How to guide a grumpy child (what if the child is grumpy)

In the process of children's growth, there are always several stages of bad temper. These four good methods can help you guide and change your children.

First, be patient, and use loving smiles and hugs to calm down the grumpy mood; Second, think and speak from the child's point of view, don't impose your wishes on the child, and respect the child's ideas; Third, do your homework at ordinary times, learn more about your child's needs and ideas, know yourself and know yourself, and win every battle; Fourth, look at yourself, set an example, match words with deeds, words and deeds are better than example.

The child has a bad temper.

Be patient and use loving smiles and hugs to calm your grumpy mood. When a child has a bad temper, as a parent, you can't break into a furious rage or even beat and scold the child. In that case, it will only deepen your hatred and make you run counter to each other. The distance between you is getting farther and farther, and you can't pull it back if you want to.

At this time, the best way is to combine hard and soft. Patience, a loving smile and hug can calm a lot of irritability.

A loving smile and hug.

First of all, be patient.

Don't worry about your hard-earned food when the children don't eat a bite of your carefully prepared food. Why, smile and ask the child if he is uncomfortable and doesn't want to eat? When a child is worried about a problem while doing his homework, don't worry about saying it so simply, where is his brain, and so on. Instead, I smiled and said that this must be a very difficult question, and God is testing you. Wait a minute.

In doing so, you actually agree that the child's discomfort has led to a bad mood. On the premise of the initial heart, your smile and your concern will go straight to the child's heart and cause ripples.

Secondly, give the child a loving smile and hug.

Remember when the child was a child? When the child cries, we will pick him up, pat him and comfort him with a smile, and he will soon calm down. In fact, a child losing his temper is another way of crying inside, which is caused by unsatisfied needs or insufficient attention.

Therefore, when children are grumpy, we can give them a patient smile and ask softly, what's the matter? Then open your arms and give your child a loving hug, which may calm your child's temper. Especially in a family, if the mother and children are angry, the father can do so, and vice versa.

These people who care about actions are much stronger than words.

A loving hug

Think and speak from the child's point of view, don't impose your wishes on the child, and respect the child's ideas. Once, a child and his mother went to the market, which was crowded and noisy. After coming back, the mother asked the children to draw a picture of shopping today and let them draw beautiful clothing stores, shoe stores and so on.

After the child was drawn, the mother was shocked: in a world full of adult legs, the child is helpless and sad! Obviously, from the child's point of view, I only saw countless legs shaking in front of me and nothing else.

Don't rush to express your opinion when you don't understand your child's needs and ideas. Don't rush to teach when you don't understand your child's feelings. You should first think from the child's point of view and respect the child's thoughts, not analyze from your point of view.

When you respect your child's ideas from the child's point of view, you will find it much easier to communicate because it is easy to have an affair with your child.

From the perspective of children, communication is much easier.

When the child is grumpy and angry, even if you are very capable and authoritative, as an adult, you can't talk to the child from your own point of view, let alone order the child to impose your wishes on the child. Such condescension will make the child fall into a kind of uneasiness, which will make his heart more agitated and more unconvinced.

Some children have a bad temper for a reason. In the process of growing up, children gradually form a certain sense of self, and it is easy to make one-sided and self-righteous judgments. When these judgments conflict with the correct judgments around them, it is easy to be grumpy. Look at the problem from the child's point of view, and you can find the problem.

Children's judgments contradict the world around them.

When the child wants a knife, don't come up and say, what do you want a knife for? This knife is too dangerous! You should ask from the child's point of view, what are you going to do? Children will naturally tell the reason, such as I want to peel an apple for you. Is it touching? You just have to smile and tell the child that you are still young, can dad cut it? Children naturally understand what you mean.

When children want to play games but can't, and have a bad temper and do nothing, don't reprimand them as soon as they come up. Put yourself in the child's shoes. Don't play games, my heart is a knot in one's heart. I don't want to do anything until I get rid of this pimple. You can say to the child with a smile, let's set an alarm clock and play for twenty minutes, ok? The child will be very happy. As for getting rid of the habit of playing games, we need to guide them slowly.

There is a joke that a child scratched someone else's car. When the mother found out, she was very angry and slapped the child several times. When she saw the car saying "I love you, Mom", she couldn't help crying. Therefore, to think and speak from the child's point of view, we must first ask the child why he is rowing. Do you still lose your temper when your child tells you the answer?

Think from the child's point of view

Do more homework at ordinary times, know more about children's needs and ideas, know yourself and know yourself, and fight every battle. When your child has a bad temper, it's actually a little late.

The key is to do your homework in peacetime, communicate with your child more, and deeply understand your child's needs and ideas, even if your child has a bad temper. When a child has a certain behavior, he can point out his thoughts in one sentence, so that he can prescribe the right medicine and solve it more effectively.

Usually communicate with children more.

I remembered another joke. The father of the child is usually busy at work, and it is the mother's business to pick up and drop off the child. On one occasion, the child's father just came back from work, and after school, he volunteered to pick up the child. Dad went to the gate of the children's primary school and waited left and right, but the children didn't come out. It was very strange. When all the children left, he quickly called his mother and said that the children were gone and no one answered. The mother over there said with a smile, the children are all back!

Dad didn't know until he got home that the child was in the first grade, but he was in primary school!

When the child comes home and pouts with his mother, her mother will know that she is at odds with her deskmate.

Look at yourself, lead by example, match words with deeds, and examples speak louder than words. A pair of parents stopped looking at their mobile phones after 3: 30 in the afternoon. Why? Because children leave school after 3: 30, they never watch mobile phones, TV or play games in front of them. In front of children, they either read books, practice writing, or do housework and do something meaningful. It is under the influence of such a pair of parents that their two children concentrate on their studies and study hard. One of them was admitted to Tsinghua and the other was admitted to Peking University.

How did we all do it? Most of the time, I am either watching my mobile phone or watching TV. When most children are grumpy, we are even more grumpy than children, and even hit children. Our bad temper will naturally be passed on to children.

Do we need to examine ourselves? Parents are children's first and most important teachers, and children can easily learn from their parents, which has a great influence on children.

Children imitate their parents.

When we were young, the most common way to educate children was to cheat. The child is still young, so it doesn't matter to cheat him occasionally. This idea is unacceptable. If you cheat a child once, the child will remember, and in the future, the child will cheat you. When the child has a bad temper, will he still believe what you say? Will I still tell you the truth?

Therefore, it is necessary to match words with deeds. You didn't lie to the child, but you just wanted him to know that after a long time, the child will naturally trust you, and you have established a good prestige in front of the child. This kind of authority will be very useful in guiding children to be grumpy. He may not listen to anyone except you.

Children are the shadows of their parents. Many habits and practices are not inherited, but are imperceptible in getting along with each other all day and will be transformed into a part of their own personality. Therefore, parents should be themselves, set an example, match words with deeds, and words and deeds speak louder than words. From normal times, a child's grumpy personality will easily disappear naturally.

Parents have a subtle influence on their children.

Conclusion In the process of children's growth, there are always several stages of bad temper. These four methods can help you guide and change your children.

First, be patient, and use loving smiles and hugs to calm down the grumpy mood; Second, think and speak from the child's point of view, don't impose your wishes on the child, and respect the child's ideas; Third, do your homework at ordinary times, learn more about your child's needs and ideas, know yourself and know yourself, and win every battle; Fourth, look at yourself, set an example, match words with deeds, words and deeds are better than example.

The first two methods are temporary, the latter two methods are in peacetime, and the key lies in peacetime. The fourth method is the most important. After doing this, the child may not be grumpy.

(Full text finished, finished in the evening of 202009 14)