Can you accept Sa Beining's "foreign daughter-in-law" to raise children and let twins chew slippers?

Everyone has an independent mind. When two people live together, there will be all kinds of disputes, including cultural differences, including how to raise children.

Sa Beining and his wife, Li Bai, also encountered such problems when they were taking care of their children. As we all know, Sa Beining is a respected host, but he has a foreign wife who is Canadian.

Two people have different nationalities and different cultural influences, so the concept of parenting is naturally different. So, how different is the concept of parenting between China and foreign countries? Just look at Sa Beining and his wife.

When two people got married, it was quite sensational. Countless people send blessings, and their married life is relatively happy. Sa Beining talked about his family in the program, and his words were very sweet.

Two people also gave birth to twins, which is a great happy event. In the eyes of others, they are like "model couples".

However, when two people love each other again and encounter problems with their children, there will also be contradictions. Even the most talented people can't escape quarreling over trifles in life.

Earlier, Sa Beining revealed in the program that he and his wife often clashed because of disagreement. Because the wife is a foreigner, it has always been a free-range parenting method.

However, he disagreed with his wife's parenting behavior and gave an example. He said that once he came home and saw two children eating slippers, his wife ignored him.

He stopped when he saw it and asked his wife why she didn't stop. His wife said something that impressed him deeply. She said, "These are slippers at home."

The implication is that this is something at home, not dirty. If a child chews it, it will be chewed. No big problem.

Sa Beining described it with a high voice and wide eyes. I could see that he was very surprised at his wife's statement, which was probably beyond his understanding and made people feel ironic.

I also spoke to other hosts: "Can I eat slippers at home?"

It can be seen that their concept of parenting is very different. Wives tend to let their children grow wildly, while Sa Beining is meticulous, so it is difficult to accept his wife's ideas.

So the wife doesn't like her husband and cares too much about the details of the children, while the husband doesn't like his wife and pays too little attention to the details. It seems that every family has a difficult experience!

However, despite their quarrel, the relationship between the two people is still very good, which is also because of cultural differences.

Because English is an inverted sentence, Li Bai used to say "I killed you" when he spoke Chinese, but he accidentally said "I killed you".

Therefore, in the process of quarreling, you can also make a big joke, and this plane will naturally not quarrel. In addition, the two are also good at coordinating relations and solving contradictions, so the problem is not big.

In fact, the conflict of parenting concepts will exist in any pair of families regardless of nationality. Perhaps it is the conflict of husband and wife's ideas, perhaps the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law agree, but frequent quarrels are actually very bad for children's growth.

So, how to deal with the conflict of parenting concepts?

Don't argue in front of the children

Everyone has his own personality, and it is normal to have different ideas. As a member of the family, we should understand that others have different ideas, but quarreling is always bad, especially in front of children.

So don't quarrel in front of the children, avoid leaving a bad impression on the children, and solve anything privately.

Start with improving the relationship.

In fact, many people understand that the worse the relationship, the more likely it is to produce contradictions, and the more they want to refute each other's views. Therefore, in family relationships, dealing with relationships is the first, followed by how to take care of children.

Take the relationship between husband and wife as an example. If the relationship is not good, the final quarrel is not right or wrong, but trying to make the other party agree with their own views. If the husband and wife have a good relationship, they can communicate more calmly and understand each other.

Therefore, how to deal with the relationship is the most important step to avoid the conflict of parenting concepts. If husband and wife have a good relationship, children's educational contradictions can actually be solved through consultation and mutual understanding.

If you have a bad relationship and are always led by emotions, you can't handle conflicts well.