The biggest joke I heard was: efforts will surely succeed.

Karoshi, sudden death from overtime, online loan, naked loan, graduate student suicide ...

All kinds of news emerge one after another.

Why is this happening?

Why is human life so fragile? Why give your life for a job? Why sacrifice your dignity for some unnecessary conspicuous consumption?

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Some people say comparison, some say greed, some say stupidity, and some say desire.

In fact, none of them talked about the essence. Comparison, greed, stupidity and desire are universal human weaknesses, which have been the case since ancient times. Why is it getting worse now?

Because no society has ever lured and amplified the weakness of human nature like today's commercial society; There has never been a society that has dug us two huge holes without friends like the contemporary commercial society. Let's jump up:

The first pit is inspirational.

The previous inspirational likes to go from low to high-one person is poor and the starting point is low. Through continuous efforts, he finally changed his destiny.

Typical cases include "I struggled 18 years to have coffee with you", and the poor boy became a CEO and married to the peak of his life. ...

Perhaps this kind of inspiration is too much, and readers are tired of aesthetics, so they start from high to low-all kinds of connections, horizons, resources and money that describe the rich second generation are stronger than us, and then work harder than us!

In this case, everyone's anxiety grows exponentially, which is 10 times worse than the second generation, not to mention that their children are 100 times worse than the third generation! As a parent, don't you dare to work hard

The second pit is consumption.

"Women who spend money have a future", "If they don't spend money, they will become poorer and poorer", "Don't be such a poor person" and "Young girls don't have to be so miserable" ...

Complement each other.

Encourage people to work hard, pay hard, climb hard and have spending power; The growth of consumption power is further encouraging.

People fall into a strange circle of high pay-high income-high consumption-need high income-and have to pay high, or even a vicious circle.

You can't stop if you want to. Because the whole social environment has been formed, you and the people around you are used to it, just like a huge smog, wrapping you around. At this time, Mann has become a little girl wearing red dancing shoes in Andersen's fairy tales. The rider on the elephant lost control and ran all the way forward.

It is impossible to brake at this time, and the only outcome is out of control.

So, what's wrong with the pit built by the commercial society for us?

Careful analysis, its logical chain is like this:

1 inspirational, that is, one's efforts will inevitably bring success (high income).

High income can naturally enjoy high consumption.

2 belongs to the category of personal choice, and we only say 1. 1 is absolutely wrong.

Efforts have nothing to do with success.

Yes, chicken soup, WeChat official account and inspirational books will give you all kinds of examples to prove that your efforts will be successful.

I don't mention the hero's family background, education, natural qualifications and interest advantages at all. I just emphasize hard work and simplify the starting point to the end point as a straight line. As long as you work hard, everything will be fine.

Very naive.

"Deliberate practice" clearly defines the scope of application of the "10,000-hour law":

In other words, only by working hard in the fields of mathematics, ballet, chess, violin, piano, etc., can we gain success.

This restriction refers to: in the applicable field, the goal is correct, the direction is correct, and it conforms to the actual situation of the individual (mainly referring to natural interests). Stick to enough time. In order to succeed.

These five factors are indispensable.

Factor 1: The target is correct.

The so-called correct goal is that the goal you set must be consistent with your actual ability. If the difference between the two is too big, there is no guarantee of success.

Before Wang Jianlin said, "Set a small goal that can be achieved first, and earn 1 billion first" was passed down as a paragraph.

100000 is a small goal for him. For us ordinary people, we may never earn this money in our lifetime.

If you set your goal at 1 100 million, 99% will fail. If you decide to earn 10000 yuan first, the probability of success is naturally greater.

When we were young, our parents often asked, what do you want to be when you grow up?

Many children will say: be the president of the United States.

If this is your goal, you will never succeed-because you are a citizen of China.

Factor 2: The direction is correct.

This is easier to understand.

Take marriage as an example.

In order to find the right opposite sex, some people introduce blind dates through acquaintances such as relatives and friends, find lovers and step into marriage; Some people participate in various mountain climbing, reading activities, lectures and classes in the same city, thinking that the same hobby may become soul mates. And some people ran to the nightclub to find Gao Fushuai, believing that Cinderella would meet the prince at the dance sooner or later when she put on the crystal shoes; Someone searched nearby people on WeChat, believing in accidental fate.

It goes without saying that if we take growing old together as the yardstick of success, the success rate will be higher.

More cruelly, the harder you work on the wrong road, the more diligent you are, the farther you are from success, even worse than standing in the same place. And what a luxurious gift youth is, it means countless opportunities and possibilities. After the death of a beautiful woman, many women think: If this doesn't work, find an honest man to marry.

But at this time, honest people may ignore Quinn, who frequents nightclubs.

Factor 3: Natural interest

This is easier to understand. Wang Yongqing's daughter, Wang Xuehong, was initially admitted to the Music Department of the University of California, Berkeley. Later, I found myself lacking in talent. I racked my brains and couldn't figure out the rhythm and melody after staying up all night, but my classmates made fun of it and produced a beautiful song.

This contrast shocked and depressed her.

Then transfer to the economics department. Later, HTC was founded.

Cheng Jia, whose main business is scenic spot design consulting, founded the Beijing Kyoto Landscape Eco-tourism Planning and Design Institute in 2009 (I also submitted my resume when I graduated). But he really became famous after he discovered his real hobby-he likes to inspire others' potential through chatting, giving speeches and sharing in salons. This behavior makes him feel particularly valuable.

