Will verbal violence impact children's hearts? Be careful and see how many "jokes" are crushing the child's heart.

Editor Xin's mother

A shadow that lingers like a nightmare for years.

Some time ago, the TV series "Everything is OK" was all over the Internet. The heroine in the play was born in an extremely patriarchal family. There are three children in the family, and she is the only girl. She should feel the warmth of her family, and she is often scolded loudly by her mother: "Su Mingyu, how can you be as good as your two brothers as a girl?" We are only responsible for raising you until you are eighteen. You will get married in the future, and we don't need you to raise you when you are old. "

The most unacceptable thing is that whenever the hostess and her mother have an argument, her mother always says "I'm guilty". When there is a dispute between mother and daughter, the father always hides on the grounds of reading newspapers and lets his daughter be reprimanded by his wife.

The mother in the play is actually a portrayal of real life in the family. In life, there are also many parents who loudly reprimand their children when they make mistakes. For example, "If you say you can't do this, you have to listen" and "If you see how I tidy up you, I will get into trouble one day", thinking that these words can make them realize their mistakes, but they don't know how much psychological shadow their reprimands will bring to their children.

Many people will find a high-sounding reason for language violence, "I'm just a knife mouth and a tofu heart", but this knife mouth may leave a deep wound in the child's heart, which is difficult to heal. Parents are always the people that children trust most. It is precisely because of this that many parents' verbal violence has unimaginable harm to their children.

Once abroad, there was a child who liked to play computer games. His father angrily loaded a pistol and told the child, "Don't live if you have the skill.". Just as his father turned around, the child grabbed the pistol and shot himself. When his father recovered, the child died forever.

1. Give children a chance to express themselves.

No child in the world is perfect. Don't scold the child when he makes a mistake. Give him a chance to explain. In a public service short film "Language Violence", the child broke the cup. Instead of blaming the child, the mother said softly, "It's all right, son. Mom will clean up. " The child said to his mother, "mom, I'm sorry, I want to pour you some water." Many times, giving a child a chance to explain can give him more opportunities to correct his mistakes.

When you are wrong about your child, you should comfort your child in time.

Some impatient parents often only see the surface of things and judge and reprimand their children without seeing some inner things. It is the child's fault that he thinks it is because of face after knowing that he has wronged the child. This is not right. You should dare to say sorry to your children.

3. Tell your children how you really feel

Giving children a clear expression of our inner thoughts and calmly telling them what he did wrong is also an important way to help them realize what they did wrong through the feelings of others.

4. When a child makes a mistake, put forward your expectations by asking.

When a child makes a mistake, you can tell the child that you are wrong. Please don't do such a thing again. When a child falls, it is better to tell him to get up next time than to tell him that he wants you to be brave.

The psychological shadow of language violence on children is profound and lasting. Language should be a tool for people to communicate with each other, not for parents to violence their children. Parents should think more about their children, not vent their emotions by loudly reprimanding them.