How to deal with "male chauvinism"

Men like to brag, which is a common problem. No matter how honest a man is, he always wants to show his male chauvinism in front of relatives and friends. They often show that they don't care about love and marriage at all, and women seem to be a dispensable foil around them. But for women, these words are harsh and difficult to refute in person. After all, in front of relatives and friends, you should give men face. However, when watching husbands or boyfriends become more and more domineering, we always have to find appropriate ways to remind them that women are not their tools to express themselves. Even if you just pretend to be in front of outsiders, you should know how to converge and respect. Case 1: Find a confident person by scolding his wife-Fan Li and Zhao Qi have been married for five years. Zhao Qi, a clerk in a company, is easygoing and obedient to Fan Li. Everyone likes to listen to Fan Li's arrangement of big and small matters at home. However, Fan Li found that as long as Zhao Qi's friends were present, his temperament would change greatly. Not only do I like to brag in front of my friends, but I also like to satirize myself at home to show my strength. That weekend, students from Zhao Qi University got together at home. Fan Li is busy setting a table of dining tables for everyone. At the dinner table, classmate Xiao Jia said, "Lao Qi, you have been married for so many years, why don't you have a baby?" This is Zhao Qi's weakness, because he just went to the hospital last year and had a physical problem. But that day, Zhao Qi casually said, "I can't help it. Who let his wife's stomach live up to expectations? A few young people are' cheating'. " Hearing this, Fan Li was really angry. But because of her husband's face, she can't poke. Fan Li left under the guise of hot food. However, the kitchen door was not closed, so I vaguely heard Zhao Qi tell his friends how bad he was and how to worry him. Everything at home is up to him. Who knows Xiao Jia still said, "Are you really not going to have children?" After Zhao Qi smiled, he deliberately lowered his voice and said punfully, "How can it be? Son, I always have a way to have my own. This won't work, there are others. " A table full of people seems to be smiling knowingly. After so many years of getting along, Fan Li understands Zhao Qi's character. From the beginning of love, he likes to brag in front of his friends. Bragging, bragging and other things. Now it has even developed to the point where it is said to find someone else to have children. Fan Li couldn't bear to go into the living room and said, "Zhao Qi, let's get a divorce!" Zhao Qi waited quietly for a while and stood up, wondering what had happened. Fan Li said angrily, "Go and find someone who can give birth and see if you can." Zhao Qi blushed at once and stammered, "What are you talking about? Go back to the house! " Once things are torn, it is difficult to recover, and the pain that Fan Li has been holding in his heart for so long has already come out. She stood in the room and said loudly, "Why do you let me go back to my room and listen to you?" Don't pretend to be an adult here, I don't want to listen and I won't serve! "Fan Li tore off her apron, dropped her spatula and left home angrily. Zhao Qi stayed with a room full of friends and looked at each other. That night, Fan Li returned to her family. I feel a little sorry to sleep alone in a single bed. After all, Zhao Qi likes to pretend to be a big shot in front of his friends, but he is still very kind to himself in life. Much better than those men who are gentle on the surface and cheat behind their backs. However, Zhao Qi didn't make a phone call at midnight. Fan Li was fidgety lying in bed, unable to sleep. Psychoanalysis: It can be said that a person like Zhao Qi is often a humble little person in his usual work. There are not many places to express yourself. Then it is often the usual way of such men to show their "big man" image by belittling their wives. Of course, this can't be said to be his intentional behavior. It is their lack of confidence among relatives and friends. He is afraid that others will look down on him, so he subconsciously uses his "strength" to his wife to make up for his mediocrity and deficiency in other aspects. Tips: In fact, knowing the psychological characteristics of this kind of men can be a good remedy. In front of relatives and friends, praise your husband more. Is a more appropriate method. Let him find equal self-confidence without "scolding his wife". Of course, we should also pay attention to the method when praising, otherwise it will be counterproductive. For such a husband, even if he does all the housework, don't praise him for his hard work at home in front of others. You should praise him for his seriousness and Excellence in his work. If he doesn't work well recently, you can also praise his character. You can say that it is precisely because of his integrity that he refused to go with the flow that he was excluded and not reused. In particular, this method must be used before men "start swearing". Let him feel the aura of confidence first. Moreover, when you portray your husband as a classic image that values affection and righteousness and understands love, he may not be able to say those