After discovering this, his life collapsed. After class, I published books, taught in Tsinghua MBA, Ninth College, Multi-angle Salon, China Hewlett-Packard, Accenture, China Life Group and other institutions, and conducted courses and shared personal time management and knowledge management.

He said in "Study hard-a guide to personal knowledge management":

In the sewing machine belt, there is a similar line:

Honestly, me too.

I have studied landscape design for 7 years, which is extremely painful.

Every time the teacher gives me big homework, I feel that I am seriously ill. I think I will die young sooner or later if this continues.

I finally changed careers after graduation.

Then after 30 years old, I finally found that my specialty and interest are words, whether it is Chinese or foreign languages. Accordingly, my weakest link is only graphics-spatial imagination and sense of scale. After discovering this, I began to write. It brought me great happiness.

Therefore, in my previous article, I repeatedly mentioned a point: if you don't work hard, it is probably not true love. Please continue to search hard, not force yourself.

Factor 4: Perseverance

Zhihu's famous saying: With the low efforts of most people, it is impossible to win talents.

This is another big pit.

If your path, direction and connection with yourself are wrong, then the harder you work, the higher the sinking cost.

A person's life and time are extremely limited. Sticking to the wrong goal will only exhaust your life and become an ordinary person who is not suitable for this industry. If you spend this time and energy in the right place, you are already a leader in the industry.

More importantly, if you do what you are good at and like, you will feel confident, positive, relaxed and in control, your life will be much happier and your life will be prolonged.

Buffett said: I am a very lucky person. If I had been born thousands of years earlier, I would have become an animal's lunch.

Zhu Yuanzhang was headstrong, suspicious and cruel. In order to clear the way for Zhu Biao, a massacre was carried out wantonly.

After being demoted, Liu Bowen had to write a peerless letter to the king of later generations, and no longer said a word to Zhu Yuanzhang, and finally died in poverty and loneliness.

Poor generation of prodigies, wise as Zhuge, have such a tragic ending! If you are lucky enough to be born in a kind world, your fate must be very different.

There are many desperate people in the entertainment circle, but the situation is very different. If it suits the audience's eyes, a casual play will be a fire. No amount of money will be welcome.

In the Year of the Tiger, Little Tiger reappeared in the Spring Festival Gala, and countless people lamented that Alec Su was in full swing as an actor. After the director was transferred, the film was also released, and the reputation was good; Nicky Wu twists and turns, miraculously re-red; Julian Chen has been tepid for several years.

It's not that he hasn't tried. From singing, acting, dancing in the forest and variety shows, he tried and tried hard, but he seemed to be cursed by fate and never got angry.

Some people speculate that this year's Spring Festival Gala is the best chance for Julian Chen to turn over. It's a pity that he still has no fire.

Who do you want to reason with?

So hard work has nothing to do with success. If you work hard, you need to succeed. This is an attempt to kidnap you. This is wrong.

1 Enjoy the process

Pay more attention to the process, not just the result. Have fun from the process.

When I first started writing, Big V told me that writing itself was a reward.

I didn't understand at first.

Later, I found that I would enter a state of flow when writing. This state is very interesting. Time seems to stand still, and I am the only one left between heaven and earth. I like to sleep soundly, ride a roller coaster, watch wonderful movies and eat salmon that has just been salvaged. I enjoy it. I feel a sense of accomplishment after writing it. If a golden sentence can appear, I will be happy for half a day.

Set a smaller goal.

There is a little girl named Ann in the world who likes writing very much. The words are quiet and clear, which is extremely comfortable to read. Lots of fans.

20 17 July, she said on the internet: I found a job! Salary 1 10,000! Ann just graduated this year!

Yes, writing N years brings a monthly salary of 1 0,000, which is a reasonable result.

Moreover, many people just wrote 1 year, and they want to realize it through words, which is unrealistic. Unless you are extremely talented or lucky, you are just a castle in the air.

The goal is too big, either you don't know yourself or you don't know the industry.

Slow down, it will be faster.

Be a little more indifferent.

A big V once said in class: Don't just think about realizing your own brand, money will follow. What words achieve is nothing more than the realization of influence.

I entered several writing groups and found that someone was actively trying to add powder and send their WeChat official account to each group. Please pay attention. This book is understandable.

However, after several months, there has been no progress in writing, thinking and thinking. Between the lines are eager for quick success and instant benefit, and I feel my chest blocked when I look at it. I can feel this emotion, so can other readers.

Because real explosive articles must have bright spots, continuous explosive articles are based on a person's profound insight, thinking and expression. It is impossible to make an article of 65438+ 100000+ through operation.

4 devote yourself wholeheartedly

When I was young, I read Zeng Guofan's book: only ask about cultivation, not about harvest.

I felt too lack of goal orientation, and later I realized that I didn't understand what he really meant.

When you put your heart and soul into one thing, it doesn't mean that you work harder. On the contrary, it shows that it fits well with your interests and qualifications, indicating that you can immerse yourself in it and have a good time. Persistence at this time can no longer be persistence, but enjoyment. When you can fully enjoy what you do every day, the chances of success will be very high.

Even if you can't succeed in the secular sense all your life, you are doing what you like every day and enjoying it every day. You are dedicated, happy, happy, diligent and rewarding every day. Isn't this the happiest life?

Don't forget that the ultimate goal of our life is happiness, not success!

And a happy life itself is the greatest success.

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