I changed dormitories three times in four years of college, and I became the target of public criticism?!

01

My friend Yangyang is the monitor of the nursing class of the Department of Medicine. She told me about Huang Lin, a strange girl in the class. She changed dormitories twice in college, and had quarrels with the people in both dormitories, so she had no choice but to move to a rented room off campus.

The whole class knew that Huang Lin did not get along well with her roommate in her first dormitory.

Huang Lin does not have any fatal problems, but one thing is that she is stingy and caressing about everything. Every time after collecting clothes, Huang Lin would count her clothes racks. If she couldn't count, she would criticize her in the dormitory and say some vague but particularly harsh words.

Over time, the relationship in the dormitory became very tense, and the other three people subconsciously kept a distance from Huang Lin. The rejection by her roommate made Huang Lin resentful. She wrote down all her dissatisfaction with her roommate, and then posted it to the class group with added insults.

As a result, the image of the other three people in the dormitory in the class plummeted, and the victims turned into the masterminds. The anger in the three people's hearts could not be resolved, so they completely broke with Huang Lin. Huang Lin knew she couldn't stay any longer, so she discussed changing dormitories with the counselor.

But who knew that Huang Lin would still not change her attitude after arriving at the second dormitory. She usually bought snacks and never gave them to her roommates, but when her roommates followed the law, she complained about their stinginess.

No one is willing to support a young lady for no reason and endure her bad temper. Huang Lin once again offended three girls in the class, which suddenly made her notorious. Even people in the class actively stayed away from her.

Slowly, Huang Lin became a loner.

02

Dabin has always told me that he is lucky to have two roommates. It was they who taught him how to live a wonderful life.

I couldn't help but wonder: "There are only three people living in your dormitory?"

"No, but the three of us all hate him. We treat him as invisible when he is in the dormitory." ".

The reason why Dabin's "third" roommate was rejected by the three boys was ultimately his own fault.

He is introverted and not good at talking, and he does not usually participate in social activities. The first impression of people around him will definitely be that he is an honest boy, reserved but stable.

However, in fact, this boy is not what everyone sees. He behaves one way on the surface and another behind the scenes, and he is very deep.

When he was a sophomore, Dabin played League of Legends with two other roommates until five in the morning, and asked his roommates to help him play the game the next day. But in the end, I was told by the teacher that the usual score for this major I studied was 0.

Dabin asked his roommate in confusion, and he replied in a lazy and nonchalant tone: "Oh, I forgot, I'm sorry."

After that incident, the relationship between the three people in the dormitory and the other person changed subtly, but everyone still maintained harmony on the surface. At least in the eyes of outsiders, they were not much different from the past.

However, something happened soon after that made Dabin completely "impressed" with this roommate.

Dabin received an anonymous report letter. Someone exposed that he spends money lavishly, often indulges in virtual games, and goes out with his roommates to surf the Internet all night long. Because of this letter, the scholarship and bursary that originally belonged to Dabin were canceled by the college, and the money ended up going into the pocket of the "third" roommate.

From then on, Dabin never said a word to him again.

03

Handling dormitory relationships has always been a difficult problem in college life. Some people are full of energy outside and are praised by others, but the relationship with their roommates is as bad as A mess. There are also some people who are usually inconspicuous, but can make a group of real friends in college and share happiness and worries.

There is a topic on Zhihu like this: "How terrible can the relationship between boys/girls dormitory be?". In the highly praised answers on that topic, no one complained or resented their roommates. How disgusting, they are grateful that they have met a group of loving people.

One of the answers is this.

The respondent is the only student from other provinces in their dormitory and the youngest in the dormitory. Her roommates take care of her like a younger sister.

Usually in the dormitory, if someone is taking a break, they speak softly, for fear of disturbing their roommates. Once, the respondent felt unwell and went back to the dormitory early to lie down. Under the quilt, she heard three other roommates tiptoeing in and saying:

She was feeling dizzy under the quilt. The confused "kid" was moved to tears by his three roommates. She suddenly felt that it was useless for her to always let others worry about her, and she felt how lucky she was to meet someone who truly cared about her.

I have heard the sounds of fierce quarrels and even fights in the girls' dormitory at two o'clock in the morning, and I have also heard the cheerful sounds of open-hearted chats in the dormitory.

Some people can feel warmth and love in a small family of four, but some people can only feel resentment and distress.

Carnegie said: Important signs of mature personality: tolerance, tolerance, and kindness. He ranked tolerance first. In real life, if we can be more tolerant and tolerant when facing conflicts, perhaps many problems will be solved.

04

I think that college roommates are not just a group of "bed buddies" randomly arranged by the school. They are some of the most important people in our college.

There are many people who find it difficult to make friends other than roommates throughout the four years of college, because the time and opportunities for us to slowly get in touch and get to know each other are not as abundant as in the past. So, if even our roommates are offended, maybe we will be alone in college.

Of course, I also have some friends who do not regard their college roommates as close friends, but only as casual acquaintances.

No matter which position you stand on, handling the relationship with your roommates will be a required course for you.

Only those who have a harmonious relationship with their roommates have enough energy to do what they want to do. Less worries and more focus.

It is not easy to meet, but do it and cherish it.