swearing words that do not conform to this image. Case 2: demeaning his girlfriend and showing all-round features-Qi Mei Qi Mei and Lu Bing have been in love for more than two years, and it's time to talk about marriage. Lu Bing has made small achievements in her career. He works as a middle-level leader in a famous foreign company. At the age of 28, he had many things that men dreamed of. He has always been good at aligning Mei, and he is modest in everything. Although he is one year older than Mei Qi, when Qi Mei gets along with him, he always feels that he is much more mature, and can tolerate and tolerate many of her petty temper and willfulness. However, Lu Bing also has some dissatisfaction with Qi Mei, that is, he likes to find fault in front of Qi Mei's family and friends, saying it is not good for her. It seems that he is omnipotent and tolerant, including Qi Mei. He is full of shortcomings. Sometimes it is obvious that this is not the case, but he just said the opposite, making Qi Mei embarrassed and angry. But think about it, Qi Mei. At ordinary times, Liu Bing does tolerate many of his shortcomings, so just bear it. But later, she slowly found that Lu Bing was getting worse and began to talk nonsense. Lu Bing accompanied Qi Mei home that day. He sat on the sofa in the living room and chatted with Qi Mei's father. Lu Bing said, "Uncle Qi, you don't know that your daughter is becoming more and more spoiled. On the day of our company meeting, she made several phone calls in succession. As soon as my secretary saw me, she said something had happened to your girlfriend-she didn't know what to order at the restaurant. Because of this, I became a big joke of the company. " Hearing this, the father chimed in and said, "Xiaomei, you are too ignorant!" "I wonder if the soldiers are busy?" In fact, Xiaomei made two phone calls that day. Because I had planned to have dinner together before, but Lu Bing had a temporary meeting and was delayed. Xiaomei made a phone call to ask about the situation, and it took two hours to call the second one. Before the meeting was over, Xiaomei casually asked the secretary. During the break, she asked Lu Bing what she wanted to eat at night. Such a trivial matter was exaggerated by Lu Bing, which made Xiaomei feel very uncomfortable. But together for two years, Lu Bing has always been this temper. She doesn't care much. But that day, Lu Bing continued to add fuel to the fire and said, "Alas, this is me, and I can stand her. Without me, see who dares to marry her. " "You don't go too far! I can't get married without you? I haven't promised to marry you. " Jimei finally couldn't help but return to him. However, Lu Bing is used to "arrogance" at ordinary times and doesn't take it seriously at all. He pointed to Qi Mei and said to his father, "Look, you still call me too much! I've always been accommodating to her. Just a few unpleasant words. He did this to me? " Qi Mei also fire, "are you accommodating me? Please, can you be reasonable? " Stay in the mall for a long time, Lu Bing naturally know how to sense motive. Seeing that Mei Qi really lost her temper, she quickly took her and said, "Forget it, let's go in and talk about it. Don't embarrass my uncle." On entering the room, Lu Bing changed his face. He smiled lazily and said, "What's wrong today? Just kidding, make such a big fire? " "Is this a joke? Do you want to raise yourself and don't step on me? " Qi Mei said very grievance, "I haven't married you yet. You bully me like this. Don't you know what to say about me when I become a yellow-faced woman? " Hearing this, Lu Bing said with a smile, "You promised to marry me. I didn't force you. " Qi Mei used to hear such a sentence, and she was sure to be amused. But that day, Qi Mei sat on the bed and couldn't smile. Because she really imagined the future for the first time. Living with such a man who scolds himself every day. She doesn't know what will happen. She doesn't want to go back to her parents' home and face endless accusations. Psychoanalysis: For a man like Lu Bing, the pressure of work often makes him breathless. The complicated social interaction made him have to face the interpersonal relationship around him carefully. They like to criticize their closest girlfriend or wife in front of people, especially in the woman's house, because they subconsciously think that only their girlfriend or wife will not expose his big talk. And doing so will make others think that he is a new good man who has to face high work pressure and knows how to take care of his feelings. Tips: A little injury to face is better than a big injury to love. In fact, the intensification of the road soldiers is precisely because of Qi Mei's initial accommodation. Of course, if you don't give in, it doesn't mean you have to get angry to your face. After all, save face for the man you like. Just be sure to express your dissatisfaction in time afterwards. You can choose to be spoiled and say, "You can't say that about me in the future. If I do this again, I will be really angry. " Or solemnly say, "You should apologize for what you said today. You can't talk nonsense like this next time. " You should know how to express your dissatisfaction, instead of losing your temper in private and telling him your anger. Don't let him take sarcasm as a natural habit.