Please don't ignore these distress warnings when children are excluded!

There are always some children who like to pinch others, take pleasure in entertaining their classmates, ridicule their classmates in public and make the whole class burst into laughter. They think this is conspicuous and base their happiness and achievements on the suffering of others. Those who are more capable dare not touch them, and will only bully children with poor grades or weak interpersonal relationships.

In the face of such people, the classmates in the class will have several ways to deal with them. One is that I don't want to choke on him, so I want to join him and bully people with him. It's been fun for a long time The other is being bullied once in a while, and it will pass with patience. You will burst into laughter when you see them choking. There is also a kind of unbearable, so we have to keep our distance, thinking that we will not be bullied if we don't associate; The last one is the main target of their attack. They can't get rid of being bullied and choke to death in everything they do. They can't resist the ridicule of everyone, but they can only cry and endure silently.

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This kind of behavior, if not stopped in time, is still expanding. People who don't join feel funny and funny. It's a joke for others to make a fool of themselves. It's natural to see your classmates being pinched and laughed at. The atmosphere of the whole class is dominated by those choking classmates.

Laughter, imitation, language attack and rejection are all bullying.

They don't think they are wrong. I'm just kidding. On the contrary, angry people are wrong. As soon as leaders ferment, people who are choked by them will become targets of public criticism, so few people dare to resist. Children who don't associate with leading classmates, as long as the leading classmates don't like it, will not be choked, but will gradually be isolated and lonely.

Tutoring is really important, especially for children who live on campus. Parents really don't know what their children are like at school. Tutoring is the only adult who can save children. When the tutor has no function, they will only curse and oppose the child when he enters the classroom, so bullying and crowding out will expand infinitely.

No child is bad to the end, but no one teaches them well and tells them that such behavior is wrong.

If I were in class, I would deal with it at first. As long as I heard it once, I would stop such behavior in various ways. There is no failure, and no child can't teach. If I humiliate someone in public, I will definitely ask him to apologize in public. It is really influential to bully people so boldly. If I don't stop in public, my classmates will follow suit. Such students have no self-confidence and hope to be noticed by others because of their jokes. We can give him other sense of accomplishment so that he doesn't need to suffocate.

It's not bad to follow your children. In fact, they just don't know the right and wrong, and they just follow blindly. Knowing that the teacher is paying attention, they will begin to converge; Help the excluded students find friends. Those neutral and kind children are actually very easy to get along with. They are often asked to help with things together, and soon the children will play together. How important is class management? It is the most basic job of the tutor to make the children in a class live in harmony.

Unfortunately, it's not so lucky. Many people think that high school students should handle interpersonal relationships by themselves. I thought I went to school to remind my bullying classmate that he would restrain himself. We all thought that asking a tutor to help us solve some problems and asking a psychologist to intervene could not get in. We constantly build confidence for our children, but we don't have a useful tutor to help us. The abuse of the tutor, the learning environment and the atmosphere of the whole class cannot be concealed by the coach's love and the sense of accomplishment we get from badminton.

Don't just see the child's explosive behavior. Everything happens as a warning, and there are reasons behind it.

On Monday, I heard that he was assigned to the dormitory, leaving him alone. Everyone else was assigned to the happy group, leaving him alone in the huge dormitory. When he left me a message saying, "It's nice to live alone in the dormitory! ! I don't have to fight until the wee hours. How nice that I have my own room! ! The feeling of being abandoned, isolated and rejected is so painful! I couldn't sleep all night when he told me that he wanted to go home. The next day, as soon as my graduation ceremony ended, I couldn't stop. I'll take him out, find a school, say goodbye to the coach and move out of the dormitory.

Everything has its own unique meaning. Thanks to the dormitory incident, I made a decisive decision.

I am really lucky. It is the younger brother who choked to death, and the lonely but lonely brother. I never think it is wrong to educate children to be kind. I'm proud that they won't go with the flow. There is no road in vain, and there is no pain in vain. All this is inevitable. I'm going with them.

During the week when the engineer was on a business trip, I was glad that I had the ability to solve things, and I was glad that I always had a way to figure it out when needed. The engineer had a long private chat with me in the middle of the night. Fortunately, he has always supported the child's decision, respected my handling method and let me relax, so that I can have a good rest. Don't think I am too domineering, because I have to make a decisive decision to solve the child's predicament.

I received several messages inviting us to turn around yesterday. My child has finished playing badminton and won't join any team. If he still wants to play in college, I will encourage him, but now, he and I just want to have a good rest.

Verbally clamoring for anti-bullying, it is better to give children active and serious tutoring, strengthen class management, and let teachers pay attention to children's interaction to prevent delaying the opportunity, instead of waiting for things to get out of control, and then talk about who is right and who is wrong. Is it too late?

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