

I once read a post saying that girls drifting in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen have always been proud of their desires. They want a lot:

Want to own a single apartment,

I want to earn 200 thousand a year within two years of working,

I want to buy my own car before I get married.

Want to have a room full of shoes, bags and hundreds of lipsticks.

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No one can deny these pursuits, and no one has the right to stop them, because in the process of pursuing "ambition" and "desire", the biggest enemy is always yourself.

A happy woman can control her life.

Born as a woman, pockmarked face, fat waist and short legs will undoubtedly make us feel ashamed, but what is more terrible than these is shallow knowledge, insufficient ability, narrow pattern and limited vision.

The former can be adjusted and compensated by exercise, study and cultivation, while the latter, if stubbornly stuck in our bones and blood, will lead us to live an unfortunate and unbearable life for a long time.

And that kind of life, is that what you want?

Some people say that time is an accurate calculator, which accurately records your efforts, measures your foundation and strength, and calculates your weight and value.

Yes, woman, when we love, learn, improve, cultivate and forge, we will have strong emotional management ability and self-satisfied independence ability, and then we can control our desires and have a comfortable life.