See one's own jokes

Whenever people around you encounter difficulties, will there be a refreshing mood in your heart?

This kind of mood is exciting, comfortable and unparalleled.

It can keep you in a good mood for a long time, but it can't be shown on your face. A person steals music, and after the music is over, his spirit is empty, and he scolds himself, a villain and a hypocrite. How can others be friends with you like this? The more you scold, the more you doubt life, the more you scold, the more you feel useless, and finally you scold yourself until you cry …

This kind of emotion is called schadenfreude, which is toxic and makes people get great psychological satisfaction from other people's bad luck. Everyone has this kind of psychology, but we must objectively realize that it is harmful to ourselves and has no benefit.

Some people say: I'm just watching other people's jokes, not hitting people when they're down. What happened?

Or: it's not my fault that he is unlucky. What's my fault?

But have you ever considered what kind of influence this psychology of being happy when others are in trouble and excited when others are in trouble will have on yourself?

Bad luck of others At present, if you don't put yourself in others' shoes, treat others with empathy and compassion, then this emotion will eventually take root in yourself and you will be doomed.

This is not an alarmist, but a real causal cycle.

Especially if this person is your friend, colleague or relative, it is somewhat contradictory for you. Or this person is better than you, and this feeling is even stronger.

You are happy that others have suffered financially and lost money in business.

Everyone around me is divorced, which is very miserable. You are happy to wander around.

The people around you are seriously ill, and the family is ruined, but you are secretly laughing.

You also have today! Karma! ''

Serve you right! Who told you to have the wind and rain? ''

Do you have money with you? Bad luck, isn't it? Haha''

This vicious truth, like a ferocious poison tongue, tightly wraps around your heart and makes your humble experience get some balance.

It is not easy for everyone to live in the world. It is common to encounter bumps and difficulties, and losing face is inevitable.

Most people try their best to get enough food and clothes. Life gives us not a warm smile, but a vicious face.

On this difficult road, if we can be more tolerant, more sympathetic, give deep sympathy to those who suffer, and be more gentle and tolerant in our hearts, it will be a win-win situation and a wise move.